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hi everyone,
interesting thread, after reading your posts what are people's thoughts over recurrent miscarriage ? last year i had 3, one at 9 weeks and 2 at 5 weeks, i had a falling out with my family following the third (my mum was completely unsupportive and nasty and influenced the whole family so we no longer speak, it was the most difficult year of my life).
so i guess im left thinking why this has all happened, we are still trying as im thinking there is a baby out there for us as one seems to be trying to come through but now im wondering if the lesson was just bringing things to a head with my mother and there will be no more babies.......i would welcome any thoughts, i hope this makes sense
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I had an interesting discussion about this with my osteo yesterday. When she was pregnant with her 3rd child she was telling her older 2 about her pregnancy. She explained to them that she had been married once before and she had had a miscarriage while with her ex. Her eldest (who was 4 at the time) said "yeah, that was me". (So cute). We talked about the idea that our babies souls are with us waiting to be born, so if they don't join us this pregnancy, they'll just catch the next one, ITMS.
My osteo also mentioned about the soul being able move in and out and becomes anchored sometime in the second trimester. She had a dream around 5 months into pregnancy with her eldest of a bear running towards her. The bear collided with her and then was gone. After that she felt her baby's soul was anchored.
She also told me about a friend of hers who now has 7 kids. She fell pregnant when her 4th was only 4 months old and didn't feel she could cope with another baby so soon. She chose to end the pregnancy, but had a lot of discussion with her baby to explain how she felt and that he should stay close as he could join her when the timing was better. It helped her to feel at peace with her decision and he baby did become #5.
While I'm sharing others' experiences, I may as well add my own. I haven't told anyone this before and I don't think I understand it myself. My miscarriage was missed and was discovered at 10.5 weeks. At almost 9 weeks, as I was drifting off to sleep, but definitely before sleep as sleeping with m/s was difficult, I was visited by a woman (who I think of as Sophie/Sophia) who placed her hand on my stomach. I felt soothed and soon went off to sleep and didn't think another thing of it. I thought she was just relieving my m/s and anxiety. Until I started bleeding a week later. Now I wonder if she actually came to call my baby back.
Just thought I'd share.
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That gave me goose bumps Tuesday's child!
