Commemoration Ideas

Hi, I m/c at 8weeks, two weeks ago and i know for a while i'm still going to have "moments" or "days" when things just won't be right. I just wanted to share a keepsake that my husband and i have just bought. I bought a charm for my charm bracelet that is an angel on a round disc. Didn't think or realise how much it would affect my husband, he was very upset that i didn't tell him what i was thinking, insisting he would have bought it for me. We went together and bought a pendant (almost the same) in gold, and a long gold chain, so our angel can rest close to my heart.

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~~ Certificate of Life (from Teddy Love Club)

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I have looked on their website and cant find anything about this .... can anyone tell me where to get one please?

I miscarried our twins on 5th May and it was very important for me to have something for them. I searched the shops for a locket and wanted to have it engraved with the date and "B1 & B2" which is what we dubbed them after finding out about them. After a bit of a search I found a double compartment locket. It has two sides to it, the front can open up and the back can too and when the whole thing is opened there are two flat panels on the inside. Well on the front I had engraved "B1 & B2", the back is the date we lost them and on the inside panels I have an inscription that reads " Our two beautiful little angels", and each side of the locket has a butterfly charm in it, to symbolise the twins. The butterflies are because when I was in the ward after the d&c, I kept seeing two butterflies flying together in the trees just outside my window and it made me think of my twins. Whenever I think of them, I touch the locket and give it a rub, and it makes me feel better. I love that I found a special double locket for the twins as it was very important to me to have something that symbolised two angel babies. I also have kept my pregnancy tests, blood test sheet, referral for scans, just anything that involved the pregnancy. They were due on the 25th November and I want to organise a butterfly releasing ceremony for the day. So that's how I am moving forward. But it is hard everyday.

I bought myself a charm bracelet and three glass heart charms. Two large ones, one blue and one yellow, to represent me and DH, and a smaller green one to represent Beiron. The green heart is clipped on between the other two. Sadly, when we were up at DH's parents for Midsommar the blue one broke off somewhere. That was a little hard to take, because I was still very depressed and in a dark place at the time, and I felt like it was just too symbolic that I'd "lost myself". I had to leave the party when I discovered it because I was so upset. I went back to the jewelry store and got a new one, but they only had small blue hearts, so now I have a bracelet where DH's heart is bigger than the others... typical him! :lol:

When I'm sitting and thinking I often fiddle with the little hearts between my fingers, especially when I'm at my counselor's, I've noticed.

Tomorrow I'm going back to the jewelry store to pick up a new addition for our new bubs.

I have vacation without DH coming up in September, right before Beiron's EDD (the vacation had been booked in as a start to my maternity leave), and I will be spending it creating a new garden in our back yard. I think I will plant bulbs there on Beiron's EDD, and the flowers should pop up and bloom right when our new bubs is due.

i have a rose in the garden for each of our angel babies, a tattoo on my left shoulder blade for our first two angels, and a gold bracelet for our third. DH and I are planning on getting another tattoo for our other two angels at some point, just not sure when as we're continuing with fertility treatment and can't get a tattoo if pregnant

Hi girls.
I recently miscarried and a friend suggested a great way to keep the memory of the baby is to go to "Build a Bear" and build a bear in their name and to add a heart for each member in your family including one for your loss...i thought that was a lovely personal way especially if you have other younger children and that way it involves them and helps them heal also..

We have a few things for Jayvan as a commemoration, actually alot now I start thinking of them!
My mum bought me a locket and had his name and birthdate engraved on the back of it
My SIL gave me a little duck pendant as we always called him Duckling while he was in my belly
My mum bought me a teddy and had his name embroided on it
I had his name tattooed across my wrist with a dove I had done about 2 years prior. It's bittersweet really as they match together perfectly.
DF is getting a tattoo as well for him but is still trying to think of something
and, we also still have his ashes at home, and we had his tiny little footprints framed which hang above our bed :)
We also have a few special little teddies we were given for him for christmas..

Drama Queen-Don't know if you still visit this thread but just wanted to let you know 'Bears of hope' do a certificate called'Recognition of a precious life'.The links are on their site,i got one a couple of weeks ago,just beautiful.

Hi everyone.

I'm new to this forum and am already very grateful for the insight it has given me.

This thread sparked my attention as I've been thinking about ways to overcome the grief and loss I've been feeling.

My question is, do you think it's a healthy practice to commemorate our lost angels?

The idea for me is wonderful and something I feel I'd really like to do, but is it good for me to do this to myself? Won't it perpetuate this feeling of emptiness I feel?

My idea is that I want to get a certificate of life from TLC. Do you think this is a good idea? Or do you think it will be a reminder that will continue to upset me?

I hope this reply has been appropriate, as I said I am new to the forum. I totally understand anyones want to commemorate, I'm just hoping that for me it's the right choice. If anyone could explain how it has helped them move forward, I would really love that.

Thank you everyone and good luck and best wishes for the future :)

Last night I watched 60 Minutes as I wanted to see the story on Alisa Camplin's baby who passed away due to Congenital Heart Defects. She and her husband have set up a fund to raise money for more specialised equipment to help in the early diagnosis of CHD bubs. I thought it was a really special and significant way they (and others) could commemorate their beautiful little boy.

Hi im also new to the forum and have experienced a loss of a child the hospital gve me a little blue box coz i had a boy and had his foot and hand prints his imbilical cord thingy and a card with his dob etc now in the box is the outfit that i had picked out for him when i found out what he was also his xmas present which is a baby braclet with his name on it and his ashes sit in the little heart container also in the box.
Also have the nighty type thing he was put in after he passed away his bonnet and booties and the blanket he was wrapped in.

my partner and i are still yet to get our tattoos but atm i cant as i am pg again.
also have the only photo of us as a family in a photo frame and gave my mother one for her bday in a nice frame and my grandma.
Im still yet to get his birth certificate i have his death one but i dont want to put it in a frame..

Welcome to Bellybelly TylersMummy :hug:
I am very sorry that sweet little Tyler couldn't stay :( It is lovely that you have kept so much of his things from when he was born.

Congratulations on your pregnancy. Wishing you all the very best for a happy, healthy & uneventful pregnancy.

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One thing i did as a memorial to ~Noah~ was to sponsor a child. We lost our son, and i felt that i needed to give another child the chance to live.

I dont really know how to explain it, but it felt like something i needed to do.
:)
Lisa

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Since this post (which was written 2 months after losing Noah) I have done a few things. I donate money monthly to TLC in Noah's name and when I can remember I donate teddies. I buy an angel for Noah every Christmas, and for his birthday I buy either an angel or something Noah's Ark. DH & I also got matching tattoos which are ambigrams that say 'Noah' when we look at them and 'Angel' when read upside down. I got a small little star tattooed on my ankle for my first miscarriage. I am sure there are other things I have done but I can't think of them right now.

Welcome, TylersMummy.

And Lisa, I love your child sponsorship idea. What a beautiful way to remember Noah.

Lisa - thank you hoping for a no complication pregnancy

Mist- thank you

I also bought for his xmas just a little angel that sits in his box and we have like a little angel guidance coin that sits above our bed.

Not to sure what to do for his 1st angel day im thinking of realsing a blue balloon or something along the lines of that.

My mum is trying to persuade me to scatter his ashes but me and df are unsure as it wont give us any closure of loosing him as he will be just gone.. but his 1st angel day ill hopefully be about 28-29 weeks and if i think im ready im thinking we may scatter his ashes but very confused :( ah i wish there was just something that could help me.

Df's grandma thinks we will be having another boy since she knew before i even found out we were pg so im a bit worried of having a boy.....iykwim


So what did you lovely ladies who have little angels do on there first angel day? Im a bit confused on what to do and would love a few ideas..

When Noah's first birthday came around, I had given birth to his brother 17 days earlier so I was very consumed by a newborn baby at the time. From memory we just had a few quiet moments where I obviously cried. We purchased a Noah's Ark money box for him and placed it next to his ashes.

Mistyflying - We have been sponsoring our little boy in Haiti now for just over 5 years :)