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Butterfly, your baby was your baby regardless of the medical label put on it... I truly hope you can get that second opinion before you go any further. Make an appointment - it's only a consult - your FS doesn't even have to know if you feel more comfy with that... :hug:
One would imagine that I've got used to having to go without medical labels. I guess this was more of a case of I needed to know I'd been told the right thing. I needed to know that I could still trust my FS. Strange as it is that I'm going to be getting a second opinion, but I just don't want to change completely to a new doctor.
The feeling of having taken action, even if it's just the tip of the iceberg of the reading and research that I will eventually do, is helping. It feels good to be actually doing something positive towards trying to prevent this happening again. I feel as though the warrior part of my name has just kicked into action.
BW
Embrace that Warrior Butterfly. She will serve you well. Remember these guys are being interviewed for the job. Make like you are the employer... You hve to work together. Do you gel? Do you agree with his/her opinions/values? Do you feel heard and valued? Respected? Does the professional knowledge that you are seeking come across to you in a way that can be understood? Are you free to ask questions? Do you feel unduly rushed?
You are a warrior and beautiful things are ahead. :hug:
Hi Butterfly_Warrior
I just wanted to say I am very sorry to hear of your loss.
I wish you and your OH all the very best for the future.
Love
Mildy
Hey BW,
A blighted ovum would not have had a heartbeat, it is where the "life support" system develops and the baby does not - there is still a baby of course, it just doesn't go on past a few cells. A missed miscarriage is when the pregnancy is not successful but your body fails to expel it. As said abive basically.
I read, after my first loss, that when an embryo dies it regresses in size/development by a day every day from when it passes. So if you have a scan at 10 weeks and the baby has no heartbeat and is measuring 8 weeks it is likely it would have stopped developing a week ago. I don't know if this is common knowledge and unfortunately i can't find anything online, but at some point i knew this to be true, so i'll keep looking. This means it is very possible to see a heartbeat and then a few weeks later see nothing at all, if the baby passes soon after the first scan.
I'm sorry, this is probably very painful for you and all the other women out there who've been through this. But it was something i thought was important to know, it might help you pinpoint when and possibly why caterpillar had to go, if it is something that could have been prevented.
Bx
I found out today my little one didn't really develop. I'm just shattered.. I don't know how else to put it.. but now I just feel like Im in a limbo because I just have to wait for him to come out. My eyes are sore from crying. I just feel like I don't know where I am.. its just so horrible. I wouldnt wish this on anyone.
Louisedanielle, so sorry for your loss. It is an incredibly hard thing to go through. There are a couple of forums in here for loss which can provide you with an incredible amount of support. If you are intending to continue trying for a baby, I'm in the thread for TTC after miscarriage or loss which can be located at http://forums.bellybelly.com.au/foru...ne-2009-a.html. It's been such a help to me getting through the greif of losing a baby, even though it was early (5wks). :hug: I hope you are beginning to feel better.:
