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Gorgeous names darl :hug:
Check out Names in the Sand. They do great babyloss memorial photos. There are other sites too that do memorial jewelery. Maybe get a bracelet or necklace with their names or a birthstone. For our first angel, i got a suncatcher with the edd birthstone. I have a necklace with Leo's name and ashes.
Doing a balloon release can help. We recently did one where we blew into a balloon and put in all our love and pride through our breath, then we wrote a note on the balloons to our son and released them.
Thinking of you
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They are beautiful names Keike.
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They are beautiful names for your children xxoo :hug:
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Ohhhh hun, i remember that feeling like it was yesterday. Your world really does stop. Don't swallow your grief for the sake of not embarassing others. Reach out, and you might be surprised who grabs your hand. I too would silently resent those who tried to gloss over my mc. One day I'd just had enough and stopped trying to protect others at my expense. Since that day it slowly got easier. If someone is gushing about their baby news, tell them you can't bear it. Ask for their consideration and for them to acknowledge the deep hurt that stems from the loss of a child. If they feel awkward, too bad. As you said, your baby was a person and should be remembered.
There's nothing nasty about your vent at all and you're entitled to your feelings. As for not knowing the sex, I also found this particularly hard to get past. I had a name in mind right from the beginning though, which was unisex. Hence my username. Shelby. I'm here for shelby, because of shelby, and everything I do is in honour of Shelby. Including reaching out to you right now. I don't know if any of what I've said has helped but your post just sounded so raw I wanted to offer you some support.
All of us here will remember your baby with you. :hug:
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Your feelings are perfectly valid so vent away.
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Totally understand how you're feeling, I think it's a wonderful idea to name your babies personally I don't have the balls to but I think it's just so beautiful.
In the last 3 months litterally 1/2 my friends on FB have had babies :o someone actually asked how I was going and if we're still trying, I kinda had an emotional vomit moment and haven't heard from her since, oh well!
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You're a fabulous woman Keike. And a fabulous mother too, why?, because you love and care for your babies regardless of their outcome in life, regardless of their gender or gestation in your womb. You're words sounded so familiar to me, but from what feels like a long time ago. I'm in a very different boat to you now, but strangely we're floating to the same destination, what we feel we were put on Earth to do.
You know you're limits, so set what feels right for you AND make no apologies. I don't have any advice I guess, and am probably one of those people you don't want to see right now, but in MY world your babies are just as important and deserving of recognition as mine.
Much love and laughter for the beautiful future that awaits you.
xxoo
Much apologies as I failed to read your sig properly. Stong, unforgettable names, perfect really. FWIW my first miscarriage we named Sunny, and it will always be that way, BUT that is only something BB knows. We've opted to keep it private in real life.
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Keike - what absolutely stunning names you have for your garden babies.... I am glad you feel a little better after honouring your babies in such a beautiful way.... GL with your EDD that you mentioned in your first post.
Tashy mentioned a memorial site - it used to be called to write their names in the sand - the work that carly does in memory of her son christian, just brings so much beauty to bereaved parents. Another site I really think is beautiful is "Waterfall Angels" and also "Rory's Garden". There are loads of other sites that can help you memorialise your precious babies.
I've read what everyone has written and I can't add too much ( for a change) I agree mostly with Tashybabe, Starbright ( heya girl, long time since we've caught up - hope you're doing ok) and Forshelby.
Grieve as you need to, as in doing so you honour your precious babies. Don't be bottling that grief up, and especially not for the sake of others. Now is the time for you to be selfish my dear.
Go gently.....
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How are you coping keike? I hope you're ok I haven't heard from you in a while. If you need to chat please let me know okay? Sending hugs and love xx
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Keike, when is the EDD for your bub?
Talk about it all you want, i'll listen.
No words to express how sorry i am, that your lovely bubs are not here with you. so unfair.
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Ooh, my threads been revived :) Thank you so much ladies, I'm doing much better now, I'm much more at peace now that we've named them. A beautiful BB member *cough* Eluned *cough* sent me a gorgeous pair of hand knitted booties, and I've decided to frame them with the plush heart we were given at the hospital, and I'll put the babies names in there as well :)
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I can hear your heart screaming, your pain is so raw i am so sorry that people arent being more supportive of you and your little baby!
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I totally understand your vent, it's one year since my gabriel died and I am possibly losing another. Last week kids in my form group were shoving scan photos of their sisters 12 week scans under my nose, god that hurt! I haven't even managed ten weeks with the last four babies. As their teacher, they weren't even supposed to know I was pg, if I had been a student the phone would have been thrown! To top it all, a colleague brought in her gorgeous 5 month old babe that was born the same week I was due. I find it so hard that friends and colleagues of mine are able to get pg again after a loss and then carry their babies when mine keep dying.
So vent away and don't feel guilty.
Sending you hugs
