No Heartbeat

Yep I would definately agree Ellie, please don't let them do a D & C till you know for sure whether this is in fact viable.

I will wish the very best for you!

Thanks girls...
Turns out that my cousin (who lives in America...and has also had ectopic like me)...had this exact same experience with all three pregnancies...her babies couldn't bee seen or HB until 7.5 - 8 weeks...because she has a retroverted uterus and the bubs 'hide'...and ...yep...I have a retroverted uterus too...hanging on to any bit of hope now!!!! Can anyone tell me though (just one more thing I ove started to worry about) if it was a molar pregnancy would it have shown up on my scans already??????

Ellie, I hope everything goes well for you on Thursday. Make sure you know for sure before making any decisions. Thinking of you :hug:

Ellie,
What a rollercoaster you are on at the moment. When I had an early scan at 7 weeks, my FS told me not to freak if there was no heartbeat. Hang in there hun. As for molar, I'm not too sure but isnt that a cell division issue I dont think you can have a molar with IVF. But I'm sure someone knows more about it than me:D
Bec

I was told there was no HB till around 8 weeks.. i didn't think it had anything to do with having a retroverted uterus.. I don't have one. But i could be very well wrong. Good luck!

Thanks everyone...your support is appreciated so much...I really am going crazy...just had a phone call from a girl from work who told me about her friend that went to my clinic and had the same thing happen...went home to wait for mc...never happened then HB at 8 weeks...so many stories of hope...I so want to be one of those stories!!!!

Ellie, i have everything crossed for you for Thursday hun!

Ellie,

I have had the same thing as you, retroverted Uterus, sometimes it takes a little longer than usual, and my OBGYN has also told me that blighted ovum is another classical symptom of a retrovered uterus, I hope this helps but with our DS who is 14 months it took till 8 weeks for heartbeat to pickup...
All the best sweetie will be thinking baby thoughts for you!!!!!!

Lindie

Well...one more day to get through...this has been such a long week...Monday seems like a lifetime ago...preg symptoms are in full swing...had a big chuck while brushing my teeth last night..DH very concerned...so sweet...I'm ok in the morning it's the afternoon/evening that get yukky...I hope that's a good sign...I guess with HcG 12000going to feel symptoms anyway whether bub there or not...thanks so much foR listening...if I don't post tomorrow pm that will mean I'm in hospital...fingers crossed I'll be back here by lunchtime with good news xxx

Ellie, I have been watching this thread with interest. Praying for a positive outcome for you tomorrow huni.

Huge hugs for you :hugs:

Sending you a big hug... :hug: The waiting is so hard....

Thanks Girls...I'll let you know how things go...if I haven't posted tomorrow afternoon you'll know I'm in hospital having D&C...which I will only agree to if there is absolutely no chance...hope to be talking to you tomorrow :pray:

best of luck hun! i will be hping we get a message from you telling us they found your bubba's heart beat!

Ellie, I will be praying for good news for you tomorrow. That you have had to go through this to begin with is horrible. Please let there be a happy ending. All the best xxx

best of luck for tomorrow hun...i will be thinking of you all day...

Hi Ellie,
Just wanting to wish you luck for tomorrow. :pray: that there is good news.

Ellie - thinking of you - hope all is ok though (with fingers crossed)

XX

praying for you .

Ellie - My thoughts are with you today. Be kind to yourself in the next few days, weeks and months.

There is a mountain of ladies her to support you.

Ellie, your absence has made me think you have obvioulsy gotten bad news. If that is so then I want to send you all my heartfelt hugs and prayers.

All bad...FS sent me into clinic for a scan and who bounces out from being scanned immediately before me...a girl from work...who's been TTC for 2 minutes...jumping around telling everyone her twins were jumping around etc etc...when she saw me sitting there..looking not particularly happy she just sat down...so from tht point on I lost it...no baby...just a bigger sack...FS decided I was too upset for D&C today so I'm booked for Wednesday...I'm so distressed...if only she hadn't been there...that was so cruel...the universe or whoever's running this show slapped me in the face today and I'm not happy!!!! Sorry about the self indulgent boo hoo...has been the longest 7 weeks and 5 days of my life and I'm over it.

Ellie, I am so very sorry. Huge hugs to you hun.

Ellie, I am so so sorry. I had hoped so much that your little bubba was bouncing around in there. Unfortunately life is so cruel and unkind and we sometimes feel the full brunt of it. I am sorry that you had to face the friend from work. Be kind to yourself, grieve for that precious baby. My thoughts are with you. Big hugs to you :hug:

My heart sank to read your news, Ellie, I am so sorry. Sending you hugs and thinking of you. :hug:

Ellie, I am so sorry. Big hugs honey.

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shoegal

I am so sorry Ellie.
:hugs:

I'm so sorry Ellie. That must have been just awful. Sending hugs.

Ellie I am so sorry for your loss, i know no words of comfort will help but my thoughts and prayers are with you

Oh Ellie I am just so sorry to hear your sad news... I am sorry you had to endure your colleague... I wish I could just give you a big big hug my love... :hug:

Oh honey, Im so sorry - and that sort of stuff just alwasys makes it that much harder... I know words wont offer comfort. You be sure to take care of you and your heart... I hope that your chance comes again soon :hug:

Ellie, I am so very sorry for your loss huni. And I am so truely sorry for the experience at the clinic. How very distressing for you.

Huge hugs sweetheart :hugs:

Ellie - i just don't know what to say hun

take care of yourself - let yourself grieve - i'm so sorry

Oh Ellie, I'm so very sorry. I was praying for good news for you.

I'm sorry it was made harder by the girl from work, that's just a cruel blow.

Take care of yourself sweetie.

Thank you so much everyone...having you all here to listen makes everything so much easier...feeling much better tonight...

:hug:we are all so sad to hear of your loss.

Ellie

I really thought i was going to hear some good news - so i am so sorry to hear that you have lost your baby. It is also very difficult too to see someone so happy when you are so down...we are all here for you.:hugs:

Ellie - what a kick in the guts seeing your workmate at the clinic. All these negative experiences will make you stronger in the end & more determined than ever I hope. You are an inspiration Ellie & I am praying for you to get through the next weeks/ months ok.

Well another day begins. I actually slept really well...emotional exhaustion will do that. I got really angry on the phone to my mum last night. She has this amazing way of making everything about her and last night was not the time to do that...lets just say I was quite 'assertive' and told her exactly how she was making me feel with her 'one liner' make herself feel better comments...poor DH...when I got off the phone he had to ask who I was talking to...he couldn't work it out...he was really amazed when I told him it was mum...his comment 'bet you feel better'...yep...I do!

Good on you Ellie, this is about you and your DH and your baby and no one else. Gotta take care of you...

Ellie
I don't think I can answer any of your questions. But I have lost an angel and I have got a mum who always changes the subject to her when I talk to her. I just listen to her probs as sometimes I'm greatfull that she gives me something else to think about or a problem to work out for her. As all I do these days is go around on auto pilot she stimulates my mind some days and makes me as angry as hell others.

As for something to do to other than house work try knitting. I have become a scarf knitter in the last 6 months every one has a scarf this winter, I only know one stitch lol :redface:
Books don't do it for me as I can't concentrate.

Will you be getting an u/s next week to check if there is a heartbeat because your levels are still going up. :crossfingers:

I'll be thinking of you, lots of hugs
Chris