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    i think i'm having another one and this will be my third in a row.

    what questions should i be asking? i want answers as to why my body keeps rejecting my potential babies and again i'm at work and devastated and cant take the time off to sort myself out.

    i need help and i have no one around to lean on for support. i just have to smile and pretend its ok when its not and i just want to fall apart and never come back.

    i'm hiding out on the toilets at work having a cry. i have been lucky enough to squeeze in to see a doctor in half an hour.

    such a sad panda right now.

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    I'd be asking the dr to check thyroid levels. That's what the dr said was the most likely cause of my losses

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    Hugs wrangalove, it's not fair xxx

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    Hugs Wrangalove xx I hope you get some answers.

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    Oh Wrangalove, I'm so sorry to read this. It's such a tough journey, my heart aches for you. I know that feeling you describe too well xxx
    It may be too early for you to be ready for my two cents just yet, but maybe save this thread and read it in a few weeks when you are ready for action again, if you have feelings of frustration coming up over people telling you what to do (I know that feeling too well also)
    As you probably know, I've just gone through my third loss too, but in different circumstances, and no losses can be compared. I can only share my own experience, and hope it helps you to hear you are never alone. This is what I found has helped me:
    -I got as many doctors and specialists involved as possible for piece of mind: a GP, an obstetrician, a midwife, a fertility specialist, a natural therapist...this helped me feel secure that we were covering all bases and were exploring everything...part of my desperation at the beginning was feeling like there must be something wrong with me, and if we could find out what it is, maybe we could fix it!
    -I have been tested for everything - twice, three times - I've had every test under the sun, and my daughter had a full autopsy - especially for clotting disorders, genetic disorders, chromosomal issues, thyroid as previously mentioned, hormone levels, general health. These are the most common reasons I'm told, for early loss but we had the full range as we've had losses all over the spectrum everything came back annoyingly normal for us...if not exceptional healthy...
    -I prepared a part of my heart and brain for no answers: this was very early advice someone gave me when my daughter died. It frustrated me to hear it at the time, but now I'm so glad someone said it because I did prepare myself for the possibility, and that is my reality sadly. They say 30% of the time, they never find a reason as in my case, all incidences are unrelated. I'm just the most unlucky person ever, as you may be too. And grief takes such a crazy toll on your body that I'm not surprised it couldn't handle things, as in my case...

    The offer still stands to reach out whenever you need to vent. Always happy to share my experience, if it will help.
    Hugs, and lots of love x

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    Thanks everyone.....

    I'm trying to stay positive but it seems really hard.

    The doctor basically said to come back and see her in a week. Because i technically havent missed my af date, i'm not "pregnant" in their eyes. I beg to differ with 4 hpt all bfp's.

    I only had that one bleed so far....and to be honest, it really wasnt that much when i think about it now. But i am stressing because i have been here twice before and i just want to be able to relax and enjoy being pregnant. But i dont think that will ever happen for me now.

    I'm having some small twinges but nothing painful and i'm emotionally drained now and just had a tiff with DP because he keeps telling me i should be happy just knowing i can fall pregnant....i could kill him right now.

    But all is not lost just yet, i'm going to relax and try to get a good night sleep and hopefully things will be better in the morning.

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    Hugs Wrangalove, I hope you get a good nights sleep & try to stay positive xx I really hope it works out for you

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    Feet up. Relax.
    I know it's hard. I really do I too have been there.
    Nothing you do changes what happens so the best you can do is try and think positive and believe your body knows what to do.
    Good luck

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    Sorry Wrangalove, completely misread your first post - sounds like all is not lost at all and there is lots to be hopeful for! Ignore my doomsday post, stay in the positive mindset you are in, bleeds are so common in early pregnancy!! Xxx

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    i know summery....i just feel like i have the worst luck. its almost like someone is playing a massive joke on me and i'm just not getting it.

    hopefully things calm down and i relax. there is nothing i can do either way...so i guess i shouldnt upset myself too much until its more than what it is if that makes sense.

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    I think that sounds like a perfect idea and it IS going to happen for you, maybe as a neat little package under the Christmas tree? ;D

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    Wrangalove, I remember with pregnancy #2 I started spotting at exactly the same gestation as I miscarried baby #1. I was terrified, I couldn't relax and the waiting was torture. I hope your pregnancy turns out the way mine did, with a happy, healthy baby in my arms.

    I am now almost 11 weeks onto pregnancy #5 (i miscarried # 3&4) and am still scared of loosing bub, so I completely understand your emotions.

    I know you are finding it hard to hold onto hope right now so I will do it for you.
    Congratulations on your pregnancy hun.

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    thanks mumma!!



    i havent (yet) had another bleed so i'm holding onto the hope that it was a breakthrough bleed. considering the doctor didnt give me anything at all as to what i should look out for. only to come back in a week to see her...which i have already booked in for.

    i really hope third time is a charm but will have to shoot someone if not. ;-p

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