And now we have the gastro bug again, 3rd bout this year for the poor kid... well Brendan has it and hopefully it doesn't last long and no-one lese gets it. *sigh*
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And now we have the gastro bug again, 3rd bout this year for the poor kid... well Brendan has it and hopefully it doesn't last long and no-one lese gets it. *sigh*
Hello lovely ladies,
It has been a busy week and lots of bad internet connectivity. I lost a huge message on monday night so decided to have a thinking week this week. it was good. I got very stressed about seeing a friend whoe was 29 weeks, but i am getting used to it as i have so many pregnant friends now.
Thanks so much to all of you for sharing your words of comfort and support.
Sally2 you are a superstar responding to my whinge when you are dealing with your own stress.
Sally i know I will find you on here and i always look forward to your updates.
Welcome Teresa and congratulations on your little one.
Tk1999 thanks for your hugs too. I love getting hugs. I a a big hugger IRL.
Sally - that is great news about Tristans assisted walking. He must be enjoying himself immensely. Hope the gastro bug doesn't stick around too long for you. I will pm you later so i can see the video. Need to go and have brekky.
in our news, Miss K is trying to lift her bum in the air when on tummy. Crawling not far off!!!
Go Miss K!!!
Brendan is well again :dance: and tomorrow he is 3yrs corrected :) I'm a bit sad... sad that he has a corrected day, sad about what he's had to go through to be here. But I'm also extremely proud of him and how well he is doing :D He will have his developmental check-up and medical assessment with the paediatrician on Tuesday (11th May)
Evening ladies.
Did anyone watch Sunday night tonight and see the special on the premmie babies? It was so sad but good to see them fighting. A real eye opener. Made me realise how lucky I was to get to 34 weeks and have a baby that only needed special care.
i saw the ad on TV the other day and almost cried from just 30 secs so knew that I should not be watching the TV show. Seeing those type of images and stories would set off emotions I do not want to deal with yet. We only had two weeks in NICU but after her heart operation at 3 months she took ages waking and breathing on her own. Scared me to death.
How early were the babies?
they were 25 weekers. sooooo tiny. i didnt see the ad on tv the other day and was watching the program for the bears when it came on
Saw it online..Cried the whole time as we were going through our journey this time last year. Today a year ago we were at day 40 and Angus was fighting for his life. Underwent a number of horrid tests including a second lumber puncher :(
A year on and you wouldn't even know other than him being a little small.
rosebud - wow. just shows that he is a fighter.
Rosebud - Woo hoo to your strong little Angus (aptly named as it seems such a fighting name) and to you and your partner for getting through all of that AND having kids at home as well.
Couldn't watch Sunday night special - had to leave the hospital room! Same equipment as our 28 weeker, just a bit smaller.....still too close to home
yeah i watched, and i cried.... esp when they wheeled the mum into NICU it was like i watching myself.
but i was glad they did this story as hopefully many others who have not been down this rd had an eye opener on what some families go through when they have a premature baby
I didn't realise it was on... I will try to watch it online
Hey all. I'm Belinda, from Tazzie.
I'm mummy to Evan (18months), whom was born at 32 weeks gestation - weighing 1.48kg or 3lbs 1.5 ounces!!
We spent time in two hospitals, and he was tube fed for around a month, and then went straight to brestfeeding!
welcome evansmum. :D
Welcome evansmum!
:welcome: evansmum
Hello Evansmum and welcome to BB. We were also very lucky and went from tube feeding to breastfeeding. We also spent time in two hospitals. It was horrible moving to the second for the last two and a half weeks as it was sooooo lacking and looked like it should have been condemned in the 1970's. And it was further from home but apparently we were in the "catchment area" and we had to leave the tertiary hospital, no exceptions blah blah blah.
How is Evan going?
Hi everyone,
I went to a premmie nuturegroup (like a playgroup) through a premmie/NICU organisation in my area today. I need to debrief about it but can't just yet... just wanted to say a quick hello and I will be back later to offload my crap - it all relates to thinking I had dealt with DDs early birth, I think a lot of the issues have come to the surface given that a lot of babies have been born around me and they have all been FT take home bubbas
Hope you and your little ones are doing well.
Take care, TK. I know for sure that I have not dealt with Sam's birth in any way shape or form and he'll be 2 soon. Just want to let you know that you're not alone. :hug:
BW
Sending hugs your way.
I know what you mean about thinking you have dealt with it and then boom.
I know I have not dealt with my DD's early arrival and i dreaded the birth of my two friends babies just before DD's 1st bday. It was so hard going to the hospital and seeing what I did not have. I was able to get away with not visiting one of them as i was sick. I was so grateful to be sick.
The 1st bday was not a good time, I was sooo anxious and unhappy. I decided to make homecoming day a celebration as well and that was better but still highly emotional.
Anyway i am babbling now.
Take care.
xx
Totally understand TK :hug: I haven't dealt with Brendan's entry and he is nearly 4...
Makes me kinda glad that my close friend is a premmie mum herself (24wker) and that most of the family are either past baby stage or not there yet (with exception to SIL who is about 16wks pg)
I have only ever visited one friend in hospital and although her babies were take-home ones they did have a rough start (36wk twins) one twin spent a day in NICU and a day in SCN, I visited when he was in SCN (day 2) so for me it wasn't quite so hard.
Big HUGs.
Ok, I have been putting off dealing with last Friday for a few days - I want to jump into a time machine and go back and not go :(
So last Friday there was a BB meet up which was about an hours drive from me that I was going to attend. Then I found out about this premmie playgroup thing and thought that I would find out more about it. A representative of the organisation called me on Thursday afternoon and went over the details of the playgroup. I have anxiety issues so I asked her what the general format of the group was so that I would know what to expect. She said that they have allied health professionals (physio, OT, speech etc) at the meeting and they and other volunteers play with the kids/babies whilst mums and carers can enjoy a nice cuppa and have a chat. She said that this gives an opportunity for the kids to be reviewed in a relaxed environment and prevents kids slipping through the cracks. She went over lots of details and I felt comfortable with going but was also anxious that Caitlin hadn't had paed review since 6 weeks of age (not that she needs one but the seed had been planted and my anxiety went into overdrive) and I started to worry that maybe she had falled through the cracks and maybe there was an issue that I wasn't picking up on and that they would pick up something tomorrow and I would feel crap.
I felt like just not going several times that evening and the Friday morning but with recent FT take home bubba births around me I was (and still am) struggling with things from DDs birth coming up and dealing with my feelings around that so I thought it would be good to be with other prem mums (and dads) who have been through a similar experience.
I decided not to go to the BB meet up and to go to the premmie group instead... I got there and had to sign in, no problem, they ask if I am new. I answer yes. I finish signing in and go inside.
No one came up to me and introduced themselves, no one came to play with DD, none of what I had been told the day before really happened. I started to feel quite anxious as things were not what I was expecting.
There was no allied health people there and the kids were a lot older than DD - the few kids that were around DDs age didn't want to play (understandable) and DD was getting upset. I continued to play games with her but I could see that she wanted to play with the kids... there were childcare students from a local tafe there - apparently they are there to play with the kids too... not one of them came up to DD and I and when I asked one a question I was given a blank stare and a "dunno".
I could feel the tears welling up in my eyes.
Lunch was put out but no one invited DD or I to get some food... it was my first time there, I didn't know how things work, did I just help myself, argh. I went to ask one of the volunteers and she gave me such a look. More anxiety.
One of the other volunteers asked me if DD wanted some lunch, I said yes. They sat DD at the kids table but DD wasn't familiar with having to sit at a table on a chair. At home, we eat in the highchair or on a rug on the floor.
I ended up sitting with her for lunch. No one offered to help me, get me something. I am a volunteer with the Australian Breastfeeding Association and have done lots of training on providing an inclusive environment. This was no an inclusive environment, I felt on the outer and not part of the 'in' crowd.
Anyway, lunch finished and things were packed away. I again pannicked about the allied health review - was it going to happen?
People started leaving and I felt like falling in a heap. I thought I would have got some understanding here - I had prepared myself with what might happen - the usual process if you like. But not a lot of that had happened.
I tried to walk out without bursting into tears but I didn't get very far. I wanted to find out if I could speak with someone later about this. I broke down in tears.
The lady was lovely - she went and got another lady who does parent support at the hospital and I was able to talk to her about everything - it wasn't just that day, it was the fact that I never knew about this support organisation - the nurses and doctors didn't tell me. Whole range of issues about our care, weight gain issues, the recent birth of FT take home bubbas etc etc
Just a whole range of things. I don't think I have sorted out all my issues surrounding DDs early birth but I did feel better.
Thank you for letting me debrief in here. I am constantly amazed by our bubbas and also by us - the premmie mums. I wouldn't wish a walk in these shoes on anyone but I am glad I can walk this path with you wonderful ladies :hug:
TK, I was never told things like that existed. To some extent I know Sam is falling through the cracks because he'll be 2 soon and still doesn't talk much. I know he has a speech delay and his paed (yes, we still go, but every time it's come back in 6 months and we'll check again) is so content to just sit and wait and nothing really happens.
I guess I'm lucky in that there are two other mums at church with 36 weekers so I do have people available to talk about it (but both were c-sections and neither had the trauma regarding separation that I did and both ended up being able to breastfeed, unlike me)... But it's like Sam was premmie enough to cause issues, but not premmie enough for anyone to actually want to do anything to help. He's so big for his age as well. People forget. Sometimes I think it's not so much from his premmie-ness, but from the fact that I'm too ill to interact with him as much as he needs. Through being ill, I'm stunting his progress. :( It's not nice.
I also get the anxiety - I'd advise you to talk to that person you first spoke to again, and ask WHY the things they said would happen didn't happen. But I know I could NEVER make that phone call either. :hug:
BW
Oh that's horrible! I'm so sorry TK :hug:
We have nothing like that around us, so I made my own. There's now a prem group AND a special needs group thanks to me and a close friend of mine who has an ex 24weeker :) When discharged with Brendan I was told nothing and it was only after doing some internet searches that I found out about premmie related things for parents. It sucks, it shouldn't be like that. I have always wanted to do little care packs with info on prems for the parents... but I live too far away to be able to get the packages there :(
:hug: Here any time xx
Hi I am new here...but I recognise a few people. :D
I am a mum of 7...4 of them where prems.
Master L born at 36 weeks with pneumonia weighing 2830g now 8, miss E 35 weeks weighing 2210g just turned 3, miss I 28 weeks weighing 1045g now 25 months and my little man M born at 25 weeks weighing 920g who just turned 1 on Friday.
Look forward to chatting to you.
welcome rainbow brite. wow 7 kids! you would have your hands full :D
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