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Thread: Parenting after Miscarriage or loss ~ July 2010

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    KELLY _ Just had to fill you in on my 'snap' moment with Jessica today. First off, last winter she left her brand new umbrella outside & Banjo chewed it. Partly her fault, partly mine, party Banjo's. So I just ordered her a really pretty new one & she got it Thursday after school. This morning after me telling her NOT to take it ouside as it was way too cold just then, she waited til I was vacuuming & took it outside. She has then left it outside & of course, now it's chewed again! The thing that bugs me most is she leaves it on the grass!!!! So I didn't growl, just told her to go put it into the green bin & I will never be buying her another umbrella again. Then, it was snack time & they had a little pack of those Arnotts shapes things at the breakfast bar. She told me she just needed to get something from her room & went & took the shapes & put them into another bag & then went into the toy room & was busy snacking away in there!! I don't let them eat in ANY rooms as I used to find 'funky' food matter in odd places. So I growled at her for being deceiving and got her to sit back at the breakfast bar. Then, we just walked Banjo to the lake & the kids played on the playground & when we left the lake she high-tailed it off way in front of me on her scooter. I called her 8 times but she was so far ahead she didn't hear. By the time we got back around the lake, she had taken it upon herself to LEAVE the park entirely & was waiting up at the road where we cross over to go back down our street!!!!!



    Well that it IT! I went OFF!!! I wasn't a raving lunatic, just said she had really hurt my feelings today, she is being very nasty and doing things on purpose to make Mummy's heart sad & when we returned home she is to go straight to her room until it's time for her friends birthday party this aftermoon. The b&tch in me wants her to miss the party entirely, but I know the mother would have already had to pay at least a deposit on Jessica's attendance. So now she is in her room & hopefuly having a sleep until it's party time.

    Just wanted you to know Luke is being normal. Being a brat, but it's normal. You're not a failure & you're not horrible either!! xx

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    Thanks Jayne.... they're just soooo bloody testing at times!!! I swear they're way too smart for their own good sometimes and I'm sure Luke is just going to get worse as he gets older! We're getting a lot tougher on him atm... I've spent all day explaining that he'll be going to the naughty corner every time he yells at me and doesn't listen to what I'm saying. He's been in there about three times today but we're making progress.. I think he knows we're serious already (although one of the naughty corner instances turned into a bit of a joke for him.. he thought it was hilarious, the little monster. It just makes me more determined but unfortunately DH caved and started laughing too... NOT HAPPY... but I took over again and he got the message)!!! I've managed to remain really calm too, which definitely helps!! Hopefully we can get on top of it again.

    So how are things going with you? You haven't really spoken much about it all lately and I'm worried about you? I know you're probably trying to work lots of things out in your head still and I don't want to pry.. just want to know that your ok. Hugs. Sooooo can't wait for your trip to Melb either.. although I'll be back in Perth first anyway... so we'll have to catch up then!

    Kel xxxx

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    Jayne, sorry I nicked off earlier, I had someone turn up on my doorstep! I popped back in to let you know, but you were offline. Hope everything is okay

    Kelly, sooooo excited to see your ticker today Good work lovely Are you doing anything Tuesday???

    Mako, hope you're okay darl. Yay for holidays!!!!

    Deb, thinking of you. Hope the head is better today. Maybe some wine and choc is in order?

    Lisa, how are things going with you and your girls?????

    Bun, hope you're surviving.

    Michelle, thinking of you and your boy, as always. Might try to give you a call now actually. If I don't get you I'll try again

    TTing is actually going okay!!! Dare I say it, cos I've probably jinxed myself now I just broke alot of rules and had a wonderful long hot shower and I'm feeling semi-human again, it's great

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    JANIE _ No sweat darl, I figured something came up. It's all great.

    KEL _ Did I forget to also mention how Jessica has written 'Mummy' along the space bar of the keyboard, just so everybody knew it was MY keyboard?

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    Kel Congrats on hitting the 20 week mark Sage is also testing the boundaries alot atm. I'm thinking its the age they are at and just trying to figure out exactly what they can get away with. Its not much fun when they scream at you for no reason or just because they can't have what they want.

    Freya I hope you are having a wonderful day and I hope you managed to get a cake!!

    Jayne How are you doing hun? I think of you so often

    Bun I'd call your mum and have a chat with her about how you are feeling. I hope the little ones are doing ok and sleeping a bit more for you while their Daddy is O/S.

    Janie Glad to hear the TTing is going ok. Just try not to put too much pressure on yourself or on N. He's still only a little boy The pre school I'm thinking of sending Sage to next year said they have quite a few 3 and 4 year olds who are still in nappies.

    Deb How's that headache of yours? I hope it found the door fairly quickly I think of you often too and wonder how you and the kids are doing

    Michelle I'm thinking of you and Baby George. I've just had a look at your newest pics and they are just beautiful. You have a very special boy there who is most definately being watched over by his Daddy

    Spring How are you doing? Happy 6 months to Ben for the other day

    I'm ok. The pain I had the other day has gone so I'm not too sure what it was but I'm not worrying about it now. We've had a busy weekend.DH and I both worked yesterday and then we all went to an Engagement Party last night. Sage had a blast playing with some other kids there and this morning we went to see Shrek 4. DH liked it and I liked what I saw of it. Sage was too busy running around the cinema and dancing and decided to hide his boots lol. It wasn't until we started to leave that I realised he only had his socks on lol. I'm so pleased there was only abou10 people max in the cinema as I'd feel so bad if he was running around doing what he was doing if it was packed. He wasn't being noisy or anything..just dancing and running up and down the isle and thinking it was a slippery slide by sitting on his bum and sliding down saying weee weee lol.
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    George really is a gorgeous little boy... I was comparing the pictures of him to the picture of Lilly when she was born - you sure can tell they are siblings!

    Anyway, I'm feeling a little thick at the moment - I had assumed that George was in NICU as a result of being a little bit early... but now that I've seen pictures and read Deb's updates I know that's not the case, but I have no idea what the problem actually is. Have I missed something?

    We've been struggling big time here with antibiotics... Sam will simply NOT take liquid antibiotics, so we've had to resort to emptying capsules of antibiotics into his food... it was a rather worrying couple of days before we figured out how to get him to take it. He's not always getting a full dose, but he's getting more than if we were trying to squirt a syringe of stuff into his mouth, and I figure some is better than none... it's making a difference and I'm suddenly remembering how incredibly active my boy is when he's not sick. He's having a rough winter this year.

    Hopefully everyone else is well, or at least heading towards it.

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    Michelle - I just LOVE the pics you've been putting on FB.. George is absolutely adorable and I'm so pleased you've had some lovely cuddles with him.

    BW - Hope the antibiotics are working their magic for you now!! I'm with you, not really sure what's going on with George either but praying all is ok!!

    Mako - Sounds like Sage had a great time at the movies - LOL!! Glad the pain has eased.

    Jayne - Thinking of you.

    Janie - Thanks for the chat this morning... and sorry, I really needed to get that out. Will let you know how we go!

    Sorry, I feel like I'm always whinging about such tiny little things that in the scheme of what's going on in here, don't really matter but being away from our family and friends, I really don't feel like I have anywhere else to turn. I've got my 20 week scan this afternoon and of all the days, DS has come down sick and I don't know what to do. We had planned to take him along to the scan with us but he got up this morning and vomited (and that's after a horrible night of vomiting not last night but the night before) so not sure what's going on and don't know if we will be able to take him. I'm so upset... we don't have anyone that can look after him, so that means, DH having to stay home with DS and me having to go to my scan alone. I'm sooo NOT at all happy about that... especially after one of the lovely ladies in my BellyBuddies thread lost her little boy this week... I'm feeling so upset and nervous. I really don't want to go on my own but can't even ask anyone else to look after DS in case he's got a bug... certainly don't want to get anyone else sick. And.. of course I'm worried about getting sick too and how that will affect bub. Thankfully I'm getting a few good kicks this morning, so am pretty confident all will be ok but still desperately want DH to be there with me. This will be our last pg and I want him to share this special scan with me. I guess I can only pray that DS is ok.. scan isn't until 3.30pm.. hopefully it was just something he ate. Sorry again, I know this is insignificant in the scheme of things, just feeling very emotional.. damn pg hormones - LOL.

    Kel xx

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    Oh Kelly I hope he improves a bit so maybe he can come? Is it possible to change the appointment time?I am sure you've thought of all of these things. If I was there I would come with you honey. I'll be thinking of you. Let us know & I will be sure to light a candle for you as you have your u/s.

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    Hi guys. Thanks for all your support re my mum. I think I got the message across when I skyped her the other night because she actually phoned me the next day! I nearly fell off my chair. I have spoken to her again since then so all is good. Laney - you may be right in that she just worries about interrupting me when I am feeding Josh or otherwise busy but like you said, I would rather be interrupted than not contacted! And I can always just say I will phone back in 20 minutes. Anyway, all is well again and I am surviving on my own. We have had the most full on week at the Kids Festival - DD has had a ball so we are having a quiet day today to recuperate. DD now has a cold too which is no surprise, I imagine there would have been germs galore at a festival full of kids in winter!!

    Jayne - how are you doing hun? Has Alan gone away again?

    Kelly - I hope Luke is better this arvo so you can all go to your scan. I totally agree - times like this really suck when you have no family around. I have just bit the bullet and got myself a fab babysitter. She is coming twice a week for a couple of hours while DH is away so I can get some exercise and do the shopping, and she is available last minute a lot of the time too. Now I don't know how I ever managed without her! Maybe if you ask around or playgroup of something you can get a recommendation for a good babysitter for if/when something like this happens next time?

    Deb - thanks for all the updates re Michelle. How are you going hun?

    mako - glad to hear the pain has gone now. I wonder what it was?

    Janie - yay on TTing!! We are going backwards at the moment. She won't even attempt it, just insists on a nappy. Sigh...

    Michelle - I LOVE the FB pics!! George looks like a lovely chubby boy, especially for one so early. What were his birth stats? I hope you are getting lots of cuddles now. Is he able to feed yet? Congrats hun, what a lovely little man

    Hi to everyone else, hope you all had a lovely weekend

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    Kelly How did your scan go? I hope you didn't have to go solo and I hope Luke is feeling better too.

    Bun So pleased you sorted some stuff out with your mum. Its awful when there is a bit of tension in the air
    I hope Catherine is feeling better soon too. Your latest pics are beautiful

    Hi to everyone. No time for personals right now as I need to go find something to cook a certain little boy something for dinner as his daddy and mummy won't be eating until late tonight as DH is working late and then playing basketball

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    Similar story here, mako. I'm currently hiding for a little while as in the night garden will keep Sam quiet and give me some space for a bit. We're both sick, but he's recovering faster than me... DH just called... normally home at 6pm, hasn't left work yet, doesn't know when he'll be able to, and I just want to cry! At least I just have stuff that I can reheat for everyone's dinner tonight - I was exhausted before I even got out of bed.

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    Sorry... selfish post warning...

    Had my scan today and I'm afraid all didn't quite go to plan. Wtf is going on... can't something just go right for once!!!?? I'm so frustrated and angry and upset and just really don't know what to think. We're praying everything is ok and all indications point towards it all being ok but there's a shadow of doubt on one of the measurements from today. My head is all over the place so sorry for the poor explanation but it was a measurement in the brain... the amount of fluid between two points... and it was a bit higher than they would like. Everything else looked fine.. which is really positive but there's still this grey area that they're a bit worried about. Its normally something that is associated with downs syndrome.. but the other indicators, including my 12 week scan results and the measurement in the bone in bubs nose... were all perfect, so it's a bit confusing. We are seeing our OB on Wednesday avo so will know more then... but of course our OB is away on holidays isn't she... so we're seeing her replacement. The guy today said that the couple of things they'd do are an Amnio (but with my other good results he probably wouldn't go down that track).. or another scan and MRI to check that everything is ok. So we're in limbo a little bit and it's not much fun. I'm just really p*ssed off and don't know what to think. Haven't we all been through enough and why can't we just have some good news in here for once!!

    Sorry guys... was really hoping to bring some better news in here. The only good thing about today is that DH was at the scan with me... THANK GOD.. I would not have coped without him. Luke seems to be a lot better, so he came along too... although when we were trying to understand what was going on he kept saying he was feeling sick!!! Just what we needed. He was ok though and i think he's just playing it up now... little monster!

    Anyway gotta go get some rest, I'm exhausted.

    Kel xxxx

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    Kelly, I am so sorry - hopefully it's just a funky measurement and all is definitely ok. I hope the wait until Wednesday isn't too long.

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    Kel Sending you so many huge right now. As I said a few minutes ago I'm so sorry things didn't go as expected today and hope Wednesday is here before you know it. I wish I was closer so I could give you a IRL. Just know that I'll be thinking of you and am hoping like mad that everything works out so much better on Wednesday

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    Oh my love I am sorry you've been left in limbo. Those other markers all sound great - I am hoping that this will prove to be fine also. Roll on Wednesday...

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    Kel: I'm sorry you've been made to worry I hope Wednesday brings wonderful news.

    Anna: haven't seen you around much Hun. I just wanted to check that you're ok

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    Hi ladies,

    Kelly just wanted to pop in and send you massive I know how stressful 'not knowing' can be. Try to stay positive its probably just one of those things that will be gone by the time you have another scan. Ive heard of many a story where some measurement or other is not exactly where it should be and all has been ok. My SIL sister had a very similar issue with her second DS and by the time they went to the specialist the fluid around the brain was at normal levels.

    Hope everyone else is well, im trying to read but cant manage to post. Miss N is a really tricky bub and its a daily struggle to get things done. She is either laughing, feeding or crying there is in between. We are going away this week for a few days so hopefully the fresh air and no housework will put a little spring in my step.

    Any George / Michelle updates?? He looks sooo adorable and Im so thrilled she has had some mummy time with her precious newborn xxx

    Thinking of you all...

    Lis xx

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    Oh Lis, it's so tough with a full-on baby Rest assured, things will get easier, although that sounds very trite right now. Hang in there babe. I spoke to Michelle earlier tonight, which was wonderful. She sounds amazing! And her littlest guy is doing as well as can be expected. Lots of waiting and watching ATM I think, which is very hard. But as all of us on fb know, he is SO SO cute!!!

    Kelly, you know I'm here

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