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    Default [Vent] Need a break from being mum

    Is it bad that I have woken up for the last 3 mornings wishing it was Monday so I could go to work?!?!

    So over the whinging clingy monsters in my house ATM. Sick of the biting. Sick of the selective deafness. Sick of having both kids permanently attached to me for no reason other than the other one is. Seriously, one kid will be playing happily then the other will decide he/she needs a cuddle, then happy kid turns into jealous monster & tries to get in between. Sick of being tired. Sick of having simple tasks turn into a battle. Sick of constant washing, cleaning, cooking blah blah blah. Sick of being mum



    At least at work, it is nice & peaceful. I can actually get something done. I'm looking forward to increasing my days soon. I hate that I'm not enjoying being mum at the moment. I struggle to find moments to enjoy. My babies are growing up too fast & I hate it.

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    Hugs and more hugs. I've no experience with 2 children so I can't imagine what you are going through. Just wanted to let you know that I read your post and I feel for what you are going through at the moment. Can DH have them for a while today to that you can call a friend and go out for a coffee? Sounds like you could use some time out for yourself. More hugs.

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    I hear you. Big hugs. I hope you can find some peace soon

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    I hear you too. I am seriously burnt out and need a break. I hope you all have a good day. Maybe get out and about and that might stop them playing off each other so much?

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    My sympathies. I so know how you feel. Am having one of those days myself.

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    Completely understand. Many a day I have looked forward to going back to work. I also got the point where I needed a weekend away from all of it (including DH). It was really helpful to get one

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    I have to say that I am right there with you. I find that I really do look forward to going to work to clear my head, though I have the boys all day and then go to work at night so I'm not really getting away from them iykwim? I just like to get out and do something to take my mind off things.

    Everyday I have to keep thinking of all the positives of being a mummy and even when they are both fighting over me saying my mummy, NO MY mummy, that it won't last forever and that it's pretty awesome that my kids love me for me.
    Even if I am not thinking that at the exact Moment they are all over me lol.

    Lots of hugs and you will get through it. That's the power of us mums, we can do anything! Xx

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    Quote Originally Posted by Astrid View Post
    Completely understand. Many a day I have looked forward to going back to work. I also got the point where I needed a weekend away from all of it (including DH). It was really helpful to get one
    Oh yeah! I second that! For a few years when my first 3 were really little (they were really close together) DH was working 14 hour days on a 13 day fortnight roster which totally wrecked him and it meant that even when he was here, he wasn't *here* kwim? It got to the point where I needed some time away or I would have snapped. I totally understand what you're feeling and as much as we love our kids, we get to the point where we need to recharge ourselves away from them. Ever since then I have always planned a weekend away for myself once a year and it's been a huge sanity saver for me. And it's doubly hard when they are so little and still so dependent on you for everything. But you will find as they get older it does get a lot better. I still need to get away from it all and still make sure I have my weekend away each year but life is generally not as intense as these first few years

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    it's such an intense time isn't it? You are definitely not alone

    My DS1 is being so difficult lately, I feel terrible saying this but I'm honestly struggling to find things I like about him lately...of course I love him but I'm sure you know what I mean. He never listens, won't go to bed before 10pm, is up with the birds, hits and kicks all of us including his baby brother, won't eat, everything is a battle all day everyday...I'm aware he is growing up right before my eyes and I want to savour this time of our lives but it's so hard when they're pushing every button Some days I wish I had a job to go to. But just this week gone I decided I needed a break and while DH was home I had a hair cut, went shopping alone (well the baby came along but he's pretty easy!), had a massage etc. Now at least I feel able to cope with the long days ahead after having some me time.

    Anyway, sorry for the long story but just wanted you to know you're not alone

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    I understand.. IT has been like that in my house for the last month (we had a few upheavals that caused it), and it is tough!

    We are going on holidays in a fortnight, and I am seriously asking work if they want me a few extra days before I go (I jobshare, and normally do 2 days a week)..

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    I feel ya. I wish I had work to get away! I work... at home, in the kitchen. A nightmare with clingy babies & destructive 4 year olds!

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    That's what I need. A weekend away. Unfortunately DD is BF & I can't express so even if I had the money, I couldn't do that

    I honestly do not know how anyone can stay home full time with young kids & little or no help. It clearly takes a much stronger personality than mine!

    Thanks for the hugs all

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    Quote Originally Posted by Rowellen View Post

    I honestly do not know how anyone can stay home full time with young kids & little or no help. It clearly takes a much stronger personality than mine!
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    I believe that we were never meant to at all. The whole nuclear household is such a new thing in human history, I don't think anyone should beat themselves up over not liking/coping/wanting to be at home with children by themselves.

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    Oh sweetheart. More from me. I know the feeling well.

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    Totally with you...xxxxx

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    Quote Originally Posted by Astrid View Post
    I believe that we were never meant to at all. The whole nuclear household is such a new thing in human history, I don't think anyone should beat themselves up over not liking/coping/wanting to be at home with children by themselves.
    That's so true. It's a bit sad that this is where our society is at now. I am very lucky to have family close by that I can call when I need to but it is not the same as having the extended family living together as it once was & still is in some cultures. I find it very difficult to call for help as society puts that pressure on you, that you should be able to do it alone & even my DH is hesitant to ask for help. My day has ended a lot better as we had PIL's over for dinner & they spent a bit of time with the kids which kept them from hanging off me for a little while.

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    Maybe you should let the IL's take the kids for a few hours a week and take yourself off to the library or a cafe for a coffee and read a book or something on your own? One of the things I absolutely relish in doing is going to my fave cafe with the news papers after I drop DS2 off at preschool and taking all the time in the world to read them and have a coffee and cake. Maybe that's an option for you? Even having just an hour or two on your own every week or so will make a world of difference.

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    I was coming to post exactly this today so I'm glad I came across your post!

    I'm feelin crappy today, not enough sleep, bit of a headache. My milk is a bit low, bubs has a tummy ache and is unsettled and to be honest, I don't want to be responsible for him and his sister being fed today. I don't want to stress about why my good sleeper is suddenly not sleeping well. I don't want to have to clean the house an organise tea. I actually want to go to bed and sleep for as long as I want, not have to get up to two kids who want mum.

    Gah, I know tomorrow will be better but for today, im tired of being mum too

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