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Mate, it's Shambles Central here most of the time :) I've gone from having civilised work discussions about the usability of websites to scrambling around the bathroom with my knickers half-up, half-down and screaming at DD "FFS JUST LET ME DO A POO IN PEACE." Not my best mummy moment :)
I'm so glad you've got some kid-free time on the weekend and hope you have a fabbo time. The trick is then planning and scheduling for it. Easier said than done I know but really well worth it.
Hi,
Wow your post made me feel sorry for you, it also made me feel a little relieved... I can relate to what you have written and I could have written it myself on many occasions. Thank you for being so open and honest. You are incredibly brave to put yourself out there like that. I wish I lived closer to you, I would offer to be a babysitter for you :)
Just thought I would say a few things....
My house is messy 99.9% of the time.... Pig stye! The only time it is clean and stays clean for any significant amount of time is if I clean after the kids go to bed, while they are at school/daycare or if I clean and then we go out for the day. Otherwise it will be messy within 5 minutes lol....
A rule of thumb..... If you spend all day cleaning your house and it actually feels, smells and looks good...... no one else will see it. No one will call up and offer to come over for a coffe, no one will turn up at your doorstep unannounced..... but..... if your house is total chaos...... someone will turn up at your doorstep unannounced. lol..... How many of you reading this are laughing saying "OMG so true" hee hee....
On another note..... My DD2 is now nearly 6, but when she was younger she was into everything your DD is into. Drove me mental. A friend told me about these little covers you can buy that just slip over your door handles.... they are kiddy proof. I put them all over the house... the best thing was that I could also put one on the inside of her bedroom door, so I could finally put her to bed and shut the door, she couldn't come out. For about 2 weeks she threw the biggest tantrum, kicked the door, cupboard, walls, threw things around her room, stripped her bed, broke a photo frame (plastic not glass window thank goodness!).... but she soon learned to stay in her room. Before that she would be up until 1 or 2 in the morning still insisting on her "I not tiwed mummeeeeeeeeeee..... waaaaahhhhhh" lol...... To keep myself sane ish' while she screamed the house down for hours (yes she is stubborn) I called up a friend each night to keep me distracted (and to stop me from killing her lol) until she had literally exhausted herself and fallen asleep.
They didn't cost much but I would have paid tripple the amount.... they were soooooo worth it! :) Finally she was not getting into my bedroom spilling perfume onto the floor or drawing on the carpet with my lipstick (was a rental home eeek). I could also lock myself in my room if I needed some time away. You can buy these at BigW, Target,Kmart and the baby stored. They are fantastic.
Also, for the backyard.... are you able to padlock the fence shut so she can't run away?
Hope some of my experiences are helpful to you too.
All the best xx
Fionas, your toilet reference had me rofl. I can relate to that one on a dialy basis haha
OMG Donna I can so relate to everything you have been through. Having the 5 kidlets means my life is never my own or easy. My house is constantly a mess and my family never come to visit because of this (could I be doing this sub consciously lol). While I have family fairly close by we are not close so I have no support there. My DF, luckily, is very aware of what DD2 is like and how I really try to clean the house but can never finish. He hates the mess but understands.
I have arranged to go away next weekend (surprise surprise) with my mum and we are going to have a ladies couple of days. My DS's are at their dads for the whole week, DF will mind the girls and I will not think of them for the whole time I'm away. I'm not sure if I will go home lol.
It sounds like your DH is stepping up after reading how hard this has been for you. Try to organise some time just for you on the weekends. Let DH take the girls for a couple of hours and give yourself some much needed time out.
I would be taking your DD to the doctor to get a referral to a specialist. If you seriously think that there is something wrong then get it checked. She might be suffering from ODD or ADD. It may just be a stage she is going through too but it would ease your mind to get it checked.
A huge hug to you as I have been and am still going through this stage.
Fionas, I had to laugh out loud at your toilet thing as that happens here all the time. I can't even lock the bathroom door as we are renovating and we still have the old door on and it is falling apart. AAAArrrrrrggghhhh what I wouldn't give to pee in peace lol.
Sorry to hijack a serious thread Donna and I hope you don't mind but just to briefly add to the toilet story...
it really didn't help that I'd been constipated for days, suddenly there was movement at the station and relief would have been mine with 10 seconds of final effort. DD chose that precise moment to 'help' by grabbing toilet paper and trying to wipe my bum. Complete dilemma of finishing the job with unpleasant results for DD or trying to get her out of there, hence running around bathroom with knickers half up, half down.