no way. i had so much fun in my 20s. had some pretty wild times, and then fell pg with ds1 when i had just turned 30. perfect timing for me :)
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no way. i had so much fun in my 20s. had some pretty wild times, and then fell pg with ds1 when i had just turned 30. perfect timing for me :)
DS1 was born 2 months before my 21st birthday and 2 days short of our 2 year anniversary (of being together). I wouldnt have it any other way. There are some downsides like most friends don't have kids and trying to save for a house deposit on one income but we went with our gut feeling for when it felt right.
I'm an OLD mum around here! By a long way. But I've done things I wouldn't have if we'd had kids 10 years ago.
I'm sure there are good and bad points whichever way you do it - make the most of where you are.
I wish I'd started earlier. I was 31 when I had DD and she took 3.5 years (and eventually IVF) to get. However, I know if I did start earlier then I wouldn't have achieved my PhD and there's NO WAY I could ever have done it (in my field) post-kids!
In the end I think what is meant to happen, happens. I see plenty of advantages and disadvantages of early kids or late kids. In my case I've done some travelling and achieved in my career but actually having kids was more of a struggle (and I think the stress of my PhD contributed to my fertility problems).
Late twenties was perfect timing for me. We were slowing down dramatically anyway, the thought of clubbing made me wanna jump into my jammies and make cookies and DH was trying to teach the cat how to turn lights on and off (my Mum saw him doing that and said to me 'That man needs a baby!') So we knew we were done with that part of our life. No regrets at all.
Having said that, I am glad we had our time of parties and travelling!
Not at all. DH and I started trying when we got engaged at 19. We are now 24 and only just about to have our first. I would hate to be 30 and only just finding out about our fertility problems!
I don't regret my girls at all - and wouldn't change things for the world..
And I don't really wish I had waited - I just wished I chose differently and gave them a better father to raise them....
I had my two at 25 and 28. If I waited, I don't think I would have had children at all. I'm not particularly maternal.
Like Cat though, I do wish they'd had a different father. I know who it would have been, too, and he and I have discussed it a lot. If only things were different...
I must be honest and say this comment leaves a slightly sour taste in my mouth. I know it's your opinion, and you're perfectly entitled to it - I'm not going to argue your point. I just wanted to ask why though?? I'll be 50 when my youngest turns 10, and I can think of a million things worse than that.:
I married at 33, had my first bub at 35, second two days after I turned 37 and my third just before I hit 40. While I might have preferred for it all to have taken place 2-3 years earlier, I'm happy and content. My mother always told me to "get out and see the world, do something with your life" before settling down. I did just that, and now I'm growing up three gorgeous boys. I'm happy as a pig in mud :)
No not at all. I was 24 when DD1 was born. 26 with DD2 and 28 with DD3. We are where we are today because of our girls. For me I dont think age had anything to do with it, we were ready, even though we didnt realise we were ready.
I was 23 when i had my first (well just before I turned 23) and 27 when I had my second
I wish we had done more travelling before having kids but simply couldn't afford it but I don't regret having kids younger. Dh and I always say there is always time for more couple things once the kids move away from home.. (well we hope so anyways)
I was 17 when I had my 1st ds 19 when I had my 2nd ds and 21when I had my dd and I wished I had waited till at least 24 to have them but am glad I had them and I can do the things I missed out on just with a few wrinkles once my kids are older
I was 17 when I had my 1st ds 19 when I had my 2nd ds and 21when I had my dd and I wished I had waited till at least 24 to have them but am glad I had them and I can do the things I missed out on just with a few wrinkles once my kids are older
I had my first just after I turned 26. She was an 'oops', but always planned - she just arrived a couple of years before we had planned her! DS arrived when I was 28 and DD2 at 33. I'm very happy with the age I was when I started my family and she was, without a doubt, the best surprise I've ever had! DH and I were married, owned our home and both had established careers, so I don't feel that I missed out on any opportunities by having my first baby at 26. We have travelled more since having kids than we did before having them. I love traveling with children, seeing the wonder and discovery through their eyes brings a whole new perspective to visiting a new culture, and I reckon having children with you opens so many doors as you already have something in common with people all over the world. :D
I had DD a few months before my 30th this year and I wish I'd had her 2-3 years earlier, partly so I could afford a bit more spacing for multiple kids without hitting my late 30s. But there are so many variables including partner, job, finances and mother nature it's a very hard call to make. (I also thought I'd probably be happy with just 1 before her)
whenever this question comes up from friends who are married but yet to start a family I always tell them to get to the baby making ASAP if you want kids. I was 25 when we started trying for a baby... I was 28, nearly 29 by the time we actually got one! Operations/infertility/IVF/ICSI et al meant having a baby wasn't as easy as it should have been... and we were two "normal" very healthy, fit young people. so you can just never tell. I am glad I didn't wait til we were in our 30s because the babies that did arrive (i got 2 in 18 months lol) may never have happened if I'd been 10 years older. Possibly, if you do watn to wait, getting your fertility checked out might be the smart thing to do so when you decide you are ready, hopefully there won't be huge hurdles in the way!
So not sure if that answers your questions! I wanted to be a younger mum, but it didn't happen that way. It's the way it worked out and now I wouldn't swap those years DH and I had and that I had on my career.
I think there are real pros and cons for both sides. It's like whether to have kids close together in age or wait five or so years between them... courses for horses and all that.