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For me the downsides are:-
- Mummy guilt definately mummy guilt (I am the at work parent while my dh is the stay at home parent) - I have truck loads of guilt, guilt when Im at work, guilt when I am at home.
- No time to my self (like none at all)
- How long it takes to do anything
But having said that I would not change it for anything, however my DH and I have decided that one is our limit :)
Thanks again, everyone!
I think one thing I have to worry about a little less than others is the social life. I've never been a particularly social person, nor do I ever really do things on a whim, so I guess that's one thing that probably wouldn't bother me so much!
And in regards to a career, well I recently left my boring 9-5 job to start my photography business, which I think is going to constantly be very up and down and unpredictable, anyway.
I guess what I'm saying is that I'm going to need to learn (more) to just take things as they come! That basically sounds like what many of you say parenting is!
It's great you're trying to prepare yourself for the massive change coming your way, but the truth is nothing can prepare you for this life altering event.
One day you're someone, then you go into labour and then.... The entire contents of your life are turned upside down and shaken until everything falls out.
What everyone says is true, but words don't do it justice. And I'm not just being negative, change is good but this change is like no other.
So be very kind to yourself and know that if you feel suddenly overwhelmed, you're definitely not alone.
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Jude 07/10/2008 | Lilac 16/06/2011
Haven't read the responses, but one negative jumps out at me.
The judgement. Every single parenting call you make is wrong and there are thousands of old ladies out there ready to tell you. From sling/pram, breast/bottle, sleep routines, healthcare, using creches, going for coffee, working/staying at home, weaning, cloth/disposable nappies, what you eat and drink... it is endless and stupid. Even now DS is at school, there is still the judgement from people who have never met us before and will never see us again. (However, few people say things to me directly, I generate an aura of "I am prepared to tell you why you're stupid" or something. So I find out later from DH or friends.)
Most people expect sleepless nights and a period of adjustment. I didn't expect the nastiness and plain weirdness of comments from strangers, especially old ladies.
Kuraiza has put it well....there is no preparation or even words that are adequate!