Pregnancy After Stillbirth/Recurrent Miscarriage/Late Loss February 2009

Hello to all of you strong ladies. I've just joined this today, and have felt comforted that other women have been through similar things as I have. My grandmother died on Mother's Day, and after her funeral five days later - I started to bleed. I was nine weeks along. I went to my OBGYN who told me that there was no longer a heartbeat present. There was one just a week prior - I was so sad. This is my fifth loss. I do have two beautiful girls; one is 12, and one is 5. After my first daughter came so easily, I tried again two years later only to suffer an ectopic, and two miscarriages a year after that. Then came my second daughter with the help of oral and vaginal progesterone up until the 13 week of pregnancy. I had another miscarriage 2 years ago, and now this one. I really don't understand it all. I get pregnant so easily, but can't keep them after the 9th week. I do so want more children - but I'm so afraid! This D & C that I had this time was really rough and painful. I'm getting older now (35), and am wondering if I should just quit. Maybe I should adopt? Is God trying to tell me something? Any advise or help would be so greatly appreciated.

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Ocean Air - no advice hun only you can work out what you want to do but just wanted to off you some big hugs :hug:

Teagz - yay we get to be in a thread together again woo hoo welcome aboard :clap: How are you travelling sweets??

Laney - how exciting 3rd June is just around the corner I bet you cannot wait.

Ellie, Rozzie, ZM - hi how are you all???

I am still ticking along, having weekly scans of the cervix which is still long and closed and I am hoping it stays that way. I saw a BH conraction on my last US the specialist was not worried about it and said it wasn't uncommon to see them at 14 weeks as thats when they actually start they are just too small to see. I will be mentioning it to my Ob though when I see him on thurs. I am starting maternity leave early and will be finishing up in less than 15 weeks time I soooo cannot wait.

TTFN

Nae x x x

Hi Ladies,
I am still here. Our little man has not decided to come early. It looks like Wed. is the day. I have my last doctor appt. and ultrasound Monday afternoon. I have been having a difficult week waiting. I think the worry is worse now than it was early on. I can't help thinking that something will happen to him in these last couple of days. I will post again as soon as I get the chance. I am not sure if the hospital has internet or not but I will have the laptop.

Ocean air- It is hard to give people advice on the topic of trying again. It is soooo difficult and emotional to try again after any loss. You really need to be strong and ready for anything to happen. Good things have happened for so many women in this forum but there has also been so much heartbreak.

ooohhh Laney getting closer now, I am soo looking forward to your BA. Sending you lots of love and luck

Nae x x x x

Laney - I just wanted to pop in & say I hope everything goes well for you, you really deserve all the happiness in the world hun, xoxoxo

hi laney just wanted to send you best wishes for wednesday. understandably you would be very nervous but the prize is so close now - and very soon will be snuggled up in your arms! cant wait to here the news!

sim
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Hi Laney - I will be thinking of you on Wednesday and saying many prayers for you. It is only natural to be feeling anxious, as you have been waiting so long for this day and working so hard to achieve this. You will get your baby! I can't wait to hear the announcement and see some photos. :hug:

Hi Laney...thinking of you hun...lots of love xxx

OceanAir...I'm so sorry for your loss. I have had a similar journey...our little miracle was our 7th pregnancy...the doc had me take a 'cartia' asprin everyday and progesterone pessaries up till 10 weeks...could be worth investigating??? Take carexxx

All good here...Anika is sleeping 7pm till 7am...and feeding every 3 hours thorugh the day...can set my watch by her!!! So for now it's great but I'm well aware it can all change in a heartbeat!!! And for some reason I'm already thinking about trying for number 2...I should just be thankful for our little miracle but the urge is back!!!

Have a great week ladies. Exxx

Laney, wishing you all the best for tomorrow, I can't wait to hear your BA and how it felt to hear you baby cry for the first time. I'm getting all teary for you now!!!

Ocean air, my only advice is to have very thorough testing for anything that could be causing you to miscarry. It could be something that can be treated, giving you every chance of having another baby in your arms. If your doctor won't do it find someone else. Don't give up until you have explored every avenue. Good luck!!

Henry is so wonderful... I'm so in love, he's such a good baby, sleeps 8 hours at night. And he grins at us now, melts my heart.

Love Rozzie

Laney - I couldn't not wish you all the very best for meeting your dear little man. I've followed your journey (and it's been such a long and sad journey) and it's lovely to see you finally achieving your dreams. You will meet your boy, and you deserve every ounce of happiness. Enjoy every precious moment of it.

Lee xo

Awww Laney your day is almost here. This time tomorrow your little one will be in your arms... I am so incredibly happy that this day is almost upon you!
I will light my candle in the morning for you and your baby... :hug:

Just wanted to wish you luck Laney for the big day! I can't wait to hear your happy news x

I had to pop on to see all the well wishes everyone has sent to Laney. I can't wait to hear her news. She is so deserving of all the happiness that her little one will bring. I know that this will bring a new wave of hope to all you ladies currently watching the weeks tick by until your earth babies arrive.

I am so jealous reading about these babies that sleep 8 hours at a stretch. Anna is now 6 and half months and I am still waiting for a solid 5 hour sleep. I can't complain though as she is the happiest, giggliest bundle of fun. I told another mother the other day about Nathaniel and she looked at Anna and said 'she must be so precious to you' and she hit the nail on the head. Each day is a blessing and a joy, even if I am tired!

OceanAir - I am sorry to read about your losses. Take the advice of the girls about testing etc, you will find plenty of knowledge in this group. It is only natural to want to get your earth baby. Sending you a big hug and welcome to this group, I hope you find comfort and support here. :hug:

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Laney I hope all went wel today and you are relishing holding your precious baby safe in your arms.

Lee how are you feeling?

so are tickers with pics ok in this thread then? I am not sure. I only post here now.

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thanks flowerchild for letting me know. my sincere appologies for not reading this more carefully :redface:. completely understand - there is the gallery after all so pictures can go in there.

waiting to here some news from Laney ....

Hi all - still waiting to hear from Laney. I can't wait to hear her news.

I know I am going to sound stupid, but do the rules mean that THIS thread being a pregnancy one is exempt from the no-signature rules? I don't want to break the rules so just double checking. I have turned off my sig just in case.