Pregnancy After Stillbirth/Recurrent Miscarriage/Late Loss February 2009

Hi Ladies

Welcome Joselyn - glad you are here!!!! My story is on here somewhere but not sure where?!?! It was a while ago when I posted it. It is awesome to be pg again but I am also terrified. Just want to get to the end and have a healthy bub in my arms.

AngelLukesMom - Glad you had a great baby shower!! Thinking of you and just know all will be well and you will have your precious baby in your arms soon.

AFM - Had our nuchal scan today. It was such a relief to see our baby and see the heart beat!!! I have had dreams the last 2 nights that they told me there was no heart beat and I have been freaking out!!!

Results should be received on Ties/Wed. Bub is now 6.6cm and heart rate was 162bpm. I feel so relieved!!! Just want the other results and I may be able to realx a bit.

I am so tired as I have had a 13 hour day yesterday and a 12 hour day today. Just wanted to post before I go to bed.

Take care.
Theresa

Hello,

I just wanted to say thank you for telling me about your experiences so far.

I was getting very excited till I heard you went back into hospital - I think I'm a little terrified at how I would handle that news - I think I would imagine the worst happening all over again. BUT, everything has turned out well for you so far, so I should look at that part of the story right! :P (gotta be more positive..gotta be more positive);)

As for the goal setting - that is exactly what I said to the goals in the TTC forum. I said I would be happy to make it to 6 weeks, then to the 12 weeks, then to the 14 week stitch and then as you said, every ultrasound from there.

So can I ask, do you have any other children or will this be your first? And do you think you will go again if it is your first?

So happy to hear you had a lovely baby shower - it sounds like you deserved the best and you got it. I'm sure the family and friends in your lfie are thirlled for you.

Much love, Joselyn.

Theresa - that is GREAT news about your NT scan! :dance:

Joselyn - Happy to share my story with you :)
Yep, being in hospital sucked and emotionally was the worst time in this pg for me and I did have many a moment in there where I dreaded the worst happening. My ob is very cautious though and did admit at the time that maybe he was overreacting having me stay in - he and I weren't willing to risk anything though and looking back those 3 weeks did go pretty fast and if that was what it took to get me here now then it was well worth it! Lots of women don't need any bedrest at all or only need to take it easy at home, so as you said, think positive! I hope that you are one of those women :pray:
Luke was our first child so not having any other live children has certainly made it easy for me to rest up and concentrate solely on this pg - I imagine having other children at home would make it a lot harder, but even so, yes we plan to go back for 1 more pregnancy after this one. Not any time soon though; I need to recover from the stress of this pg first!! I have read that some women find that the next pg after a stitch is often better because the cervix has some scar tissue which helps toughen it up. Not sure if that is true but it sounds good ;)
Do you have any other children?

My sister is having her 19 week scan in about 15 mins and I am not letting my mobile out of my sight until I hear that all is good. For her, all she can think about is finding out if she is having a boy or girl, but all I can think about is whether that little bub is all healthy and well. I'm sure it will all be good :pray:

Thanks ALM,

You are right - it soudns as if you made the right choice and if it meant getting here, then what else could you do.

I have a fab OB who comes highly recommended and is a high risk specialist working out of the Freemasons. Dr Stephen Cole. Not sure if you have heard of him. Anyhow, I am going to meet with him in a couple of weeks and we'll obviously discuss the plan ahead. I am DEFINITELY getting the stitch put in and I actually plan to go on bed rest from that point on. Just till 30 weeks. It seems dramatic but there isn't anything I wouldn't do to have this child come home with me - so if that is what it takes, then I'm doing it! I just couldn't bare the thought of being in hospital again and having the waiting game start. Who knows, it might still happen but I want to do my darndest for it not to.

I don't have any living children either, and like you, would like to have at least two. I personally would love three but I have to get to 1 first ;)

Thanks again for your advice, it is much appreciated.

Love Joselyn. xx

Just a quick post about todays OB appt:
My OB is off to New Zealand for a conference for 4 days and it is just before my EDD of April 4.
So..
next Monday March 23 as well as doing another growth scan he will also check for cervical ripeness. If that doesn't set things off (it did with Nic and he arrived that night) then on Tuesday afternoon/evening he will insert the double balloon thingy and then Wednesday morning at 8am break the waters and hopefully deliver Daniel during the course of the day. All of this is only if he doesn't arrive by his own steam before then.
So between March 23-25 we are having our baby.

I don't understand the new way of measuring engagement which is a measure out of 5 but he is 3/5 so if anyone can explain that one for me :)

Oh Judy, not lng now, xoxoxo

Hi guys! I completely lost track of my thread subscriptions so I've been AWOL for a week. But now I'm all read-up again and know how you are. Welcome, Joselyn! We understand that you can't fully accept this pregnancy yet. Unfortunately it's going to be a while yet, but it will happen gradually and eventually you'll hopefully notice that you feel just fine about it, whether that be in a couple week or in, say, 8 months. :) Luckily, bubs will just keep doing their thing in there even though mom is worried.

Hello to everyone else! Looks like it's be a race to the finish between Jude and Rozzie! :D

Hi flowerchild

I am new to this website and iv just experienced my 3rd miscarriage:redface: and need just to talk to people that have experience this and to see if there are some sore of tests that can be done I should be referred to a specialist soon first miscarraige nov 07 @ 6.5 weeks Sept 08 3 months and have him buried with my dad and just yesterday 5.6 days I have been told to go on fertility plus and just want to get some advise please i am so devasted and I feel like I will never have my little baby I am going to start acupunture and she said if you are starting to have a miscarriage that if you get acupunture done that cant help stop it

Hi Ladies,
It has been so quiet in here!

I just wanted to hear some news from the ladies that are going to have their bubs any day: Judy, Rozzie, Tildy.

Lee, It is great to hear from you. I think you should try for another baby. How much extra work could it really be adding one more?

Jo, It was also great to hear from you. I hope you have been doing well.

I have another growth scan on tuesday with my high risk doctor. He wants to see me more often. I guess I will be switching from an office ultrasound every 2 weeks to an ultrasound with the high risk doctor. As long as someone keeps a close eye on the pregnancy I am happy. I had an office ultrasound early this week and he was still growing great. Working on 3 pounds now, a couple weeks ahead! Clexane really is amazing, I never expected it to work this well for me. I told my DH a couple of weeks ago that he could start thinking about getting a room ready for the baby after my 30 week appt. A HUGE STEP FOR ME. That appt. is getting very close.

Hi Laney! The nursery is a big step, but I think you'll enjoy it and feel stronger for doing it. Your posts seem more confident all the time; I remember that you struggled so much to be positive at the beginning.

I'm still chugging along here. I'm 38+1 today, so it's officially any minute now, though I'm trying to be patient. We just went out for dinner and a movie, and I think it might be the last such adventure for a while. Me and DH, both hobbling back to the car (he's stretched a muscle in his leg), yawning, at 9:15 pm, along the night club street in town that we know won't even start to fill up with people for another hour... yup, we're old, bring on the baby! :lol:

Laney, great news on your boy's growth!!! ultrasounds every 2 weeks will be great for you, you'll get regular reassurance, and in the very unlikely event there's a problem they can pick it up early and do something about it.

You're at the time when you lost Shelby, are you doing OK?

I was about the same stage when we started buying things and looking at the nursery. It is a big step but lots of fun also!!!

four more days from me... can't wait... house is a big mess though so lots to do before then!

love Rozzie

Not long now for a few of us.
Laney the extra scans will be a reassuance.

Tildy yep early nights for me too although DH stays up to settle our 4 yr old.

Rozzie I only have til Monday. So one full day to go. Backache is a real killer and so sharp with teh ctx I get. Big ouchies.
I just want my car cleaned inside and washed inside as well as out now and then all is ready.

Hoping42009baby: I am so sorry for your losses. I also suffered recurring miscarriage but for no known reason. I have had a laparoscopy, hysteroscopy, HSG, all the blood tests under the sun and no known reason. Then when we had given up hope along comes Daniel. I hope you d manage to get some testing done. You will need to see a fertility spciecialst or an RE to hopefully get some answers.

hugs and hope
Jude

How exciting Jude and Rozzie! Can't wait to hear your announcements...

Laney, I am so happy to read your update on your little one. Enjoy getting that nursery set up - you will be needing it this time for sure!

I'm not too far behind you girls - saw my ob yesterday and looks like we are on track for stitch removal plus induction on the 14 April when I will be 38w1d. Bubs is sitting nice and low (3/5) so halfway there and my ob is confident that by 38w she should be set to go, if she doesn't decide to come earlier on her own accord of course ;)

I spent Tuesday day and night in the hospital due to some false labour which was fun...not! I hate being in that hospital after all that bedrest time before. Next time I am there, I want it to be when she is being born! All has been good since so hopefully we won't have any more "practice runs". I ended up going in due to quite strong regular BH, groin pain and lots of bowel movements ( :redface: ) - the CTG showed some cx but they didn't really escalate & eventually fizzled out with some panadol and sleeping tablets. I think that was the start of bubs "dropping" as since then my tummy has definitely changed shape and my pelvis feels uncomfortable with weird stretchy pains. She must have a little more room now she is lower too cause I got woken up yesterday with the biggest kick to my ribs - ouch!

Anyway, good luck for Monday Jude and for you too Rozzie later in the week. It's baby time!!! :dance:

hoping42009baby -- I'm sorry I didn't see your post and hopped over it; I don't want you to think I ignored it! I'm sorry to hear of your repeated losses and of the very understandable emotional turmoil that it is causing you. Both BB and Flowerchild are such excellent resources for both information and support. Are you currently trying to get pregnant and/or meeting with a fertility specialist to start some testing?

Jude, in case I don't have another chance to say so before Monday, yay and best of luck! So exciting to get a new baby in here again!

Hi Jude - just popping in to wish you well with your last days of having Daniel on board!!! Looking forward to hearing when I can come up and give him a cuddle - this could well sway my decision for 'just one more' you know!!!! I hope you have a beautiful birth, and all goes very smoothly!!! Take care, and see you soon xox

hoping42009baby, sorry I missed your post as well. The only thing I can suggest is you make sure you do a lot of research on the causes of recurrent miscarriage so you can make sure that they properly test you for everything. I've not experienced the same thing so I can't offer you personal advice, but I've done a lot of research and just wanted to reassure you that for most medical causes of recurrent miscarriages there are effective treatments available. I hope your fertility specialist is someone you trust and who you can ask lots of questions because understanding the issues can be a big help.

I would also suggest you read the sticky on recurrent miscarriage in the TTC after late loss/recurrent miscarriage thread.

Good luck,

Rozzie.

And good luck Jude for Monday!!! only 2 more sleeps!!!

Hi Ladies

Just popping in to check on our expecting mums! Gosh it's getting close now! Thinking of you!

Hoping42009baby...we have travelled the recurrent mirscarriage journey and found so much support and information here on BB. Pop into the ttc after recurrent miscarriage and late loss thread...sorry I don't know how to do a link for you. If you search in that section you will find some great information regarding all the testing you can have done. My advice for what it's worth...push to have the tests now...enduring the loss of a child is too hard...why wait any longer for info than you have to...may save yourself more heartbreak. But please, please have hope...it took us ten years...we gave up on IVF and then our little miracle happened out of the blue!

As for us...well it's all a blur lol! I think Anika is sleeping and eating well but being a first time mum I don't really know...but she's here and she's safe and I look at her every day and thank God she is here...can't wait to for you girls to feel the same! Exxx

my goodness, I cannot believe Anika is almost a month old already!!! time flies.

any more pics for us Ellie?