Suse,
the baby's head moulds in the pelvis, so no, in general a CPD baby would not have a very moulded head, as CPD is when the baby's head is unable to fit into the pelvis. Unless you have had a disease like polio, rickets or an injury to the pelvis where the bones were broken or some other thing to cause a deformity of the bones, it is very very unlikely that your baby would fit into the pelvis but not out of it.
What positions did you push in for those 3 hours? In general, because the sacral and pubic bone joints are loosened by relaxin during pregnancy, a baby that fitted IN will fit OUT - the looser joints make the whole pelvis like a hinge, if you press on the two highest pelvic arches (top of your hips) it opens the bottom of the pelvis - this is called a "pelvic press" and is a way of unsticking babies who are taking a long long time to mould and seem to have problems fitting through. Did your care providers try this?
Another sign of a CPD baby is that they remain high - women generally do not have a pushing urge or never have it consistently (every contraction) because the head is not low enough to press on those nerves which drive expulsive pushing. Did you have an urge to push or were you coached to push? I read your birth story and think i remember you had an epidural which they turned down? When you pushed then did you feel you wanted to or did they tell you push when you felt the contraction?
With posterior babies all bets are off - it is HARD for a posterior bubs of average size to get out - the normal pushing time for a first posterior bubs is 2 or more hours, from that POV although you pushed a long time, it was not abnormally long for that sort of labour (i know a woman who had a brow baby, pushed for SIX hours!). The pelvis/baby combo is the perfect shape for an anterior baby to fit through, and the head of a posterior bub is back to front, the neck has to flex more than it would normally, various little geographic features inside get in the way and make the process longer and harder.
In addition the kind of pelvic measuring the ob did (either with fingers or scans) is very unreliable - it's about as accurate as sizing the baby with ultrasound - it can be ok but is often WAY off. There is really no way to tell if a baby will fit through except by trying it (have a look at Kel's tiny women birthing big babies to see what i mean) and i suspect until someone is actually able to give birth inside an mri machine the mysteries of the mechanics of the female form will remain mysterious.
I'm not sure about genetically linked CPD - how would a trait like that have survived the 80,000 years of humanity before c-sections? Were you a c-section baby? Was your mother? Was her mother? These are the sorts of things that would have killed humanity off many many thousands of years ago. The only thing i think is reliably being passed down due to the high diagnosis of conditions like this and c-sections in response is fear. I know several women who had c-sections because their mums had them and they did not BELIEVE the women in their family could birth!
It sounds from the size/shape of your baby's head that he had definitely begun the arduous task of fitting back to front through the pelvis. Posterior labours can be so hard and painful, the back pain was terible for me until she turned (my bubs was possie for the first part of my first stage, spent ALOT of contractions backwards on chairs, rocking on my knees, crawling about etc. and luckily she turned).
ETA- ok, i've had a read of your birth story again and i would say that....with a posterior labour the first stage is often slow (days and days) as prelabour is what turns the baby. The fact that they tried to induce things when they were slow meant your bubs was pushed hard down into the pelvis while still posterior. It can take a long time (know a woman on another board who had prelabour (i.e. painful ctx but very little dilation) for 8 days before bubs turned anterior while she was scrubbing her kitchen floor) for the prelabour to turn a possie bub, but if you're well-supported and know which positions will help bubs turn they often will, and then labour follows swiftly and smoothly.
Once you were under way and had pethidine and the epidural, this is another factor. I had very brief possie labour and believe me, i KNOW how painful just a tiny taster of it is, so i'm not questioning why you went that route, i just want to point out that the route itself has complications. Pethidine passes to the baby, who needs to be alert in order to turn. I did read a study not long ago (on paper unfortunately) that suggested the rate of positional problems is significantly higher in bubs whose mums had pethidine or morphine during labour - maybe one of the other ladies will have a link - babies usually make vigourous efforts to assist their own births, and babies who have had drugs cannot do this so well. In addition the pelvic floor muscles, the deep ones, actually assist in turning the baby and with an epidural this doesn't happen. With the epi it is usually impossible for mum to get her weight off her sacrum entirely. Sitting up can be some help with an anterior labour but with a possie you really need all your weight off your butt and gravity helping you.
Your baby became distressed, it is very unlikely that by the time that happened there was ANYTHING you could have done to avoid surgery - he was no longer coping with the labour. High forceps delivery is dangerous and usually very damaging to the perineum and vaginal canal, from that POV a c-section would have been the best option for your Ob at that time - possie bubs are hard to extract as well as birth through the vagina!
However i do think that it's INCREDIBLY likely that you would be able to birth an anterior bubs, when even a possie one had moulded to that extent and fit into your pelvis, and that even with another possie, if you avoided certain elements that featured in this labour your body would be able to either turn the baby or get it out facing the wrong way itself.
HTH
Bx
