I do understand what you are saying about a later termination. Just thought I would mention that I was still being offered a surgical termination depending on my amnio results. Apparently I would still have met the time limits.
If your concern is birthing your baby rather than a surgical termination, it might be worth talking to you doctor further. My regular doctor couldn't do a late surgical termination, but there was another one who could.
If it came to it I would have much preferred to have a surgical termination as the baby passes away early in the procedure without suffering.
After losing a baby at 12 weeks I look at pregnancy differently. I know that with some people as soon as they are pregnant they say they are having a baby. When I'm pregnant, I'm just pregnant and there is no guarantee of a baby, I just take things one day at a time and hope for the best. Anything can go wrong and sometimes it does. So when it comes to taking the risk of having a cvs and an amnio, well I just see that as part of the uncertainty of pregnancy. It is not something I have any control over and certainly not something I chose.
So in response to the question of how I would have felt if either the cvs or the amnio caused me to miscarry my baby...... I would be devastated, but I would not feel that it was my fault.
I have gone through a lot with this pregnancy. It wasn't until I was about 20 weeks that we had all the test results back and while they were all good they aren't conclusive. All they can tell us is that they haven't found anything wrong, not that there definitely is nothing wrong. We will just have to wait and see when it is born and as it grows up. I have found it really difficult to enjoy this pregnancy. I have been hiding away from friends and family until I had all the test results and now that I'm finally telling people about the pregnancy they want to know why I have been keeping it from them.
I hope hearing some other stories helps you with your decision.

