where does baby sleep after getting home?

There is nothing wrong with your baby going into a cot in its own room straight from hospital if thats what you choose to do..

I personally have had all my babies in my room till 12 months or older.. i sleep quite well as does Dh.. And on those nights when baby was crying lots honeslty it was simply to bad tso sad LOL.. I did sleep on the couch (sitting up) with bubs from time to time but mainly Dh would go sleep elsewhere as he knew my sleep was just as important. It isn't that easy to go to sleep during the day when baby does..

I am sure you will make the right decision to suit you and your partners :)

As everyone else has said, there is nothing wrong with whatever you decide. But i don't think you should make concrete plans until you have bubs at home.
I assumed DS would sleep in his own room but i found it reassuring in the first weeks to have him close by so i could keep checking on him. Then we both found that we actually slept better with DS in our room as we were getting up often during the night for feeds/comforting etc until DS got the Day/Night thing sorted. DH is a shift worker so his sleep is important too. Sometimes if he really needs to sleep, he just wears earplugs!
DS has been in his own room since about 16 weeks and I hate getting up in the night with it being cold etc - sometimes I wish he was back with us in our room!

There's nothing wrong with what you have planned. It's exactly what we planned to do but it didn't end up that way.

Our bubs ended up in special care due to infection so when we came home there was no way I was putting him at the other end of the house. I had him in his cradle right next to the bed on my side so I could pop my head in to check on him at any time. I love all the noises he makes at night.

I would never have thought the cradle would fit in the room as our bedroom is small but we managed to fit it in.

Getting up to settle bubs or feed bubs is much easier if you have them in the room with you. We have now moved him out to the lounge (closest room to our bedroom) and the next step will be down to his bedroom with a monitor once he gets over his cold.

As for the comments about co-sleeping. I did this a little in the beginning when he wouldn't sleep. I found it hard to sleep that way as I was so worried he'd get squashed or fall out of bed. Also it's not recommended if one of you smokes or if you have a pet that sleeps on the bed. My mum knows someone who has a 10 year old that still co-sleeps so I also didn't end up going down that track.... total end to intimacy in that marriage I reckon.

Someone made a comment about cot death. It needs to be remembered that SIDS can occur anywhere at any time. It doesn't always happen in a cot. The only person I know IRL who's son died of it had it happen while she was cooking dinner and he wasn't in a cot at the time.

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My mum knows someone who has a 10 year old that still co-sleeps so I also didn't end up going down that track.... total end to intimacy in that marriage I reckon.

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Only if you only DTD in bed which frankly would get pretty boring....
I think a 10 year old in the bed would be a one in a thousand. I know a 25 year old who still sleeps in her parents bed but she is a survivor of torture so I wouldn't judge co-sleeping by her case.

We tried to put him in our room but the basinette wouldn't fit - we ended up putting his cradle in the walk-in-robe ;) That worked just fine for us, we kept the door open and we had the baby monitor and also a breathing monitor (OK, I was paranoid).

Mind you, for the first 6 weeks we just camped on the recliner chair in the lounge room cause it was easier with feeding and getting him to sleep anyhows :) Plus I love the snuggles. I miss the snuggles.

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Does anyone else find that their co-sleeping baby won't sleep well without mum (or dad) there sleeping with them?

...Surely there is a middle ground here?

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I guess with real attachment parenting, they'd be wearing the baby through the day, so bub sleeps on them, and then sleeps with them at night too. But if you just want to co-sleep, then that's usually just at night, and bub would have day sleeps on his own. So there is a middle ground. Co-sleeping is great for not needing to fully get up to feed through the night, so you do get more sleep that way.

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If I had my time again, I'd probably get one of those Arms Reach co-sleepers in the hope he'd be more comfortable in that, he really hated the bassinet.

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We've got this, and I highly recommend it. It's co-sleeping, but not! LOL. It's worked well for us because DS still comes in through the night (most nights) and if DD was in our bed I'd worry that he'd climb all over her. This way she is still right next to me, but in her own blankets and things. She can actually crawl out of it now, so I'm not supposed to use it hehe.. we have set up the other 'big' cot in DS's room, but I like having her next to me, so I need to wean myself off it.

DS did go in a cot in his own room when we came home from hospital. This worked ok for us.. and he started co-sleeping when he was about 7 months, then into his big bed at 13 mths.

I'm too nervous to co-sleep with a very new baby, so the Arms Reach thing has been perfect for me to use from day 1 for DD.

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Co-sleeping is great for not needing to fully get up to feed through the night, so you do get more sleep that way.

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Couldn't agree more.

Im just wondering why SIDS is unheard of with co-sleeping? Is it because they are also children (cultures) that don't vaccinate? Would really like to know if anyone has an answer. I just cannot see that it would make a difference. (especially inthis day and age with all the monitors). Thanks xo

Meg, I have no idea why SIDS would be unheard of with co-sleeping (and I doubt it could prevent the SIDS cases that occur during day sleeps) but in my case I woke up in a flat panic one night because Imran had stopped breathing. It was only after I gave him a full-on shake that he took a huge gasp for breath (but didn't wake up). Had I been sleeping in a seperate room and relying on a monitor I never would have woken up and my gorgeous little Imran would be another SIDS statistic.
It took me months before I could sleep well again after that.

There's also a theory that the baby regulates him/herself to your own breathing & heartbeat.

Wow Dachlostar that is scary. Im glad all was well. And Kaz that is an interesting point too. I have done a mixture with my girls. The reason I didn't continue co-sleeping was because I am SUCH a light sleeper, I just woke up continuously. It was good for the feeding and that's why I started.
I guess I'll play it by ear again. I guess after 9 months in the womb it must be strange being taken out of that environment totally. I might do some more research into it.
thanks xo

:)B1 went into a bassinette and then a cot in his own room, and we battled every night for almost a year to get him to sleep. Poor dear would fall asleep from exhausted crying about 11pm- we tried everything, then put him into bed with us and hes great, hes now 2.5 and wanting his own bed- which is great because we have B2 now, B2 has a basinnette and sleeps in it in daytime, but at night hes in with us, we have our bed against a wall and have baby next to wall, adult, baby, adult on the outside. Soon B1 will move into his own bed and room- but at his pace. This is the way we work. My husbands chinese and most chinese co-sleep with their babys

I tried to quickly check up on the Sids and co-sleeping thing. As far as I could see in searching online through a few articles,

- the jury is out as to whether it really helps, because the data collection has been dodgy in the studies - there are too many variables, and not enough detail gathered when anyone has actually tried to study it. (maybe this has changed this the articles I read were written, though)

- one theory as to why it might help is that the baby sleeps more lightly when co-sleeping as compared to on their own, so they don't get into the deep sleep that can (apparently) result in breathing failures (I know nothing about the mechanism of this).

- another theory is that it has to do with the improved temperature regulation that sleeping by a larger body (the parent) provides.

For us...we sleep better having bubs in our room with us. This means we have a bassinette set up for the first 3 months, then sidecar a cot as an extension of our bed. Most often bubs will be in bed with us but it gives us that privacy and space when we feel we may need it.

I know when i first had dd I had her in a seperate room for the first few months and omg it was doing my head in continually checking her. I much rather just being able to feel, hear etc how bubby is doing.

Jo

With my 3 girls they all slept in the basinette (which is still have and am going to use for this bubs) and it was next to my bed until bubs moved around a bit too much for my liking then moved into a cot. Maddi (my 2yo) is going into her own bed today because she has worked out how to climb out!

As others have said, it depends on your bub, and on how you feel when you get home from hossy. At night, DS slept in a bassinette in our room until he was 12 weeks old. I would have loved him to stay longer (I was really nervous about moving him to his own room), but he was past the weight limit of the bassinette. He slept in his cot in his own room during the day (because that room is air-conditioned & ours isn't). He had no trouble going between the two.

The other thing to consider is night feeds. If you are going to breastfeed, it's so much easier to just be able to put bubs in bed with you while you feed (which can be quite frequent in those first few weeks/months).

I still bring DS into bed with me after his 'night' feed (which is about 5am) - I get a longer sleep that way & we can wake up together about 7am.

Hm so much to decide on. Now I am leaning towards having bump in the room with us. I didn't want to buy a bassinet when I would only use it for a few months. What if I had bump in his bassinet in his pram sleep in the room with us, is this ok?

Hi puppies

There are people who will advise against bub sleeping in a pram bassinette overnight. I can't actually remember why but I did it (well, DD did it rather!)

As the others have said, you really don't need to decide on this right now. Set up the cot in the baby's room, have the pram bassinette in your room and see which one you prefer. If after a few days, you prefer using the pram bassinette but are worried about the risks, then maybe buy a cheap Moses basket.