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Hi all,
Kelly you look amazing in the photos and the boys are so cute.
Grub, I suggest you sit down and cross you legs for at least the next 2 weeks lol, but seriously take it easy.
We are all good here, still reading but manic busy with work and well just life in general.
Have a lovely weekend.
Well done Kelly.
Hope that bub stays happy inside for another month for you grub! Now that DH is home, you can get him to do the housework and you can put your feet up!
lol thanks lenny. we no longer refer to them as feet by the way... just a couple of stumps with some toes hanging off the end :)
yeah, things have settled so now my new prediction is at 40+weeks... mainly cos i'm so impatient and excited to meet this little person!!!
So long as it doesn't come before june 2 (which is 37 weeks) i'll be happy... i can still have my water birth/birth centre labour then :)
Now just a litle gloat... at 17 months old Ashton aka Thy Gorgeous One has mastered the cup! and no ordinary cup, a big heavy coffee cup from the local cafe. He had a baby cino yesterday, when the froth was done for, picked up the cup (much to my horror initially) and drank up the rest of the milk... hardly a drop spilt! Mummy was clapping like an idiot, Ash was beaming with pride, other customers were looking at us like we were dorks :)
Been very quiet in here. How is everyone trundling along???
We haven't heard from murph for ages... wonder how things are in Orange! We all know Kelly is amazing! But how are you going now you're home kel?
Report in people!
Lise here, reporting for duty ;)
Kel, I couldn't look at your pics so will hit you up on FB with a friend request so I can take a peek! I can't imagine how you could have time to post pics etc, I'm so impressed!!!
Grub, ah, gotta love those cankles, so attractive aren't they?! Hope this bubba can hold off long enough for you to get your birth centre birth, but not for toooooo long! And yay for Ash mastering the cup :clap: I remember when I worked in childcare in the toddler room (18 months - 2.5 years), one of the first skills I taught the toddlers was to drink from a cup without a lid and to POUR THEIR OWN DRINKS FROM A JUG! The parents were HORRIFIED but the toddlers were so excited and really more than capable :)
Saph (for some reason my iPad suddenly thinks Saph is ZAPU???) hope life has calmed down somewhat for you!
Hello to everyone else :hello: hope you're all trundling along nicely.
We've just had a long weekend in Melbourne, we went down to see our FS about number two. We don't want to go just yet but I haven't done a FET before so wanted to see what was involved, especially since we're now in Canberra and our embryo is in Melbourne with our FS... Anyway, had a good chat and think we've worked things out for when we're ready. Not sure when that will be though!!
We've also had a sick boy again, another viral infection and conjunctivitis, just was we were about to fly out of the state! He had a really high temp during the week and on Wednesday night, (our flight was 9am Thursday) it went up to 40+. Back to the doctor to get some antibiotics and now he's back to his normal happy self.
I do have a question for you though: would you be worried about weight loss? In the last two months Finn has had a couple of viral infections and a couple of bouts of gastro, and he's also now crawling around madly and pulling himself up and walking around furniture etc. I know all of that can cause some weight loss or slow down weight gain, but he weighs less now than he did at 8 months old - he used to be between the 75-90th percentiles and now he's just under the 50th. He's still his happy usual self (when he's not sick!) but I am concerned about his weight...
Ooooops, he's awake and yelling now, better run. Back later!
i'm no expert lise, but while I wouldn't be overly concerned about his weight loss given all his illness and activity lately, I'd still mention it to the MCHN or GP at your next visit.
Can you believe that I was pregnant with this bub when ash was 10 months old! I really do advocate (oh the clarity of hindsight) for waiting a little bit if possible mainly because as they get past 1 and into that 2nd year, they are just so darn active and gorgeous and inquisitive. I wish i could enjoy ash more and do more with him, but can't even get down and give him a good belly tickle anymore :( Good luck for whenever you choose to go again tho! the positive side of going so close for us is the kids will be only 18 months apart and hopefully great mates and well matched for one another!
What you said about the toddlers being capable is SO true. I do find i really underestimate ashton. He is physiucally able to do so much and often it's my fear that stops him (or at least tries to) ... he is also comprehending about 80% of what we say to him, which is amazing! it's only been in the last month or two the ole light bulb has gone on! he puts things away, his dirty bowls/cups in the sink, groceries in the cupboard, food int he fridge, gets the dog's ball for her when it's stuck somehwere etc... we are really discovering the joys of child labour!
oh and kelly is one of my friends on FB, if you have trouble finding her at all she's the only Kelly D on my list (i think lol).
ox
OMG evil has entered our house. First AF since stopped feeding Xavier months ago 4 to be exact. And well lets just say I think I might be dying. lol
But at least it can before we go to Bali.
Yay this time next wek we will be chilling by the pool.
Oh yes and we have had gastro again and both the boys are sick with cough colds. I am looking into changing them into family daycare as I am sick of all the bugs they keep picking up. We were going to have to change them next year because where they are now dont do before and afterschool care but I am looking to change them now.
Hope everyone is doing well, have a lovely weekend.
Way to Kill a perfectly good thread. lol
well we are back from Bali. Had a wonderful time, all relaxed and ready for work in the morning. Didnt evfen once think about the reports I have to write now that I am back.
Hope everyone is doing well. Grub how you going or have I totally missed an exciting announcement.
lol
glad you had a good time!
Hehe, must be the night to post!
We've had a sick boy the last few weeks, it seems to be one viral infection after another. And then Finn had croup - I think in the last few months he's had several courses of antibiotics plus a dose of steroids...
Other than that, I've been battling with returning to work or staying at home with Finn. In most ways I'd love to stay home, but financially it's getting really tight - both our credit cards are maxed and all our big bills have just arrived. I was offered a Childcare spot for the two days I want, starting in August which is what I stated. But the centre was really a bit depressing, just the thought of leaving Finn there had me in tears and I don't know if it was the thought of leaving him or the thought of leaving him there that upset me the most. I've turned it down but I know that DH is getting stressed about money which is stressing me and I don't know what to do. Having worked in Childcare previously I'm very particular about where I would be happy leaving Finn, and there's really only one centre I want him to go to. But I can't get in until next year...
Anyway, enough babbling (can you tell i've had a glass or two of wine?!). Hope everyone is enjoying a lovely long weekend and posts soon xx
Lise you really need to feel comfortable with where you leave them. I am looking into moving the boys. Campbell will need to move at the beginning of next year so I am looking for a family daycare that will take them both. It is a really hard decision to make. Wish you all the best. On the I know where you are coming from side we had maxed out our credit cards last year when I wasnt working and have just now got it all under control. These things have this funny way of working themselves out. I am sure something will come up that is right for your whole family.
On that night I am shattered after my holiday so off to bed as back to work in the morning.
Night All
oh lise, i'm so glad we aren't in that situation... yet. but it must be agonising. hoepfully you might find a way to make things work until next year and get into that nice place.
saph - glad you had a great trip! gee i'm much jealous lol
hi madb.
and all our other mummies.
Still here, still preg.
DS was a horror last night... he woke every 40 mins from about 2.30am! argh. not sure if he was overtired (refused to sleep yesterday) or getting dh's cold (which he's shared wth me! boohhhooo) or if teeth are coming through (he won't let us look).
anyhoo, hi to all.
ox
Hi everyone
I'm still here as well just one very busy mummy, and this is DH's last week at home and he thinks he is getting a cold...
I have come to the conclusion that getting a sleep-in in the mornings just doesn't wotk for me as all it does is put me behind in doing all my chores, I've never had so much washing.
I'm hoping I manage to get a shower in very soon - having BB time while I have something to eat, I don't know if it is breakfast or lunch...
Lise, just wanted to pop in and offer another suggestion, completely left field.
I, too, was hesitant to put DS into CC but have found another option. I am working 4 nights a week in a little restaurant inside a sports club. Totally not my field of work (I'm from a HR background) and definitely not career work, but it's a job. And it helps pay the bills. and no CC. DH gets home, I do the handover then I'm usually home again most nights by 9/9:30pm. Most of the time waitressing/hospitality jobs are easy enough to find. Many don't care about resumes, they just want someone who works hard and can think for themselves. I get great hours because none of the young ones are willing to work nights/weekends as they are too busy socialising. And the best part is it's a job that I can go out & do, then come home & forget about til next shift. No more bringing home work with me every night, or stressing about meetings & deadlines etc.
Anyway, just a suggestion for you to think about.
Not a lot to tell here. House is off the market and waiting on approval from the bank for funding to go ahead and start our renos. So fingers crossed!
A bit of sad news though, unfortunately I had another mc last week at about 5wks. I'm ok, still sad but trying to focus on the positives, this is the first time we've ever conceived on our own without IVF. So I will keep temping and charting and scheduling and all that jazz until worst case scenario, next year when our higher level of health fund kicks in and we can afford another round.
Hope everyone else is doing well and hope you're hanging in there grub! Your ticker's disappeared so not sure where you're at but I'm thinking of you!
Oh BOC, sorry to hear that! :hug:
Lise - do not leave you child somewhere you're not comfortable with. Mummy instincts are really good like that, trust them. BOC's idea of a workaround might be worth considering, just for the time being?
We put DS into a centre we were uncofortable with and it was a disaster. Totally wrong. WAited and found a better one, and feel totally fine about it and DS is happy there. Not working anymore but he still goes :) Things are very tight for us financially and baby bonus will end very soon.... will have to tighten our belts I think.
boc, i'm so sorry to hear about the mc. big hugs huny. and a great idea about the job! :)
kelly! omg you are scaring the bejesus outta me! lol.
oh i'm 39 weeks on Thursday :) mum here on saturday so i'm good to go! but getting lots of prelabour pains and stuff again... thought 'it was time' last night... but nothing intensified or anything bbooooohhhhoooo
Thanks for the replies ladies, BOC, I might give that idea some thought! I need to do something to bring in some money (we didn't get the baby bonus as we earn too much, but because we had to rent our house out when we were in Melbourne and then last year until we moved back home we actually made a loss whichis great for tax but apparently centrelink ADD your loss to your income formsome inexplicable reason and thus we earnt too much :( Anyway, it's not all bad, almost tax time so I should get a good return and then my parents are back from traveling in late October and I will ask my mum to take him a couple of days per week.
BOC, so sorry to hear of your mc :hug: We have one embie on ice and if that doesn't work then I dnt know if we can afford another round either. Here's hoping you can conceive again naturally and that's it sticks xx
Grub, hope DS is giving you some rest xx it's hard enough coping with all the night time wake ups at the best of times, let alone when you're nine months pregnant!
MadB - definitely agree with trusting instincts when it comes to Childcare. At the end of the day we all just want somewhere we're happy leaving our precious bubs knowing they're safe and happy too. I think we can just scrape by until my parents get back and I'm so glad to be able to share this time at home with Finn.
Kelly - how are you going? Sounds like it's super busy in your house, do you get to take any time out for yourself, even if it's a five minute break? Your parents are usually able to help out too aren't they?
Saph, hoe the holiday was great! It just sucks though doesn't it coming home and having to catch up ;)
Big hello to everyone else, hope you're all cursing along nicely xx
When it rains it pours.
Well you will all recall Campbell didnt get a place at the private school that we wanted him to go to. So I ring them on Wednesday to find out where he is on the waiting list. They say (of course) sorry we cant give you that information, but look at other options. The local gov school applications close end of June or July so thought right get my finger into gear and actually look. We are not keen on him going here as the school is huge. They have 8 kindy classes this year.
So Thursday I find info on a small Catholic private school in the area. I have not looked at the school previously as it is in the not so flash suburb near us. Made an appointment and went and had a look and it seems to be a lovely little school and they have a place for him to start kindy next term. They also have before and after school care on site. I was also able to get the extra day daycare that moving him will require. All sorted we are happy with the decision. Booked a time for DH and Campbell to go and have a look next friday.
Few hours after I get home the phone rings (lol I can hear you laughing but our phones dont ring often) It is Admissions for the private school that we wanted him to go to. Do we still want a place and can we come in for an interview. AAARRRGGGGHHH we have gone from having nowhere for him to go to having to many options. lol
Oh the joys of parenthood. we are thinking we will go with our orriginal prefered option. It is considerably more expensive but he will go from pre-primary to year 12 at the one school. If we go with the other school we then have to find a high school for him and he is not garenteed a place at a catholic high school just because he went to primary. And if we find that it is not a good fit for him we can pull him out and still have other options, but if we give up that place thats it.
Hope everyone is having a lovely weekend and grub you are busy with your new wee one.
Well again I have killed the thread. lol
Thought I would update you all. Well Campbell got the place at our preferred school. the very expensive one. But we are so over joyed as they were very supportive of the therapy we are doing with him and acutally have programs that run after school for kids who have similar issues to Campbell. They even commended us for getting the therapy done so early and being advacates for his learning and development. I am over the moon that he got in. We are off to pay our acceptance fee and get the uniform list.
Had to laugh the head of the school as him in the interview what would he like to get out of the school and Campbell replied the playground. lol Great my $6000 a year is paying for him to play in the playground.
Hope everyone is doing well. Grub hope when I get back from our weekend away that you are at last holding that Grubby bubby.
Boo! There's nothing like a Freudian slip to spur me into action but I am just back reading for my first time in about 3 months and while scrolling back a bit, I loved lise's comment, "hope you're all cursing along". I reckon some of us really are...and often!! Too funny.
Ok, a bit of my story. I think maybe I've been borderline depressed. I found the move here hard, although I love it, I'd come from a wonderful community on kangaroo island and I felt like a fish out of water here for about the first two months. I instantly loved the place but I lost momentum and mothering a toddler got tough for a while. Sounds lame but I guess we all have low points. It didn't help that all of the programs ( even library sessions) were booked and there were waiting lists for even simple things so I wasn't getting out of the house much (and that's never good for me as I'm a people person but I easily tend towards agrophobia if I allow myself). I'm over that though and have joined a few good activities and playgroup and started therapy in Sydney and the wheels are back on.
Jazz suffers really badly from teething pain when it happens, and that's literally every second week so I stumble and fumble through a lot, and oh god, I would never go through this again. Did you know, some people don't believe teething pain exists....don't get me started!! She goes off the cochlears and I have all sorts of pressure from everyone to make her wear them but its hard in those times and I just let my mothering instinct decide.
That's all I have to whinge about, is just constant teething, clinginess and regular toddler stuff. Other than that, oh my god, how much fun is 20 months?? It's just the most intensely beautiful period for learning and growth and development and this last week has blown us away!! I'll be back later but jazz is just waking from her first sleep in since forever and is calling me. Love, love love. Xxx
Boo! There's nothing like a Freudian slip to spur me into action but I am just back reading for my first time in about 3 months and while scrolling back a bit, I loved lise's comment, "hope you're all cursing along". I reckon some of us really are...and often!! Too funny.
Ok, a bit of my story. I think maybe I've been borderline depressed. I found the move here hard, although I love it, I'd come from a wonderful community on kangaroo island and I felt like a fish out of water here for about the first two months. I instantly loved the place but I lost momentum and mothering a toddler got tough for a while. Sounds lame but I guess we all have low points. It didn't help that all of the programs ( even library sessions) were booked and there were waiting lists for even simple things so I wasn't getting out of the house much (and that's never good for me as I'm a people person but I easily tend towards agrophobia if I allow myself). I'm over that though and have joined a few good activities and playgroup and started therapy in Sydney and the wheels are back on.
Jazz suffers really badly from teething pain when it happens, and that's literally every second week so I stumble and fumble through a lot, and oh god, I would never go through this again. Did you know, some people don't believe teething pain exists....don't get me started!! She goes off the cochlears and I have all sorts of pressure from everyone to make her wear them but its hard in those times and I just let my mothering instinct decide.
That's all I have to whinge about, is just constant teething, clinginess and regular toddler stuff. Other than that, oh my god, how much fun is 20 months?? It's just the most intensely beautiful period for learning and growth and development and this last week has blown us away!! I'll be back later but jazz is just waking from her first sleep in since forever and is calling me. Love, love love. Xxx
lol saph strikes again! are you getting a complex yet love?
gotta love kids' priorities - private school for the cool playground haha.
oh murph you've done a lot of relocating over the past couple of years, so it's going to be tough. the best thing about us moving about is how close dh and I are as a couple cos we have only got each other... well know we have the two little souls witth us too.
ash is nearly 19 months but yeah, am loving him at this age... but i find i've got to be super strict and tough or he just walks all over me!
Well if you haven't heard yet, I indeed finally popped. and it was a biggin! lol Imogen Grace arrived on July 1 and was 4.6kg.. that's 10 pound 3 and 51cm :) I managed to get her out without a tear or even a graze (and yes dh was making all sorts of crass comments post birth, men!). The birth centre was fantastic and i did most of the pushing part in the bathtub just needed a bit of gravity at the side of the bath to get her shoulders out.
We just can't believe we've got our little girl. it was such an amazing moment to look down and see that little fanny lol. I truly feel so very blessed to have been allowed to mother these two wonderful little souls.
oh and Ashton climbed out of his cot 3 days after immy's arrival... he's currently asleep under his "toddler bed" (the cot with the side removed). and we can't reach him to put him in bed so he's staying there!!! hahahaha. mean parents.
oxoxox
Well I'll strike while the iron is hot. Day 2 of glorious sleep-in. Not that she is an early waker, she just wakes up properly 11.5 - 12 hours from when she goes to sleep and there's no complaints, it' s just that it's full-on from there.
Grub that's priceless! Jazz has the cot with no side too but she can't get under it as I have a swag there for her to fall on. She has however taken to curling up anywhere she decides lately for a power nap, which includes moving the pots aside and closing the kitchen cupboards, or lying on the bottom wire racks of the baker's stand that also serves as her favourite seat. They are pretty cute little souls, mastering so much.
Wow! No wonder Immy has so much of that lovely fat you wanted. What a healthy little chubba:) That's exactly twice Jazzy's birthweight so you can imagine she had no fat whatsoever, hence rugging her up against the Daintree summer! Your body is definitely not letting you down in the birthing stakes, that's a great story. How good is a bath hey?
Before she wakes, I'll update you on the ears. It's been a long time so you might expect, like most people, to be blown away, but it's been a long hard road to here and we are really only just getting good evidence of what Jasmine is understanding and able to repeat in these last few amazing weeks. I think that beyond any doubt, she hears and understands every single thing that we say now and that's just beyond anythng we could have imagined. she has been "slow", for want of a better word, to actually use her voice and show us what she can say and that has been concerning to all sorts of therapists and specialists in NSW and added to my sense of doubt in my own abilities. However, as Mums just know these things, I know she takes in everything and is processing it all. Her Dad didn't speak until he was 3 years old and his first word was a sentence, (complete with giving his Mum the forks and spelling out his words!!), so I allow some room for individuality and I know that she has never been one to vocalise or even cry compared to other deaf babies. She's a watcher, not a doer. So I spend a bit of time defending her and explaining what I know about her, which is that she is growing everyday and I have no fears for her future. She is loving books now and making unprompted animal sounds (like your babies probably did a long time ago) and she has a few solid words and actions in her daily repettoire, so it's all coming together and although I need to aim higher in order to get her to the standard that in NSW they expect her to be at, I'm thrilled and amazed and incredibly happy. And of course, so is she, knowing she is mastering so much and learning how her voice has power to get what she wants.
So that's the nutshell version and now I should be able to jump back on from time to time and catch up with you all.
Seeya next time...she's awake.xxx
It's great to hear that you have no fears for Jazz now. You're right, all kids do things at their own pace. Thanks for the update.
Hi all,
Yep getting a complex. Hope everyone is doing well esp all those with new bubbas. Its a whole new ball game with 2.
Let me update you. We have been extremely busy. DS1 has been diagnosed with Sensory Processing Disorder. It is on the spectrum of autism. This is ok, it has helped us to understand his odd litlle behaviours. It is hard to explain with peoples preconcieved ideas of it being associated with autism. He will function normally, ge3t a job all those normal things it just explains why he is overly sensitive to noise ect. They explain it as being afraid of life. We have also found out that he is hypermobile likle me (That is the reason I have so much trouble with my plevis.) So what does that mean for us, lots of money. He is having OT once a week, doing listening therapy, we have had to buy equipment to help with his hypermobility. but all in all it has helped us to better understand him. I feel so much closer to him, he is not being naughty and this is not bad parenting (guilt guilt), but it is also giving us stratgies to help manage his behaviour.
On that note better be off to get organised to do some more home therapy with him before Dh gets home with him.
Hi all! very slack at keeping up, sorry
Murph, Jaz sounds like she is doing wonderfully! IT doesn't sound like she's really all that 'slow' in any case!
That's great news about the diagnosis Saph. Must make things easier to know what it is and find better ways to deal with it.
Good effort with the size Grub. I was aiming for 10 pounds but DD was a puny 4kg. sigh.
lol mad, ripped orf!
thats great saph, least it gives u a starting pnt instead of doubtibg yourself. ox
child balancing atm lol
Yeah Mad ripped off big time...I even managed a 4.4kgs and he was 4 weeks early!! LOL
wowzers. that's a brilliant effort! A woman in my mother's group managed 4.89kg at 39 weeks. Thought that was pretty special. Mine were both 42-weekers so it's not remotely impressive to crack 4kg.
I'll try harder next time :)
OH. I don't know gestation, but the woman DH took over from at work had a 12-pounder. Im.Press.Ive.
Ouch! Is all I have to say about that!
My grandfather weighed in at 7.0 kilos (natural birth back in the day too....scary stuff!!!!) There have been a few anxious mother's to be in my family, hoping they'd luck out with a petite 5 kilo bub instead.
Oh how time flies. We have just sold all and I mean all our baby stuff and just bought Xavier his big boy bed and furniture. How easy was it to spend $5000 in one afternoon. Thank god for interst free.
Hope everyone is doing great. Looks like we are all super busy with our lil ones.
yeah saph I have already sold my bassinette and we are having a garagey in a few weekend's time and i'm putting all the baby stuff we are not using again in it! it's scary but liberating lol. All our 000 and 0000 clothes have been sorted and soem are going to my sister who is nearly 20 weeks and the otheres in the sale!
murph! wowsers! 7kg... now that is ouchy!
Immy had her 1 month check about a week ago, she's nearly 6kg and 59cm! is wearing 00 outfits already lol. and doing great
ash's teeth are playing up and he's been a little terror... lots of attention seeking but he's not jealous of immy,,, just a bit of a handful lol.
the other day he woulnd't settle for his arvo sleep and me, running on 6 hours sleep in the past 48 hrs, resorted to locking him in his room with some snacks, water and a very large toy box for 30 mins before i fell over from exhaustion... i was so worried he'd be upset or not okay, but when i opened his door i merely got a glance and we went back to playing... came out by himself abou 10 mins later! lol.
Immy is 6 weeks on friday!!! time is flying!
Grub dont feel guilty. We do what we have to do. I dont envy you and Kelly having the bubs so close. There is just over three years between my boys and it was tough.
hi ladies , just stalking you.
all my boys were 8 pound, 9 pound and 9 and half pound babies. DS 1 was 3 wees early and 8 pounds and 52 cm long. he is just about to turn 13 and only 2 cm away from being as tall as me and i am 176 cm tall !!!! now thats scary. i am taller by 1 cm than DH ( why i call him short. LOL ). i am scared of another BIG BOY again. but i told DH since all the boys were early i am going 4 weeks early this time !!!
i am feeling pregnant now with my little belly and people are starting to notice my pot . :-0
can't wait to join you guys. if i do go 4 weeks early then i may be in here sooner than we think ?!
LOL insane pregnant woman on the loose. ha ha
chat soon to all
Hello ladies! I finally have some free time to log on, Finn has been a very active and busy little boy and I barely have a second to myself during the day. He's at childcare at the moment - I start back at work in a couple of weeks and wanted to give him lots of time to settle in before I go back. So far he hates it, I think he cries for most of the day, it breaks my heart. Financially I have to go back, I've been on unpaid leave all year and we just have no money and mounting debts. Anyway, I'm sure he'll settle in soon and if not my mum will take him from October onwards until we can find somewhere else.
Enough of me, I hope everyone is going well! It's been so very quiet in here lately, I hope it's just normL crazy busy life keeping everyone away.
Must go finish the painting - trying to air the house to get rid of the smell before Finn comes home!
JBM, good luck with the last weeks of your pregnancy and see you in here soon :)
Hi all,
It has been quiet in here - I have just been flat out. I do read a lot still just often don't have the time to post.
Hiya JBM - looking forward to you joining us in here - you are over half way now!
Hi Lise - It is so hard when they start at childcare. Go with your gut on it as the crying etc can just be all part of the settling in process. By that I mean - what is the feel that you get from the centre. What is it that they do with the children. You really want to make sure that they are being stimulated not just 'babysat'. Jazzy took a while to get used to the process and now virtually pushes me out the door. It is great that you have put him in a couple of weeks early - I really wish I had done that myself. Jazzy loves her days at 'school' and does a lot of things there that I just don't get around to doing at home - you know a lot of messy play. She has learnt so much from being there and the really lovely thing is that she has formed some beautiful friendships - both with children and carers. But those early days were hard and filled with guilt for me. I am pleased that we perservered as it really does work for us now. It is great that you have got your mum for back up if needed. Are you going back to work fulltime or part time?
Well life is just full on, but great here. We are almost ready to move into our beautiful brand new townhouse that we have been building over the past year. Finally we are almost there. Certificate of occupancy should be issued any day now and then settlement date will be about 2 weeks from there. We are so excited, but it is very full on organising everything. We are not only moving, but we are converting our apartment where we currently live into an investment property, so we are having to organise everything involved with that. But it will be all worth it. I have been having loads of fun shopping - bought a new sofa and a sexy new french door fridge that I am totally in love with (I know - sad!)
Jazzy is just awesome. She has some typical terrible twos moments, but as a whole is a very good kid. She is talking up a storm - her language skills just develop by the day. She is the dancing queen - manages to make me laugh all day every day. We are in two minds about going back for a second go - in a lot of ways I really want another baby, but in other ways I am just so happy with my life and my little family as it is. I guess that means I am not ready! But I am turning 40 in a month so I really need to start thinking about making a decision one way or the other. I certainly never intended for Jazzy to be an only child... oh what to do!
Anyhoo - hope you are all well.
Janie xxx
Hi everyone,
I thought I'd join you all now that my bub is almost 2 weeks old and finally has a name!
My journey to concieve her was a bit different as I am single. I spent 2 years looking for a private sperm donor who I trusted and felt had good genes to pass on. Then I did one year of DIY AI with an interstate donor - who has proved to be a truly great guy and even after I had to stop trying with him, he has remained interested and supportive. Anyway I then did 1 year of IVF with anon donor sperm (3 full cycles and 1 frozen transfer - no left over embies). Finally concieved on my last full cycle.
I had 2 major bleeds at 7.5 weeks and was told I had lost the baby or babies (I'd had 2 embryos transfered and had been due for my first scan to see how many had attached when I had the bleeds). Luckily bub hung in there and when I had a scan the next day it was amazing to find there was a healthy heartbeat.
Anyway I gave birth to her on the 30th August. 2 and a half hour labour and the last bit was really fast (went from 4cm dilated to the baby being out within 10minutes). She was born in the bathroom off the labour room when I was briefly in there alone, so I actually caught her myself as she literally fell out! The midwife ran in the door in time to see me catch her! She was only 6 pound 13.
I found it really hard to name her as I made up my 14 year old daughter's name and thus I wanted to make up this baby's name but nothing sounded quite right. It was agonising... I choose her middle name before she was born. It is Kohana (pronounced Ko-ha-nah) and is Japanese for little flower. I had wanted something unusual which started with a K and meant something which could be her special symbol. My 14yr old's middle name is Kimana which is native american for butterfly. It's also interesting that the first country I ever travelled to overseas was America and then the first country that my 14yr old and I travelled to together was Japan so both my children's middle names also relate to my travels.
Anyway I didn't want her first name to end in an a sound and as our surname ends in an e sound I couldn't have that either... so this just added to the stress I felt.
One of my friends commented on how my 14yr old's name is really pretty and I would never be able to make up another name as pretty... and this made me even more depressed. My 14yr old is called Ashalyn (pronounced Ay-shar-len)
Well it was a big relief last night when I finally settled on a name that my 14yr old approves of.
My baby girl is called Danicia (pronounced Da-nee-sha)
And now she is starting to stir so I better go... look forward to getting to know you all and reconnecting with some I recognise from the pregnancy forum.
Lori
DD1 - 14, DD2 - 13 days
Country Vic
Hi guys, I also thought I should join in here. I didn't think LTTTC would affect my post baby life, but I'm finding that it is and thought it would be nice to be among others in the same position.
So briefly, we were ttc for two years, three miscarriages in that time, one at 8 weeks and two chem pregnancies. There is infertility on both sides for us; DH has 96% anucleated sperm, which basically mean 96% of his sperm have no heads. Seeing as the head is where the genetic makeup is, the 96% are useless. I have polycystic ovaries, although apparently not the syndrome. I also have scarring in my uterus from an infection after a D&C, and suspected endo, which I was going to have a lap for but I fell pregnant with my DD instead :)
I thought that once I finally had my own baby, the feelings of jealously over women who could fall pregnant easily would at least dissipate, if not go away altogether. But Isla is 3 months old, and from the day she was born, that I've still found myself feeling jealous and resentful over people that fall easily. Does anyone else still feel that, and does it ever go away? Xx
Hi dreamrise and Pumpkin Zulu, welcome to the thread and congrats on your little pink bundles :dance:
Dreamrise, what a rough trot you had, hope things can settle down down Danicia is here and you can enjoy your newborn smuggles.
PZ, I can only speak from my own experience but I'm afraid I STILL feel that way sometimes. Not always, but not always predictably either. A friend who also went through IVF for her first announced several weeks ago she was pregnant, and that it was a natural pregnancy. I was super happy for her - how often have we all dreamt that might happen?! - but I'd be lying if I said I didn't shed a tear or two for myself. But certainly everyone here knows where you're coming from xx
Jamie, thanks for your thoughts re childcare. You're exactly right. I used to work in childcare myself so am very particular about where I want DS to go. Unfortunately for financial reasons I had to leave him at this centre but without going into details suffice to say I was EXTREMELY unhappy and have pulled him out. He has a spot at the only centre I want him to go to from January and in the interim my sister, DH and then my mother (from October sometime) will look after him. Of course as soon as I'd made these arrangements the centre offered us a spot starting in a few weeks! I turned it down in the end as I think DS is still a little scarred from the other centre, and I also want him to get over all his illnesses before starting formal care again. I swear, this winter he's been sick just about every week!!!!! Plus it was on a day we have playgroup and I love playgroup - it's my original mothers group and we still catch up weekly.
Anyway, enough babbling from me. Have you moved yet Janie? Hope it went well!
And hello to everyone else, hope all is well. Come say hi and let us know how you're going :)
PZ, I have been stalking this thread for weeks now trying to work out how to ask that very thing!!!! So thank you :hug: Ive been here a few times but cant keep up as there are so many of us LTTTC'ers. I completely feel that way still :( and tbh am struggling with the wanting another baby, not sure it can ever happen again and terror of HG just to add insult to injury.:
Do any of you ever feel like you dont 'fit' anywhere? Im 'that woman' you never want to hear about while undergoing IVF or LTTTC. We spent 5 years TTC, with 11 IVF cycles and still no baby. Were about to go back and I realised I was pregnant, 3 weeks later the HG started.
Sorry, a bit of a woe is me post but Im just trying to find somewhere where I fit these days.