Sammyjam - what date are you due - I was 21 March - but after scan it is now 27 March - I guess have to wait until next scan at 12 weeks to definately know.
I won't make you tear up again. But it is good that your #1 is looking good.
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Sammyjam - what date are you due - I was 21 March - but after scan it is now 27 March - I guess have to wait until next scan at 12 weeks to definately know.
I won't make you tear up again. But it is good that your #1 is looking good.
I am tearing up alot atm, so dont worry about it ;) Apparently the 9th week is when the CRAZY behaviour starts :)
I was due on the 22/3 (according to IVF dates) but after my scan the 27/3. I am having another scan next week due to the vanishing twin so I am hoping to find out for certain then also.
Baby Dream Time :dance: glad NT scan was good that must be a load off. No pool here but lots of AC! and summer clothes are much prettier than winter ones.
Janie thanks for the pep talk, I need to shut my ears more.
Mahli hehehe love the comment re DH's stubborness. I hope my baby doesn't get that from me. how long do they take? 20 minutes with a full bladder ahhhhhhhhhhhh
Frusty's Mum :comfort: I am so sorry look after yourself.
Smithy love the belly
Saph :hug: i know how you feel just feel the emotions I think. I have had the same thing happen with three of my friends. Sux but now that I"m pg I can let it go. But still wish it was easier for us.
MissMagpie thank you and I was a bit of a hint dropper over the past year. I'm a stirer and I like to watch DF squirm but I stopped when we got pg. and well I guess he felt like he could do it without thinking it was 'my idea' I hope you get one soon
MHB thanks for the warning of uncomfort to come :D but it's worth it. Goodluck for nedxt 3.5 weeks.
Jenc Wow a date is set. Bet that's nice. I'd miss DF too :hug:
Becc hope you feel better soon
SamieJam I'm 17 weeks and I'm still an emotional mess. Tears are so good for me, just cleans out the bad and makes the happy seam so much more happy. Funny but true, Hope you're having a good day today.
ATM OB went well 19wk scan booked in for 31st DF can't make it but my mum is comming which will be cool. DF is coming on the 2nd to OB so he's sort of forgiven. Appointments aren't work friendly are they. I am lucky that I'm the boss and can make it up early/late. My bp was 125/70 so relieved and the heart flutters are normal. Oh and baby looked great. Had a bit of a sook.
This weekend is demoliton and clean up time, DF and DSS are doing all the work while I got to work. I know who's having the easier day ;) but that means the baby room is edging ever closer. So exciting.
Hi girls, long time no see!!!!
I have been reading daily, but short of time to reply.
Frosty's mum if you are reading, I am so sorry for you and I hope you are holding up okay
To everyone else, Keep up the good work, keep baking up those fat little baby's.
I have been missing in action for several reasons, but mainly I have been hiding out over in the family crisis help group. I am going to air my dirty laundry to you all now, because I feel a bit stronger. I don't expect any magical suggestions for this problem, but I just wanted my belly buddies to know what's going on with me I guess.
My DH is a compulsive hoarder. It is very, very bad. The only functional room in the house is the lounge room, and that is only because when he starts piling things in there, i just lift it and transfer it to any other room and pile it on top. Otherwise I would have been committed ages ago. It is a very long story, and I won't bore you with the long background except to say that I had no idea of the problme when I moved up here from Melbourne when we got married, and I just assumed that he would clean it up. It's only got worse and worse. I have thought of leaving, but the bottom line is I don't want to leave the marriage and I love him so much.
He does not think that he has a problme, he thinks he has a storage problem! Despite my nagging and getting increasingly upset over the last few moths, he has not started on the inside of the house. When we fell PG, he had amazing plans and I believed him, because he has never given me a plan before (also part of my non-coping is the fact that he cannot tell me what he is doing or when grrrrrrrr).
Obviously I do not have a nursery or baby's room of any description yet, and I am 3 weeks off maternity leave. i have not been able to 'nest'. All the bub's clothes and things are in garbage bags on the floor, I haven't even washed them because I can't see the point until I have somewhere to put them. He is trying in the sense that he is doing things for the baby....buying the cot and paraphernalia etc.....but he has not moved one item of cr@p in the house out. We have had countless discussions and rows, with no solution. Or there have been solutions (storage units, building another shed, shipping containers etc) but he just won't do them. I have paid for a storage unit in the past but he refused to move anything in and I can't physically do it because it is all machinery etc.
For some reason I still believe he will get something done, but it will be by the skin of his teeth and me consequently being as calm as I possibly can. I am doing what I can, trying to sort stuff out and throwing things out when he''s at work, and the 'crisis' part is over and I am feeling better, but still no resolution as such.
Sorry to burden you with all of that, but wanted to get it out there! Apart from that I am well and counting down the days until I finish work. I am feeling much better about that as the girl who will replace me is wonderful and will keep the service going well (I am a breast cancer nurse counselor).
Belly rubs to all
hi neptune. Oh you poor love. hoarding is a psychological thing and i'm sure it's been suggested, but it sounds like he needs professional help.
I know exactly what you are talking about cos my aunty is exactly the same. her haording has escaped the house and gone onto the veranda, yard, shed etc. but she lives alone with 3 cats and several stray dogs she took in (yes, those crazy cat aunties really exist lol). so she's only impacting herself (and she says she hates it but can't control it).
so i completely understand where you are coming from. it's a complusion and there's underlying issues. i'm sorry to say this, but i doubt he'll change just on his own but I know just ''throwing it all out'' by yourself is not an option - that will really really hurt him and could lead to other issues.
there's no easy solution is there love. but vent away. i really feel for you and i hope he does at the very least give up one room for bubbee and you.
off to pilates now so will be back later for persies but just wanted to send neptune a hug. and thank her for being so brave and sharing.
i wish i had something helpful to tell you other than : i understand. oxoxo
Neptune: How hard it must be for you. I am such an organised person that if my DH had a similar problem I don't know how I would cope. I hope that you can get something sorted out soon so you can at least get the nursery set up. If I think my DH is leaving dangerous stuff around the house already I keep reminding him nicely that once baby is on the move the house needs to be safe so he better start putting things away safely now so he doesn't need me nagging him later.
Been quiet in here the past couple of days, so hopefully everyone is cooking along nicely.
Well, I never thought I would be one of those women but I am officially over being pregnant (bizarre when we try so hard to get there). I don't mind having my little bundle inside me it is all the other things that are really getting me down now... ie:
1. My belly in now so big that I can't reach the sink or stove in the kitchen to cook or clean.
2. I am exhausted all the time, it takes me around 2 hours every morning to get showered and dressed as the smallest thing wears me out.
3. I am so boring at the moment as all I want to do everyday is sleep. I think I'm awake for about 8 hours max per day.
4. No motivation. I really have to plan my days to get things done or else I would turn into a big sloth.
Anyway that's my rant, I really don't know how you girls who are working can do it you are such stars in my books. Oh well at least the sun is out today so hopefully some Vitamin D will help my mood.
:hello:
Hope you are all well. Just popping in, currently have the memory span of a goldfish so won't attempt persies this time, but am thinking of each and every one of you!
Had our 7 week scan yesterday! Didn't get to see much as Cookie was hiding in the far back corner the little bugger, but we saw the heartbeat, a healthy 154bpm! What an amazing moment! I almost cried! And cause of the hiding we couldn't get any measurements. Anyway we're having another scan at the OB's in 3 weeks should get a better idea then. They also said they think there's only one but can't really say for sure (again cause of the hiding)
What I don't understand is FS said bubs looks more like 6 or 6.5 weeks. Well how does that work? We know exactly what date I O-ed & when Cookie went in etc witht he IVF, and I clearly felt the implantation so how can the dates change? I figure Cookie is just on the small side, I was only just 5lb when born and both my DH & I are quite small. Any thoughts?
Wishing you all lots of :bluedust::pink-babydust: Hope you are all getting good rest and :bellygrowing: away nicely!
BOC how exciting seeing your little one's heart beating away. The week thing I'm not sure, I think it's when cookie decided to stick not float around? So excited for you :dance:
KellyD I'm going to comment on 1-4 :D
1: great no housework for you.
2: 2 hours wow I hope you have good morning tv on
3: If you need sleep and can enjoy!
4: Sloths are very intelegent.
Enjoy looking after yourself :D
Grub hope pilates is going well. I can't wait to start yoga when I clear my diary "it will happen"
Neptune :hug:
DF did such a good job of demolition today, I baught him a drink on the way home, and now he's cooking tea. I'm a lucky lady. Glad my week is finally over. Saturdays are so exhausting, time to put my feet up.
Hello girls,
I've been away in Townsville and had a great time, but I'm not going to talk about me just yet as I wanted to attempt a bit of emotional triage to the girls in most need at the moment.
Frosty's Mum, I am heartbroken for you . I know what it felt like to get that far and I just can't imagine what you are going through. I hope it is easier to have passed the baby naturally and not have to have more medical intervention. I'm so sorry and thinking of you, as we all are.
Sammiejam, I think it will get easier but not having the answers you need to know about how and when the little embryo will pass through or be absorbed makes it hard to follow what's going on in your body and that feeling like you are not in control. It's also hard to celebrate having one and mourning another at the same time but you will find a place for both and be happy to move on in time. Good luck.
Neptune, you're right up there at the top of my list too. It doesn't take much to read between the lines and realise the things you are not saying and what you are going through with the turmoil at home. I agree with all that Grub said and have some experience with hoarders. Is he a hoarder in the psychological ocd sense or could he be a clutterer, who can actually change their ways with the right motivation without feeling threatened and lost? I'm trying to be positive but probably already know the answer, in which case, honey, you have a lot of work ahead and won't be able to live this way for too much longer, which I'm sure you know. So you love him but you are dealing with an illness and his actions are not rational so you won't solve it by moving one pile from here to there or getting a storage unit, you will just free up more space to fill again. I know a girl who is about to marry one of my family's oldest friends and she has never let him step foot inside any of the various houses she has and storage containers etc, but if he did he would need to beat a path through the plastic bags and boxes and they are buying a new place before they ever have to live together so it's not likely he'll see how she really lives and she will hold onto all she has in her stashes. I'm really feeling for you. we all have our skeletons and secrets but it is so nice that you felt you could share and let us at least try to offer some comfort,(especially while you are away from home). I've mentioned it before but I live with my DHs post traumatic stress disorder symptoms and that's all they are, symptoms. Psychological problems come on a continuum and they can be managed through finding the right balance and the commitment to work at it and be aware of it every day. It will always be part of our life, as your DHs hoarding ocd may be for you, but you can learn how to make it easier and help each other to find balance. Hoarders can be those people like Grub's auntie or my friend's fiance or they can be in loving relationships where they are supported and able to function. Your fights shouldn't be over him picking his stuff up, but about getting help for his problem. He has to be willing to accept that he needs help and then the healing can begin. I wish you all the very best and I'm so sorry to hear that you are struggling after all you have been through.
Hugs to all of you who feel yourself needing a bit of support at the moment. Chins up and bellies out! xoxo
Hello girls
You have all made me feel better, thanks so much. I had tears reading all of your kind and heartfelt responses.
I am up and down really. Yesterday DH gave me yet another plan to get a nursery before bubs gets here. This plan is a desperate attempt to make room and is far far far from perfect. I started crying again and asked him why he gives me the perfect plan 8 months ago only to give nothing, then to hit with something that is far form ideal. This plan involves shuffling us out of our bedroom into one of the junk rooms, so we will be surrounded by computers and BBQ's! If he does what he says this time, the baby will have the best room of the house with no extra clutter, but it hasn't happened yet!
This is what always gets me; that I end up grateful for stupid plans like this, when I know I deserve so much more. He hits me with the sensible plan first, then does nothing, then gives me peanuts and I am grateful! But I can't see another way, so I have to just get on with it. I got into the room that we will have as out bedroom, and started on a few things so don't feel so 'stuck' in time. He says that we can get this temporary plan done, and then work on the other stuff once bubs is here. God, I hope so.....
I think it is an OCD problem Murph......even though his parents won't throw anything out either.....but DH is traumatised if you throw anything out and he just compulsively buys things of ebay and collects stuff of other's rubbish collections. The biggest challenge for me (especially studying psychology too) is that he does not admit he has a problem, thinks that he has a storage problem!!!!! So until he admits that he is in trouble, I can't convince him to get help. :rolleyes:
Everything else about our relationship is great and I love him so much, and he is so keen for this baby that I hope that has some motivation for him.
Neptune,
I wanted to pop in and give you a big squishy cyber hug, Im so sad your in Sydney, or I would be around helping you over the next few weeks, I am known for my exceptional organisational skills, so I could have you sitting on the bed, while I worked around you. In face if you need any help, I can always come up and see you sweets. There is a relationship section on BB, where you could post, and you will get responses from the wider BB community, where I am sure you will find lots of support, and some stratagies to get you through the next few months xx
Wouldlove :hug: thank you, and I know you mean it!
Thinking of you beautiful ladies. You're all so strong and resilient. You are doing an amazing job, please don't forget that. And for what it's worth, we're always here for you when you need a release.
jenxx
Hi Murph so glad you had a great time in Townsville, the weather looked beautiful and hot up there hope you had some r and r.
Neptune, you know you can speak to someone about it even if you DH isn't ready yet? I have spoken to many partners, parents, friends etc re all sorts of issues. It may not solve the issue but having someone to talk to and give you some strategies might help. :hug:
Jenc how you hanging in there? Thinking of you
Hope everyone is having a great sunday. I've got a yard full of pots, soil and plants! and a day off tomorrow I can't be any happier :D
:hello:hello to all my beautifuls,
just popping in to say hi and im thinking of you all every day but just not getting a chance on the computer atm im still sick and it spins me out :rolleyes: but do have to say im feeling better each day still get the odd really bad day but apart from that hopefully easing a bit now also dh and i have been swimming every day this week and love it makes the world of difference,been doing a lot of spring cleaning,charlies room has slowly started.
well my friends take care and ill talk soon love smithy
hi ladies just a me post today as im a little stressed.
got a call from the hospital on friday saying my bloods are very bad and to come in for more bloods which i did today and they think i may have hepatitis or my unborn bub has an infection so they have booked me in for a liver scan on wednesday and to see the consultant on thursday to discuss induction. I feel so grose as i dont do drugs, have never gotten a tattoo and I know i dont have hep b as i am immune so it could be A or C which are blood borne, I am in the health field and now am terrified ive exposed myself to infected blood. I am also annoyed as I had to ask to get extra testing done due to me still vomiting daily and my upper right abdomen pain and temps which was shrugged off as the flu. This should have been discovered earlier not 3 weeks before he is due.
Oh, MHB. What a shock. I have all my everything crossed that it's not bad news. Thinking of you lots and lots. Please let us know as soon as you know anything.
I've had a rough day too. Had an ultrasound today and found out that twin 1 has quite severely reduced amniotic fluid, and twin 2's growth has slowed down and are now discordant. So, we'll just have to see what they decide to do.
Anyhow, ladies. My delicious hospital dinner has arrived, so need to turn off computer to use the tray!
Thinking of you all.
Jen
MHB, you poor thing, you have had a shocker and you will be glad to have your little man here. I do hope everything is okay, fingers crossed.
Hey to everyone else, hope you all are hanging in there and baking up fat little bubs.
AFM: DH states that he will start on the moving stuff this weekend. I will believe it when i see it, but anyway I am assuming that he will and giving him the benefit of the doubt, and I have actually taken two whole carloads of stuff to the salvos which felt fantastic. I am determined to make the best of a bad situation. I do feel better, and need to concentrate on my psychology exam on Monday anyway.
As for bubs and me, overnight I have become very uncomfortable. i think he has moved and he feels as though he is across my tummy rather than up and down. Consequently, my abdo is hard as a rock and feels sore! It is difficult to get comfy, but maybe it's a growth spurt and it will all settle down. I have started to get a bit puffy too. But the most disgusting thing which no-one ever warned me about is sweaty hands and feet along with the puffiness. It is quite yucky!!!!!! Anyway, only 2.5 weeks of work left, then it won't matter too much once I'm home!
Ah, whinge whinge whinge......it's all good, it's all progress towards the cute little baby that eventuates! ;)
Good afternoon girls!
MHB - you poor thing :hug: You've had such a rough trot. I hope its not Hepatitis for yours and the babies sake. Take care.
Jen - Hope they are able to give you some more news on your little ones. Hang in there and am thinking of you.
Neptune - I hope your hubby is true to his word this w/e and your able to start setting up a nursery.
:hello: to everyone else :D.
AFM, DP and I went away for the weekend to the country and I had a GREAT preggie massage so am feeling nice and relaxed and my back isnt aching as much! Im going for my diabetes test this Saturday. Not looking forward to it. I then see my OB next week to get the results then Im on fortnightly visits to him. Bubs is moving around more but not heaps. I love looking at my tummy when it moves to watch jumping around, hehe Im still sleeping reasonably well :dance: Finish work in 6 weeks this Friday so cant wait!!!!!
Take care girls,
Tania xx
Hi all sorry been awol for a while, I am having a rough time with DS at the moment. He has turned into this diabolical child who runs around pushing all the other children over and hitting them, I am so embarrashed I left playgroup early. Wondering if I will ever go back. Hoping it is just a phase of readjusting. He keeps saying to his baby I hit you, I bite you. He has also told me he is not going to share mummy with the baby. What Am I going to do? i dont think I can cope with two. Oh well guess it is a bit late now. Oh for goodness sake just suck it up and get on with it, is what I would say if it were someone else so I guess I should take my own advise. Sorry for the rant. I guess we all have our different fears.
MHB so sorry for your troubles at the moment, hope everything gets sorted out. I can sympathise with the liver pain as I had a third of my liver removed before I had Campbell. I have been getting lots of pain lately maybe I should get this checked out. Some doctors are useless at reading pathology reports I once had a doctor tell me that i had hep B But it was actually that I was immune to hep B.
Jenc you are in the best place, hope you are doing ok.
Miss Magpie we too went away to the country for the weekend but it was far from relaxing DS was a pain in the rear end. He has one late night and it takes us all a week to recover. Sorry here I go complaining again.
On a brighter note I have been trying to find a catering company for my party in a few weeks so this is actually starting to get excited.
:hug:MHB+JEN,
thinking of both you girls and hope things are ok today
Saph sorry to hear about DS :hug: glad you shared.
MissMagpie, hmmm massage nice, only 6 weeks to go lucky you.
Neptune it is so good to vent.
JenC delicious hospital dinner? for real. :goodluck: my thoughts are with you and 1 & 2
MHB Hope it all works out ok.
Smithy Swimming daily sounds so nice.
Ok Greens winge time:
DF can't come to my 20 week scan! why because one of his mates is having 2 days off work cos it's his birthday! what's worse is his GF is pg too and he's having a day off for her scan. WHY CANT MY DF?????? I'm angry
My mum is also now 'busy' so inbetween working with my job I will take a flying 2 hour early lunch have my scan on my own and go back to work, then again ON MY OWN the OB on Wednesday! Really ajitated. He can take an RDO on friday to pick his brother up but not for my OB appointment :wall:
Ok happy note post winge. Mum is comming Monday :dance: someone is looking after me.
Hi everyone
Murph: I hope you had a fab time catching up with your family. Just what the dr ordered for you.
MHB: I hope you get some good results and that nothing is wrong with you or bub.
Jen: I hope your little ones are playing better now and that they stay around cooking a bit longer.
Everyone else, I hope that you are all doing well.
AFM: DH had last 2 days off work so he took me out for lunch again yesterday. It is nice to have some time alone together. Had Ob appt today and bubs has already dropped... Ahh... we are only at 32 weeks on Friday although at least I now have some more room under my boobs so can breath a bit easier. Still haven't booked in our delivery date yet it will be done at my next appt in 2 weeks but I was told it will be in the week of the 12th October (38+ weeks) as he likes to delivery between the 38-39 week mark. Another mental hurdle will be reached on Friday which is that if bubs does decide to come early she will be able to be cared for at our local hospital and not have to be transferred to Melb for care. So after Friday the only remaining hurdle is for her to arrive safely. Oh, I think we have also decided on a name.. Yay it is my favourite name and DH likes it as well although we are keeping it a secret until she arrives.
Hope you are all doing well and that your little bundles are playing nicely for you all.
:hug::hug::hug: all round, especially MHB, JenC, Neptune and you too Greenslw...ouch, so much thrown up at such a difficult time. I'm reading and will be back later to write properly. Just letting you know I'm thinking of you all. xoxo
Just wanted to quickly get something off my chest. For all of us that apologise for venting, it's often the best thing and helps us to see things clearer, whether in the process we feel silly for over reacting or we actually start to support ourselves more. Even just writing it down on paper gets it out of your head and into a more concrete form where there is only one way traffic onto the page and not all the conflicting stuff that goes round in our heads. We can think about it from different angles but this way at least it's not all at once with the noise and confusion of everything else going on. talking on BB gives the opportunity to be given support and feed back and who cares if you feel a bit silly for getting it out there (no one knows you, but we do care about you).
It's the Saph posts and the Neptunes and Greenslw and all those ME posts that we say sorry for that keep us all so connected, looking at our lives and thinking about others. It's like Neptune said, you just get used to coping with your lot and accepting that's how things are but when given the perspective of outsiders you mightn't think it all looks so normal. I know people looking in on me seeing me coping and managing day to day with DH's (and my own) mental balancing act would think it's hard work and we should get help, but in my situation there's not much I can do except know the signs and support both of us to be healthy and he does the same too, he never milks his illness. To undo the trauma he has been through is to open a Pandora's box and life is too short to live in the past to fix things, so we work on the present and cope the best way we can without letting too much of the past haunt us. You can't block it completely and a buddhist monk once likened it to having to eat an enormous mountain of salt, sometimes you can add a teaspoon to water every now and then and reduce the size of the mountain. If we avoid it completely, the mountain will never get any smaller but sometimes he just has to drink some yucky salty water and that's okay because it's better than having no hope of it ever getting any smaller.
Maybe Neptune, your DH will take some salty water this weekend and he will need all of your support to help him get it down.
I really am meant to be working on my lab report so I will kick myself if I stay too long, but here is my very quick (yeah right!) run down of Townsville...yay, had a great time, my sis threw me a surprise baby shower at my Dad's who had a pig on a spit and mates and Victorian rellies drinking rum and playing silly baby party games in the bar by the pool. too cute to see your uncle, brother and father all playing games to win rattles and fairy cakes whilst drinking rum!! The little kids complained there were no games for them and the grown ups were having too much fun...aww come on, we couldn't p[lay baby bingo all night! Yeah so pretty cool. We got to watch our niece up from Vic playing in the national comp and she even got sin binned for showing a bit of spark:clap:All us family took up half the crowd and some were not as polite to the ref as you might imagine when our flesh and blood was sidelined :D the only downside to our time away was poor old DH had a bit of a setback but a few days at home with all things familiar and he is back on safe ground with the pups and me. we loved it though and it was mostly just what the doc ordered.
Okay, it's off my chest and now i can get back to work. I'm thinking of you all and JenC and MHB, hope its good news for you soon. Greenslw, you have a bit to work through and I'd be pretty upset too. Saph, ouch, some toddler training for you before this bub comes into the picture. Oh well there is still time. goodluck.xoxo
hi lovely ladies, i'm going to do persies but i'm a fuzzy brained woman at the moment so forgive me if i miss anyone etc ox
murph - that is excellent about your tvle trip. sounds like the baby shower was a blast! my sister's best friend, who lives this way, has offered to host one for me... i wasn't expecting one at all so am super touch and super excited about it :) not sure if we'll have rum liek yours tho lol! and i agree about everyone feeling ok for the occassion "me rant'' ... we don't mind and if you need it, go right ahead.
mhb - i'm really sorry to hear you have hit yet another hurdle and it's so frustating the docs didn't pick it up. how are you going at the moment? thinking of you oxox
kellyD - yay for the name and for the time you've had with DH! and how exciting that its all coming to an end and you'll get to meet your baby soon !!! i'm super jealous! lol oxox
oh greenslw - that is terrible, i don't blame you for being cranky about it. I have to go to my appointments in oct/nov alone cos dh is away and we've no family here so i really understand how you feel... it's such a spesh time, you can feel very alone without that support... at least my DH has an excellent excuse tho! hope it all goes well and work is treating you okay.
oh saph - what a naughty little boy! but i suppose it's a pretty scary time for him with all the change that's coming but he must be picking that sort of stuff up from somewhere (ie another child or such). I hope you can figure out some way to help him through this time. Sorry don't have any suggestions with no experience in that area... maybe a post in the general forum might throw up something you will find helpful. I really feel for you love and sending you a hug oxoox
miss magpie - i have nothing nice to say to you lady! weekend away, preggy massage, finishing work soon, sleeping well pft pft pft you very spoilt woman - suppose you'd better lap it up while it lasts tho lol. serioulsy, good on you for enjoying this time, i think that's an important part of being preggy - to look beyond all the stuff that's happening to our body and just step back and smell the roses (which can be hard when you are trying not to vom, i suppose and then can't get back up from all that smell cos you no longer bend in the middle lol - still you get my drift right?)
hey neptune - hoping things do happen on the home tidy front. that's no good about the swelling, suppose the warm weather of late isn't helping too much either. but the 2.5weeks of work left sounds wonderful!!!! ;)
jen - what doing? have you overheard any good gossip while sitting there in hospy? figured out who is who and which nurses to avoid etc? lol. I hpoe you are taking care and not going stir crazy. What's the latest in terms of arrival times (sounds like you are a tarmac when i say that lol).
smithy- how's the ms going thesedays? hopefully its gone and you are well.
hey BOC - sorry don't know much about dates and such. we've only ever been changed once, by one day very early on (i suspect a miscalculation on the fertility nurse's part). Have you been able to ask any more questions about the whole shebang yet? but whoo ooo for the good heartbeat sounds!
sammiejam - how you coping lovely? hope it's all okay for you at the moment. did you have the other scan this week?? ox
bec - hope you are well enough to remove yourself from the office floor! has ms settled down sweetie?
shout out there to bella! and where's Two Mums gone to???
I know i missing out heaps of people but, well, you all know....
afm - not much to report. reflux has arrived; appetite has settled; grunting when moving on the rise; zits have arrived and have now employed my DH as my personal ''deforestation'' man due to all that lovely extra hair. He offers a great service, even did my kini area for free (it was a selfless act where he copped an eyeful and wore a very cheeky, crooked grin the entire time).
one question - i find i get really really painful crampy things across my lower belly. they feel like what i think a contraction would. i didn't think BH hurt so not sure if its them. they usually hit if i get up too fast or in an odd manner (ie when i kinda forget i'm pregs and jump out of the car/off my work chair like a bandit escaping a bank). Anyway, i got one cramp so bad as i got out of the car i dropped my shopping list - and all you preg ladies know that means i bought $100 worth of groceries and forget the 5 things i really needed to get! i think it's just muscles straining but today's took my breath away... anyone else getting this?
we're off to syd this weekend for a christening :) but not looking forward to the 2 hr car trip. ... Murph how did you go sitting down for the tvle trip?
oxoxo
hi ladies
had my liver scan today was hard to find he said as bubs is in the way and he mentioned that his big "testes" were blocking the view, DF was so smug! will get results of all tests tomorrow but im staying positive, im almost at the finish line and its supposed to be one of the best times of our lives and I dont want it ruined so im going to stay happy :) im sick of writing negative posts so today im not! also thankyou for all the well wished it made me feel so special!
this is just a hello to everyone! and just a reminder of how lucky we all are to be in this thread! look after all your bubs!
Jen - just a shout out to you that you are doing so well in hospital, i couldnt do what your doing i whinge enough with one baby!
omg grub you make me laugh. i have installed DH as official deforestation expert too. It was so funny the other day when I made him bring up his trimmer to attend to my 'kini area. Imagine hospital bathroom, me not allowed to stand up, no proper shower curtain, and breakfast arriving.... ha. hilarious. and all because I wanted to be 'neat and tidy' for all the lovely internals I'm having. ridiculous!!!!!
murph - I totally second what you're saying. this forum is amazing, and frankly ladies, I don't know how I would have coped through some parts without you all. You hold a very special place in my heart :)
MHB - wow, what a great attitude. especially at a time like this. good on you. I was doing some reading today and thought of you. Apparently, it can be the case that wome pregnant women have a tendency to test positive for things while they're pregnant, but they're actually false positives. I read a story about a woman who tested HIV positive!! And had to go through the whole preg thinking she was HIV pos only to find out afterwards that it was a false positive. That's what I'm hoping for you :)
Greenslw - thinking of you and your DH. And I hope this weekend sees some movement at the baby room station. You're a strong woman, and I am sure you guys will get through this. But it will take some work, and it will take your DH taking some action. But like someone else said, perhaps you can seek some counselling or help to come up with some coping and stress relief strategies for yourself. My sister is a terrible and destructive alcoholic and al-anon (for family members) is so wonderful for me and my family. I am sure there would be something similar for other sorts of issues.
big shout out to you other ladies struggling with things at the moment too. there's lots of love here for you whenever you need it.
and to all of you sailing along - hoorah!! enjoy, relax and congrats!
afm, well, saw ob this morning. he said that these issues with the boys are likely to mean that the placentas are starting to fail. so we need to do daily monitoring to ensure bubs are still ok, and that has to be done in hosp, so no going home :( he also said that at this stage, the benefits of them remaining in my uterus outweigh the risks of prematurity at this gestation, but from next week (33 weeks) the balance starts to shift, and by 34 weeks they are very likely to thrive and develop better outside. So looks like I'll be delivering in about 2 weeks unless a miracle happens!!!
i feel a bit scared, a bit excited, and a big bit relieved that I know what's going on. does that make sense?
love to you all
jenxx
Jenc hoping those boys behave and you can hold onto them a little longer.
MHB - hope tomorrow goes well for you.
Grub - you may not want to hear this but I had painful contractions from 20 weeks with Campbell. They were enough to make me stop what I was doing until they passed. My OB actually told me that I would come early. I think I was asking how long he would let me go over and he was right Campbell came at 38 weeks.
AFM - thanks for all the sympathy for my demon child as it turns out he is really sick. On steriods to try and clear his sinouses as they are so blocked and had to pick him up form daycare today as he is now running a temp and has be sitting on my lap quietly all afternoon. I asked the doctor yesterday if he was right to go to daycare and he said fine no worries. That was a big load of blah. So staying at home with him until next wed. I have been having lots of pain lately, like tummy cramps but not so much cramps. So bad that at times I can hardly stand or walk, going to ring midwife in the morning and get some answers. When I spoke to OB about them she said get more calcium and iron it helps with cramps.
Hope everyone is doing well big good luck to those getting results tomorrow will be checking on you to make sure all is well.
oh jen - i hope it all holds together til 33 weeks for you. but it is kinda exciting to think you are so close to meeting your little men! and it's funny hey what our DHs do for us. I think its a horrible job, he doesn't lol! In fact he trims ALOT more than i do and tells me afterwards "much better'' lol.
saph - nnnnnooooooooooo!!! i don't want to come too early as dh is away for 7 weeks... but 38 weeks won't be too bad as he should be home by then... i'm in a situation where I don't want bub to come while DH is away but I don't want him to come late as it will be sooo close to christmas. i just wish they came stamped with their actual arrival date! lol.
that is good that there may be a reason for Campbell's behaviour Saph, but no good he's sick. poor little bloke.
another day of work ugh - it's terrilbe i'm wishign the weeks away so i don't have to work but in the meantime also wishing my preggy away, which i should not do as this may be our only one :(
hope you are all healthy and happy and those babies are kicking the crap out of you all lol.
Hi lovely ladies,
Just popping in to say hi, I don't have much to report but am following along every day, so sorry to hear of some of the dramas.
Jen, take care of your self and your little bubs, how exciting to know they are coming soon, I hope they can last out another week or so. My SIL had her triplets at 34 weeks, they were fine and perfect and healthy, 6 weeks old now and going strong. You are in the best possible place.
Grub, so glad to hear I am not the only one growing my own bush, I had DH wax my chin and top lip the other day, but I am still doing fine on my own re my neather regions, though that will surely change when I get a belly. I am wishing the time away a little too, counting down days until mat leave (3.5 months still to go for me :lol:).
Saph, I hope your cramps calm down, and enjoy your time with Campbell this week and hope he gets better soon.
M+H+B, :clap: for your positive attitude, I think that is great, and thanks for the reminder that we are so lucky to be here. We are all counting down with you, and fingeres crossed for positive results from your liver test.
Murph, I love your always thoughtful and kind posts, you certainly have a way with words and a perfect way to express your thoughts. So glad you had a great time in Townsville, what a great day and fun stories to tell your bub.
KellyD, that is great for having an approximate date, and we can't wait to find out the name you have picked.
Greenslw, so sorry to hear your dramas with DF, I am lucky DH have been available for all my scans so far, but that is because he is out of work, and has been since Jan, so I guess there is good and bad in that. I sort of wish he did have a job, I wouldn't feel so stressed re $, I don't know yet whether I will have to go right back to work and he will be Mr Mum. I hope it sorts itself out for you.
Smithy, hope all is well with you, you are always just those few weeks ahead of me, I am trying to catch you up LOL. Swimming sounds divine, I can't wait for the weather to warm up a bit too.
MissMagpie, your weekend away sounds fabulous. GL with your test on Sat and bring on 6 weeks!
Neptune, I hope the next 2 weeks speed by for you and you can have more time to relax and get organised at home. Thinking of you.
Hi to BOC, Sammiejam, 31Becc, Bella, Mahli and everyone one else I have missed.
AFM, I had a mild panic attack yesterday stressing out that my belly wasn't growing quick enough, and being worried that my issues with blood clotting would affect the bubs' growth. I ended up googling prego bellies to compare, crazy I know. But feel much better today and a little silly for being such a stress head :wall:.
I am really excited, I have booked in a 16 week scan on the 8th Sep to check for gender, because I just can't wait, and have had lots of fun looking at my 12 weeks ultrasound video trying to see if there are little willies or not there, anybodies guess. You guys will be the first to know :D.
And DH and I have gone wild taking advantage of all the baby sales on, we have our cots, car seats, portacots, pram etc, and are starting to think about how we want to do the nursery. Very exciting.
Love to all xx
i dont have hepatitis! BUT they still cant find why my liver is so sick! ive had MORE blood taken today and the MORE on monday im such a pin cushion! then appointment on thursday to give me an induction date as they want to investigate further and cant scan me or do biopsy with bubs in there i dont want an induction but this morning sickness is killing me! so thats my positive! he is 3/5 engaged as is so he may come on his own before hand, which i hope as i wanted to birth naturally. i dont really see the point as ive only got 2 weeks roughly to go. Anyway thats my 2 cents!
babydreamtime - its good to see you back in here! take care of those little ones!
jen - WOW! we may have our bubs at the same time! are you going for a vaginal birth or a c section i cant remember sorry!
anyone heard of mels77? she should be due anyday now! she was 2 weeks infront of me.
scrap that last post!
im being induced on monday morning! my liver is very sick :( But i will have my baby boy safe and then his mummy can get fixed!
im soooo scared!!!
:clap: MHB.. best of luck for monday sweety and i hope you get better very soon . i hope you have a wonderful labour ill be thinking of you xxoo.
BD.. your so funny trying to catch up i do that to lol..i say gee i wish i was were murph or someone is :lol: ohhhhh well ge there .yay for going for 16 week scan .
all you girls im lurv you all and am thinking of you .
AFM.. going a lot better still sick in the morning but the days are now excellent im able to get things done ( ie srping cleaning ) and it makes me feel good. had ob appt today and baby charlie is going great so far little heart was beating away and dr said all is good b/p fine weight fine and we also spoke about me being induced instead of going over due and his fine with that so all going well being induced 38 weeks ( i have a real fear of going over ) also n/t results back and very happy to say i in 4000 chance of downs so very happy.
well thats about it take care girls and keep growing strong beautiful babies .
MHB AGAIN SWEETS GOOD LUCK
MHB - argh! How exciting!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You're going to be a mummy really really really soon! Congratulations!!! And of course, I hope you and your liver are ok. Can't wait to hear from you.
ps - c-section for me.
jenxx
Good afternoon lovely ladies,
I have been popping in checking on how everyone is going.
MHB whaooo that fantastic you going to meet your little man on Monday yah Not Yah for the liver thing I hope everything goes well for you.
Smithy great results on the downs test, I had my DD at 38 weeks and I was sooooo ready for her to come by then.
BDT whaooo your nearly 16 weeks how are those 2 little bubs going in there?
Saph sorry to here about your little man not feeling well I feel terrible when my little girl is not well hope he feels better soon. I hope those nasty cramps go away keep us posted pleased
Murph you have a great way of looking at things. Your baby shower sounded like so much fun I wish I was there.
Greenslw grrrrrrrrrr to your DF the 20 scan is the best one, are you going to found out the sex or do you know already sorry cant remember can't wait to here about your scan again grrrrrrrr o your DF.:wall:
:hello: Missmagpie you lucky lady, Jenc, Bella, Grub and KellyD
AFM still in hossy proberly here till babies arrive my cervix is now 8mm it was 1.6cm when I first came here. I dont think I can do anythng more then sit on my butt, Im going on to my 3 week being in here. For those of you who are wondering how long a cervix should be it does very as everyone is different but normaly about 4cm. They seem to think I only have 2-3 weeks left which will get me to 30 weeks fingers crossed I can make it a little bit further. Im feelin fine just going abit nutty. My mum and I are going to knit some little blankets for the boys which should help me past time.
keep on baking those little babies thinkng of you all
Wow it seems like we are going to have a few mummy's earlier than expected.
MHB: Good luck on Monday and hopefully you will still have the birth that you wanted and I'm sure that you are now busting to meet your little man after all the trouble you have had. Hopefully once he comes out you will get some good news about your liver.
Jen: Hopefully you are able to hold out for 2 more weeks, but hopefully your little ones are strong fighters and are all o.k if they do come a bit earlier.
Azz: Fingers crossed for you that things also stay put for a few more weeks, I'm sure you are going insane already but if you can also get to 32 weeks that would be fantastic.
Smithy: Good news on the downs results it certainly takes another stress away. Bummer that m/s is still hanging around for you although you seem to be feeling better which is a good thing.
BDT: Can't wait to find out what your little gremlins will be. Murph and me needs some more pink to balance out all this blue but I'm sure you will be wrapped with whatever colour you are having.
Grub: I know what you mean by wishing your pg time away, I just can't wait till this little one arrives. Although as I am not working I have nothing to distract me from the long days on the calender.
Saph: Sorry to hear Campbell is sick, hopefully that is the reason for his behaviour and a sick child always wants it mum.
Murph, Miss M, Neptune & Greenslw I hope you are all doing well and that things are looking on the positive for all our girls having difficulties at the moment.
MHB I agrea re lucky to be PG, but still ok to have less than happy days sometimes, as long as it's in perspective. Great no Hepatitis, hope you don't get pin cushioned again
:goodluck: for Monday
Jenc think you got me and Neptune mixed up :D
Hope you can handle 2 more weeks, hope lots of good company, food and mags will pass the time :hug: hang in there.
Saph at around 12 weeks my belly twinges started feel like someon is pulling under my skin, sort of a cramp but not, seams to be less when I relax.
grub, I don't think it's wishing the pg away just wanting to meet Grubby Bubs. work is a crap part of life, but money to buy bub stuff is good.
Baby Dreamtime my DF is going to be mr mum too, after 10-12 weeks, 2days, me 2days and nanna one day. Although I think I'm going to have to keep working Saturdays too, I know what you mean glad for $ but still want DF around.
Goodluck for gender test and enjoy the shopping spree.
Smithy glad Charlie and you are doing well.
Azzrenae nope surprise for us. thanks for sharing the grrrrrrr with me... Knitting is excelent for keeping nutty away.
KellyD thanks for the warm wishes, another day some sun and I'm smiling again, On with the jurney.
ATM this is the 2nd time posting, started at work but had to do another supervison and the day escaped me. DSS is sick in bed feeling 'cold' and 'caughing' not much but I'm deffinatly buying some glen20. Hope it's nothing I can catch.
Tea is on the boild gota bolt.
Catch up soon
hi girls! it has taken me soooo long to catch up on the last few pages of news. so much has happened!
I'm thinking of you all, but just wanted to mention...
Babydreamtime - congrats on your NT results!! I'm over the moon for you. Not long till your gender scan now.
Smithy - awesome news for you too on your NT scan.
Frosty's mum - I'm terribly sorry for your loss.
Greenslw - congrats on your engagement!
Sammie - I'm so sorry you lost one of your babies. I hope you're doing ok.
Jen - I hope you're hanging in there. 2 weeks will make all the difference.
Azz - I hope you're doing ok in hospital.
MHB - wow! good luck for Monday!!! And here, I thought I was going to beat you to it!! I'm so glad that the hep test was negative. I'm sure they'll sort your liver out after your boy arrives. Will be thinking of you!
AFM, well, 2 days to go "officially". At my obst appointment yesterday I had an internal exam yesterday (which was really unpleasant!) and I'm already 2cm dilated! So I guess this could happen at any time. But equally, it could go nowhere. So I've got another obst appointment booked in for next Thursday and if nothing happens before then, we will discuss induction. I'm really hopeful that things will progress in the next few days. I'm still feeling really well and sleeping well, so no complaints.
Love to all!
Mels xx
Wow, huge changes in here at the moment! Special post for MHB and I'll be back later.
MHB, I have goose bumps for you. I hope you can relax before Monday and get yourself in the zone for this amazing twist in the journey. We're all wishing you well and thanks for sharing all along the way. Lots of hugs for you and DH to get you through.:hug: xox
May the long time sun shine upon you,
All love surround you,
and the pure light within you,
guide your way on, guide your way on, guide your way on
Sat nam.
I sing this all the time to Jasmine, as I have done to anyone who needs help and special thoughts at any time. It's from an old yoga swami and it touches every part of me...only wish I could sing it to you. I sang it all through my amnio and I'm sure I will all through my birth (in my head hopefully).