Pregnancy after Long Term TTC - June 2007 #2

hey girls

Beibei, you are lucky thats all I have to say. feeling crook all day long is not something to envy.

BeiBei, after yet another morning of waking up to find the ms even worse again... rejoice in your freedom while you can! I'm certainly feeling really cheesed off that both my mother and my sister had no difficulties conceiving, no morning sickness... and I drew the short straw on both so far!

I managed to drag myself out of the house for a bit this afternoon. Decided to go shopping... came home with some new PJ pants and some more books to read. Novels this time, rather than pregnancy books. When I first got to the shopping centre I had the strangest reaction - I could see that it was full of pregnant women and babies in prams, and my first reaction was to think that life was so unfair, they're everywhere, I can't cope, I need to go home! It took a conscious effort on my part to actually make myself remember that very soon I'm going to be one of those pregnant women... well, I am now, it's just that you can't see it.

I managed to even make myself look at baby stuff... it's going to take a long time to get over the LTTTC mindset. There's a few babies born this year that I just haven't been able to buy gifts for - and I still can't manage it!

How long does it take to overcome that mindset and start thinking of yourself as pregnant, and to actually be able to go baby shopping? whether it be for your own or for someone else's, I still just can't do it. Am I really so strange?

BW

I certainly know a bit about that one BW. I have had that mindset for ten years and that is a major habit to break let me tell you!!! I have still had those thoughts recently but with all the attention I have been getting locally about being pregnant I think it is finally sinking in. I dont know about losing those negative thoughts yet though, I still feel really "it's not fair" sometimes then I remeber how lucky I am that it is finally all coming true for us soon and someone else will be looking at me and maybe feeling that way. I just try to remember that everyone has their own issues and maybe I look like the luckiest person inthe world to them and I am completely oblivious to it cause it is just my everyday life YKWIM?
We are having our 12 week scan on monday arvo (at 12wks6days!) and I am more than a bit excited about it. It seems like only yesterday but sooo long ago when we had our 6 1/2 week scan. How different will the baby look now??? I am sooo looking forward to just seeing it again and hearing that heart beat. I am sure you all know what I mean. I am just about dancing around in excitement. Not looking forward to the hour long drive with a full bladder on the terrible road. very bumpy . Must practice pelvic floor excersises lol.lol. Actually I only have to drink 1/2litre of water this time. Is that normal? I had to have a whole litre when they did the scan on my ovaries for OHSS....
Just wondering.
Sazz

Hi there everyone,

It's been ages since I've been on BB & I have really missed you guys.
First we had someone staying with us for a week & then I got a bad cold which I am now almost over so I am back.

Obviously I can't respond to everyone but I do have to say:

Keen - A huge welcome finally & CONGRATULATIONS!!!:happyforyou:
Twins, how beautiful you must be absolutely rapped.

Mako - Congratulations on having a boy & that he is healthy.
Sorry the comments on you belly are bothering you.
I actually have the opposite with people telling me mines huge, you really can't win either way.
I find I am just so proud to have this belly that I really don't care what pp think anymore.

Well we had our 19week scan on Friday & what a relief it is to see the bub again, I swear when it takes you sooooooooo long to get pg you just never really believe everything is ok & you are in fact actually pg, lol.

Anyway everything is going well & bub is healthy which was obviously our main concern but we did also find out the sex.

We are having a little girl:stork-girl: & I still can't quite believe it.
When the dr said a girl, I turned to dh & said OH MY GOD (in quite a loud voice) & then I said so is it like 99% a girl & he said no it's 100%.
It's not that I'm not happy it's just I really thought we were having a boy, so much so that I had already picked the name & bought a couple of blue outfits.

I didn't really care what we were having I am just glad she is healthy.
All she did through the whole scan was kick & just didn't want to sit still, although I can't feel her yet as my placenta is right at the front so it might be another couple of weeks yet.

So I see my ob on Tuesday & I guess we will discuss all things birth, arghhh.
I am a little concerned about how big she will be as when I saw local gp with my cold he felt tummy & said are you sure your only 19wks so that is a little scary especially as when I went for my IUI the nurse said she was having trouble with the speculam as I was small, hmmmmm.

Hope everyone else are growing nice big tummys!

Jo - 27 (treated endo)
Dh - 34
Second chlomid /IUI March 2007 - :bfp:

Hi Girls

Hope everyones weekend was lovely.

BW, If it wasn’t for the nausea I would honestly not even know I was pregnant, I sometimes forget that this pregnancy was achieved, and the fact that we had to go through IVF. It surreal. Because like you, we went for so long with TTC, our whole life was based around it, everything we did was to benefit our chances, all that energy and focus on just on thing TTC. So now, we have to change our whole focus on a new thing and that is our bubs.

Sazz – Good luck with the scan today, hope it all goes well.
DJTTC- congratulations on having a healthy girl. How exciting.

Not much to report, just feeling yuck all the time. Does anyone else burp a lot. I could have an empty stomach and still have stomach refluxes and needing to burp. Thant it for me.

Will check up on you girls later on.

BW I think I told you I didn't buy my first baby thing until I was 20 weeks on. And then nothing again until I was almost 28 weeks. No joke. We put a whole bunch of stuff on layby when I was 26 weeks but refused to pick it up untii I was 32 weeks, and only because my Dr was worried I'd go early and suggested I maybe install the baby seat soonish.

And you know what? I've since made up for all the abstinence of baby shopping. Charlie has far far far too much of everything now! ROFL!

DJTTC, Yay on a little girl! I thought C was a girl for most of my pg! :rolleyes:

Had my scan today... :dance: All good!

Everything is in the right place, and doing all the right things. Can't see anything apart from a tiny little speck at this stage, but that tiny little speck was blinking away. I'm so relieved to have seen a heart beat!! I knew that it was quite possibly too early and it may not be possible to pick it up at this stage, but we did!

Had acupuncture this evening, so it's been a really long day and I'm exhausted!

BW

BW - great news on your scan, isn't it wonderful to see the heart blinking away?

Panda - burping for me was the first sign that I was suffering from heartburn/reflux.
It started from say 6.5 weeks & has continued through.
I was able to reasonable control it with the things I ate, meaning no spicy food & pretty much nothing with much flavour.
So for awhile I was living on mashed potato, corn, bread, crumpets, etc anything plain.
However over the last few weeks it has been getting worse & it doesn't matter what I eat even toast in the morning starts it off.

I must say it is just so disgusting, pp say at least my m/s has worn off but they don't realize that the bubbling feeling you constantly have at the back of your throat makes you feel sick.

Anyway I have found mylanta helps to a certain extent but I am seeing spec. tomorrow & I will find out if I can take anything stronger so I'll let you know.

Also try not to eat anything too close before you go to bed or you will feel like you're having a heart attack, lol.
Milk & icecream used to help for me a little as well.

Another things asscociated with that is really bad wind pain were I can be curled up in the foetal postition because it hurts so much so I really hope you don't get that as well.

Jo - 27 (treated endo)
Dh - 34
Second chlomid / IUI March 2007 - :bfp:

Thanks DJTTC, yeh, gas also hurts or just bowel movement can cause a whole heap of pain.

BW, I am so happy for you, really exciting that you got a little heart beat. Well now you can relax and put your feet up.

Panda - I hear you on the painful bowel motions! OUCH! The only time it's ever been worse was when I was all bloated and swollen with the OHSS. Wishing you all the best with your scan tomorrow, too. It really is amazing to see - even if it is only a tiny speck at this stage.

I finally found a really effective help for the morning sickness - sea bands! They've pretty much zapped it out of existance for now... and without having to load myself full of sugar! DH honestly didn't think they'd work, but was really surprised when I emerged from bed with a smile on my face rather than looking green and lurking near the bathroom while I nibble on a handful of gingernuts!

I've been reflecting on something my FS said yesterday... along the lines of yes, miscarriages do sometimes happen, but we've got you pregnant once, we can certainly do it again. Normally, I'd be really upset to be hearing something like that, but I've actually found it extremely encouraging to hear. Now when I sit back and think about what we went through with IVF - with all the bleeding, the not responding to all the different drugs, the OHSS... For someone who was shaping up to be a real problem patient, in the end getting pregnant was so amazingly simple and problem-free.

I really think it's strange that something that would have had me in tears and freaking out, is now a really encouraging thought.

BW

Hi everyone :hello:

Firstly, Jo - congratulations!!!! :dance::dance::dance: How exciting you know what you're having!! Now you can go shopping! Woo Hoo!! I think I'd be the same as you if they said girl - I'm certain we're having a boy. I'm very happy for you. It must have been wonderful to watch her kicking and moving around. I can't wait for mine - next Monday... not long!!

Sazzafrazz - congrats on making 12 weeks!! :dance: It's a HUGE milestone - I remember it well. I think I called just about every friend that actual day to tell them - I was so excited about being able to tell people! Enjoy it!!!

BW - I know what you mean about changing your mindset - it's hard. But it does happen, slowly. I still find it surreal to think that I'm pg. I haven't bought much at all - it just seems so unreal still. I'm sure once we have big bellies we'll feel differently - I think that has to make it more real. I'm so pleased for you that you got to see the heartbeat - it's incredible isn't it?? There's only about a 5% chance of miscarriage after seeing the heartbeat - I'm sure you'll be fine!!

Ltl Panda - hope you're feeling a little better.

Not much to report from here... I'm hoping this week goes quickly because my 19 week scan is Monday... very excited about that!! Looking forward to the baby moving and DH being able to feel it from the outside! I'm sure it will happen soon enough.

I hope I haven't missed anyone and I hope everyone has a great day!! :)

Sam

Hi ladies,

haven't got a chance to check in much as work has been so flat out...seems lot of happening here...

BW, so happy to hear that your scan went well and the little heart beat is blinking away, how exciting!

Sazz, how was your 12 week's scan on Monday? Hope all went well, thinking of you!

DJTTC, congratulations on your little girl! Its funny you asked the doctor if it is 99% or 100%, because my collegue has experienced that '100% girl verdict from the OB' and they have bought all the pinky and girlie stuff, and on the day, to all their surprise, it was a boy delivered. They don't even have a boy's name picked up...They say its more likely to be mistaken in this way than the another way around, I guess its the 'naughty little boy' is playing hide and seek...don't let me scare you, but hey what if...your instinct is right? :lol:

Panda, I think your scan is soon as well, how did it go? And Sammi, you must be counting down the days for your scan next Monday...

Have I told you guys that I had a b/t done last Friday just to check if the level is alright, it turns out quite perfect, which set my mind at ease a bit before our 10th July scan...

DH and I are off to an early Pregnancy Information night tomorrow held by SIVF, so should be interesting to absorb all the info...

Hello to Monnie and Mako and everyone else, enjoy the night!

Hi...

just a quick one as I'm meant to be helping DH cook, but I keep running in here to hide from the cooking smells!

I saw my rheumy today, and he was so excited to hear I'm pregnant! He took my blood pressure - 110 over 70, is that good?

BW

Sounds perfect to me!

BW the bp is perfect.... nice one... big thumbs up for you.

Hi girls,
Had my scan on monday and all is well! The nuchal fold measurement needs to be below .30 to be "normal" and ours was around .14 so that was great news. Just waiting on the blood results to come back to GP to confirm that. It was amazing!!! bubs was on the stomach then on the side then on back with arms up and hands behind his/her head just relaxing! Very cool. It seemed to take ages which was fine by me as I could have watched all day! DH is feeling much releived by the scan but I wasnt at all worried about it.
BW, yay on your scan !!! It is sooo great to see that little flicker isnt it! just amazing stuff.
Jo, yay on finding out about your little girl! I can understand your surprise though as I have quite strong feelings on what ours is and would be startled to find otherwise.
Beibei, glad your bloods was a relief to you... things like that really help.
Sorry, no more personals, someone gave me a rotten cold and I feel bleurgh! I will go and sleep till I have to go to work tonight. I dont really want to go out because it is cold, windy and stormy here and everyone else in the world will be tucked up nice and warm at home.... boo hoo.

Hey girls

Had the scan today, it was amazing seeing the little heart beat. so we got a little close up picture that will go towards my baby journal.

Beibei, great news on the b/t, reassurance is bliss for me.

Sazzfrazz, that is briliant news on the scan I guess that is one obstacle gone.

well nothing more to say, all is well, hope you girls are doing ok.

How fantastic to hear the good news about your NT scan Sazz...bub sounds quite active and it must be increditable to watch that...well done hun!

Panda, congrats on seeing the heart beat on your scan today, did you do a transviginal one or normal u/s?