Oh my goodness! WTF?! I can't believe someone would actually say that to you. How completely horrid of them, I'm in shock.
I hope today is a better day for you.
Oh and, a HUGE congratulations to you and your DH on your pregnancy.
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Oh my goodness! WTF?! I can't believe someone would actually say that to you. How completely horrid of them, I'm in shock.
I hope today is a better day for you.
Oh and, a HUGE congratulations to you and your DH on your pregnancy.
:hug: Insensitive and inappropriate people can be. Congrats on the scan though!
What a horrid awful disgusting thing to say!!! I'm mortified for you!
:hug: All of us here understand how much that would of hurt but also how very untrue and rude of this person to say such a thing!
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:hug: What a horrible and rude thing for someone to say! Some people just do no think about what they are saying!! I am just speechless really.
I'm so sorry you had to hear that, what an awful thing to have said to you :hug:
WOW the nerve!!!!!!! OMG I am seething ......
:hug: massive hugs hun people who are clearly lacking brain cells really shouldn't open their mouths.
Im sorry your going through this Lys, My best friend also went through it and it broke my heart, she would just say nothing can ever replace a child!
HUGE hugs, dont let it get you down too much, enjoy your pregnancy, You know that replacing Zach isnt the case, just creating a sibling for him, a lost child is a child no matter when lost and you have been a mother from the moment you conceived Zach!
Take care of yourself, Live for your baby boy & your new child & for noone BUT them!!!
beautifully put 3xblessed, i agree 100%.:
i have not miscarried or lost a still born angel, just the thought of it, makes me tear up - so my heart goes out to women who have lived thru that experience. i am that person who has a wet face just hearing the news on tv, hearing of a child that has died, and thinking how devastated their family would be.
No idea of whether you will ever feel strong enough to make the "on the spot" reply, e.g "that's a very insensitive comment", but if you did, i would be cheering. The awkward thing would be i guess, if the person didn't even comprehend that what they said WAS insensitive. I mean, if you had to explain to them, or educate them, on how insensitive they had just been - well, that would take ALOT of strength and energy from you.
I wish I could have made an on the spot come back. But I was stunned. Just stood there.
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People say the most heartbreakingly insensitive things. I'm so sorry you've had to go through this experience, losing a child is unimaginable, and for that hurt to be compounded with people saying silly things to you is just awful... :hug:
I'm over it. Another person said the same thing this morning. And also added in the fact that I "should be over my loss by now" :( insensitive *BEEPS*
NOW I FEEL WORSE THAN EVER :(
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It astounds me that people can ever think that way, let alone actually say it to someone. We replace cars when they break down, NOT babies! Nothing could ever replace a lost child. You could have 20 children and it would never replace the baby you only get to keep in your heart and not in your arms.
You are an amazing and strong woman and my thoughts are with you ♥
O.o I have no words for how rude and insensitive those people are being. You poor thing. Left me completely speechless.
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Oh LynsDan that is just crap. Im in the same boat I lost Char-leigh @35 weeks 6 months ago and currently 9wks pg with my rainbow baby. I have had a really hard time with my DH family since lossing Char-leigh they have become very nasty ppl and for that reason we havent shared our news with them yet as I'm not ready to deal with their bull. Hold your head high and proud nothing could every replace Zach or Char-leigh there will always be a special place in our hearts for them.
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Some people are idiots and i guess in a way its nice that they have never experienced something to make them think any different...but it doesnt help make me want to rub their face with a brick for you!
Hugs and congratulations on this pregnancy!
Oh hun that's just awful and completely thoughtless of them! I'm sure if it was me I'd be too stunned to make a comeback either but please know we are all here for you and we KNOW no baby could ever replace Zach... And there is no time a mother could ever 'get over' a loss! Please don't listen to these people, they obviously just can't handle common decency :( *huge hugs*
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If you do feel like using air on these people, just ask them if that's what they did or thought when it happened to them. I can guarantee that these people have never experienced it, so you'll have them right there and they'll likely think again before saying it to anyone else ever again.
They're not trying to push your buttons, they're coming from a perspective of a society that doesn't talk about it and doesn't feel comfortable discussing it. A lot of the time it's because the people it happens to don't want to talk about it, so we're in a bit of a bind. Doesn't excuse "Remove brain, insert stupid comment now" syndrome :(
I really don't think they actually mean to suggest that you have no feelings for your angel - they're just deluded in thinking that they're actually helping...somehow...