Pregnancy after Miscarriage or Loss #4

Well done Vic, almost 8 weeks!! :) I'm sure everything will be fine from now on. I had the same thoughts, it sucks. Try and be positive. I am going to join the July belly buddies club too :)

Joeve, I don't understand 6 weeks ahead?? What does that mean? 6 weeks ahead of dates? I am so clueless :redface:

Saffy, I hear ya on rego!! Totally sucks. And your coxic, ouch, that must have been awful :( Take it easy!

Congratulations Andie!! :) I will be sending positive vibes. FX all goes well for you xx

AFM, well I'm 8+1 (is that how you do it?) and booked in with an OB in 3 weeks time and then a 12 week scan on Dec 27th. My morning sickness has eased (thank goodness!!) But it's still there. I can handle nausea most of the day, but not all day! Oh and now I have heartburn at night :lol:

Tasha once you get past 20 weeks they get a tape measure and feel around the tummy area, from top of pubic bone to where they feel from the outside, your uterus is sitting. Bits called fundal measurement. You should be almost 1 week per centermetre, so I should be 29cm but I am 35cm :)
Hope that makes sense. I am going for a bubs measurement scan next week just to double check bub measurement and fluid.
Hope everyone is cruising along ok x

Oh, i think I understand Joeve :) And good luck with the scan next week :)

Can I jump in here and be ridiculously neurotic? Because I do not know anyone else that might be able to relate to this kind of crazy!
I had a rather big bleed last week and on scanning discovered bubs was doing well and I have a small haematoma (sp??). Went for a follow up scan today and bubs had visibly grown (chubby little arms and legs!!) and was measuring to dates, ultrasound guy said he saw heartbeat at 178, but i couldn't see it myself!! usually I spot the flicker right away and this time I thought I caught it for maybe a second when he pointed it out, but then couldn't see anything again!!:o I know hoe ridiculous this sounds, he does this all day every day so obviously I trust his judgement better than my own dodgy eyes but it just scared me that it looked so still. I wish I had seen it for myself!

has anyone not been able to see a HB on the scan but been told there was one there? Or has anyone been told there was one where there wasn't? Does anyone want to slap me to shake the silly out?:redface: I thought another scan would bring me relief but it just didn't!

Gosh Maybe thats a bit weird that you couldn't see the heart beat. And I think its crap that he didn't hold it long enough for you to see it. But is must have been on it long enough to get a count. My guy holds it on for a while then it scrolls across the screen and he then measures the scrolls if that makes sense. I am sure it will be all good.

AFM - I am having freak out moment. It seems like my ms is not really showing itself this morning. I was nauseaus through the night and then this morning while getting ready, but now when it ramps up around 9.30am its not really come on. My bb are still sore. Last time bubs passed a few days after the scan and now I am freaking out as I had a scan with this one on Monday. I dont know whether its any value getting another HCG test? My GP suggested getting one each week, but I have read that HCG starts to decrease from 9 weeks onwards so I dont want to make myself more anxious by it dropping. I so wish I could have another scan. I am 8w+2.

He did the scrolly thing and I could see the waves and the count averaging out, I just couldn't see the flicker on bub like I usually can. He asked me to hold my breath at one point, and he took it a couple of times, but it just keeps nagging away at me how still bubs looked and how I couldn't see it myself. I'm sure I'm being stupid, it would have to be ultrasound 101, view heartbeat, I'm just freaking out as always.

As for the morning sickness, I can promise you that mine is not predictable. Every now and again I have a 'good' day and worry, and then on a day like today I haven't been able to keep anything down all day. I'm assuming the hormones are always fluctuating? I was also under the impression that once you have seen the scan and HB that the scans are a better indicator than HCG levels at this stage? I was supposed to go for repeats the other day but after a successful scan they said it wasn't necessary, unless they were checking your progesterone or something else specific.

Thanks Maybe re the morning sickness. It always makes me a bit panicky as my symptoms last time never really took off and then stopped 2 weeks before my second scan and they said bubs had passed just over 2 weeks since my first scan. As for the BT its just a HCG test, but I like you, think that scans are the only reliable way to check. I spoke to DH at lunch about it. I hate to freak him out about it as he already trying not to bond with this one. He looked a bit shell shocked when I said about it, so hopefully its just the hormones fluctuating and nothing else.

As for the HB if the waves were there its all good. I know how hard it is with every step and if something is just a little bit off it can really freak us out. And I thought getting pg was hard enough. I find staying pg waaaayyyyy harder. Its so up and down, so very emotional. Is your next scan your 12 week one?

Hi VIC, I am just past 14 weeks now and my symptoms did certainly come and go. If nausea went, sore boobs would start and vice versa. I would say have you got any symptoms still?? Especially triedness?? if yes, just try and relax and see what tomorrow brings. These first few weeks really are so difficult, and I wish you well. If you really can't cope with the stress go back to the Dr and try and get another scan for peace of mind.

Take Care xx

Thanks Lady. I still am tired and have sore boobs. I still feel like crap, but not as bad as yesterday. I now feel really hung over. Thanks for your post xxx

Vic, I had constant ms for 2 weeks and when it went I was panicking. Everyone told me it comes and goes, but all i could think was the worst. I had 3 good days and then it came back, though not as bad, it's still here. I figure if I can't eat like I used to, there's still a baby in there! This is so daunting at this time, I'm sure you could get another scan if you are really worried xx

hi ladies,

having a bit of a freak out today, my boobs havent really been as sore as they have been for the past two days. used to be sore to touch, and now not really. i know hormones can fluctuate, but im a bit worried. im only 5 weeks & 3 days, seems a bit soon for symptoms to ease off? i have made an appt with the gp and will get them to check hcg/prog levels bc i just cant wait until my scan next tues to find out whats going on. i feel a bit silly bc i should be happy that im pregnant, but i just cant help feeling like something is wrong. sorry for the negative post, i was doing well up till now trying to be positive but its so hard after having previous miscarriages.

hope everyone is doing well. xx

Andie - I too had a freak out moment around the 5 and a half week stage. My GP gave me BT forms to get my levels tested whenever I want so I got my HCG retested and was reassured. I have only had to do it the once as so far so good with they symptoms. Its a very hard stage being between 4 weeks and 6-7 weeks until the symptoms really kick in. Try and have faith that its all ok in there and get another HCG test as its better not to be so anxious. Easy to say right lol. I am surprised they are not making you wait until the 7 week mark for your scan as its better to see the heartbeat, but I know its soooo hard to wait :)

As for being negative I usually find the good news starts to wear off about 10 days after I get it, then the panic starts in again. First HCG, flying high. Then the doubts till the next one. Then doubts creep in till the scan. Ugh its a vicious cycle :(

Vic- me too!! I was talking to hubby about this the other day. Every time I look forward to some little appointment or milestone I think that I will feel relief, and yet it truly doesn't help me, I feel numb!! I truly hope this feeling goes away, we waited so long to get here, i don't want to miss it by being caught up in my own fear.

Maybe - MY BFF went through 8 IVF cycles (just like me) and when she finally got her BFP was so thrilled and scared to death. She then started bleeding at 5 weeks and went on to bleed through her whole pg and got told on many occasions that she was having a mc. Her DD is now a happy and healthy 3 year old and she said her biggest regret was not being able to enjoy the pg. With her, the bleeding constantly had her unsettled. For me its having a missed mc. My bub had stopped being viable 3 weeks before I found out. Lucky for me this time around the nausea is keeping that pg feeling ticking along. When is your next scan/appt? My scan is 21st dec which feels like forever away. We just have to have faith that our ms means that something is going on inside us :)

thanks, vic. :hug: you are right, the good news only lasts so long. i was feeling pretty good after the first hcg numbers came in... now ive had a week to digest, the nerves are kicking in. ive had the bt but i doubt it will be back today, probably have to wait until tomorrow. at my scan i will be 6 weeks & 4 days, so maybe they think its close enough to 7 weeks? who knows... thanks again for your post, i appreciate it. xx

maybe - i think thats what i feel too, numb. its like you cant get excited or let your guard down. i hope you get to enjoy your pregnancy soon.

Vic and Andie hugs hope there is more awesome news around the corner for you both x
The unsure feelings haven't left me the whole time it's just one foot in front of the other :)

My BFF said it only hit her she was having a baby when she was put in her arms. She said even then it was all very surreal. She couldn't believe it was hers and that she got to take it home with her lol.

Although she said reality set in really quickly when it was their first night home and her DD cried pretty much all night :)

Lol that's a good reality check!