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Very glad to hear that Desailly :)
I'm becoming uncomfortable & wish I had a bath big enough to fit all of me in at once instead of feeling like a beached whale lol. Had another quick scan last week to check bubs size as Ob felt she was too big but she's perfect & definitely a girl so now I've decided that my care givers can relax a bit & let me enjoy the next 11 weeks. I'm ok, baby's ok, everything is good & under control :)
Good news desailly! I am still feeling pretty horrid - but the type of horrid fluctuates each day.... If that makes any sense!!
My anxiety fluctuates too - I finally told my mum on the weekend, and even though I was worried she would spoil it, by being all antsy re who I had told and when, she was really good and she cried. It was lovely and I wish I had told my hubby to video record it while it happened :) I have my next scan on Thursday this week, I will be 9 weeks 2 days. Am looking forward to it and anxious all at the same time!!!
glad to hear yhe scan went well desailly x
afm, countdown is on to finish work, last day is thursday! also I have a cold again which sucks
Hello everyone!
I was hoping to quietly sneak in here, as I'm still very tentative and nervous about even admitting I am pregnant however my very regular period is 4 days late now and I'm waiting until tomorrow to test...DH and I lost our daughter at full term around 8 months ago, and for the next pregnancy, I'm going to be very quiet with no announcements etc.
It's been a tough year for us, and this could be a ray of hope and sunshine that just may pull us through to 2014! Crossing fingers xxx
Hello summery :) hopefully tomorrow will be the bfp you are hoping for. Sorry to hear about the loss of your daughter, I cannot imagine how nerve wrecking it must be to be pregnant again after losing a child when you're meant to be in the 'safe' zone.
Thanks Tick Toc! Yes, sadly there will be no rest or "safe zone" for us, until there is a screaming baby in our arms. To be honest, the first trimester is going to be the easiest of all for us anxiety wise, which is probably quite different to some of you lovely ladies. The journey ahead is daunting, but also exciting. It's in fates hands, as there is no medical or physical reason we should expect a bad outcome twice. This doesn't help with the fear sadly :)
I'll check back in tomorrow after the test!
welcome summery, here is hoping for a stong bub for you xxx
this saturday will be the anniversary of my first bfp whichsoon after became mc :( I have been thinking about my angel quite a bit this week, I dont think the fear ever goes, even now I am full term just waiting. .....
Hugs kbudgie - it's a haunting feeling. I hope when your LO makes their entrance it helps to ease some of your pain.
My 1st m/c was picked up at 12.5wks, on 12th feb many years ago & for a long time after I would often get very emotional around that time & sometimes not even be aware of "why" until all of a sudden it would click. My 2nd m/c doesn't have that effect, I was more detached that time. And I think because we got pregnant so soon after my 3rd that it will have even less of an impact in the long run. Not that that child was any less loved or wanted.
The funny thing is that this LO is due 12th Feb - I wonder if that has contributed to my stress & anxiety or if my stress levels were bound to be high just as a natural result of 3 m/c & one healthy child born?
I hope you ladies don't mind me joining in on the converstaion. I just couldn't read and run.
Next week on 10th Dec will be the due date of the bub I lost to MMC in June this year. My DH and I found at we had miscarried at scan at 12.5 weeks, followed by a D&C as things weren't progressing naturally. We fell pregnant very quickly again 2 months after the D&C, and got our BFP on fathers day.
I'm currently 17 weeks pregnant (on wednesday) and have been on such tender hooks the whole time, anxious for every scan to make sure that things are ok.
I often have a quite teary moment when I think of our first bub and am not sure whether next week will come and go without too much thought, or if it will be a bit emotional.
Kbudgie, I hope your babies arrival will calm some of your fears, I'm hoping that this little bub will help do that for me.
Good luck for next week shanleem, I think what ever happens next week you should be prepared for the unexpected & just roll with it. It's hard & any reaction you do or don't have will be natural because no one can tell you how to feel or act xoxo
:grouphug: maybe we all need a hug today xxx
Welcome summery I hope this one works out for you. Must have been very traumatic to lose your little one full term and I know that experience will never leave you. I've lost more than my share but never late stage like that.
Those anniversaries of losses always stay with you don't they. The first one I lost was due on my brother's birthday so I think I'll remember it every year forever.
I'm wondering if I'll reach a stage in this pregnancy that I'll relax and just enjoy being pregnant. I'm only 8 wks so that's still a long way off if it does happen. Though Kbudgie if you're still anxious at nearly term I don't think my chances of relaxing are very good !
Hi gals
Just checking in to let you know it's good news :)
Awesome!!
All all good here too.. DR told me yesterday that with the two excellent scans I have has now the risk of miscarriage is very low. I know it doesn't rule out all the potential issues, but it does help make me feel better about it all.
That's great news!!!
As women who have been through loss, so much of our care is now about stress minimisation, so if you are feeling a little less anxious, that's all you can hope for.
Xxxx
Great news summeru and my turn xxx
Hi all,
Found out last week that i was expecting again. I lost my first one in July this year and i took it very badly.
Since finding out i was pg again, i can't help but look at every sign as being bad. I started spotting a brownish cm (sorry for TMI) yesterday afternoon. Its still kind of continuing. After reading EVERYTHING on the internet, i can't help but think this time is going to be over for me already. I know that it can sometimes be "normal" to spot in early pregnancy, but i just dont feel that lucky.
I am putting off seeing a doctor because i dont want to be faced with the same conclusion that i received last time.
I'm just hoping that i'm overreacting and that if i just relax and wait another couple of weeks that either i will mc and be done with it or will have some pg symptoms to complain about...coz i have nothing atm. Which is whats playing on me the most i guess.
I feel so sad!
Oh wrangalove, I know it's hard to stay focused on the positives. Congratulations on your pregnancy & I hope you feel more confident soon. A lot of women who have experienced loss never really relax until the day their baby is born. Know that how you're feeling is natural & normal. Good luck xxx
wrangalove congrats and here is to a very sticky baby for you.
It's true after lots is hard to feel relaxed. I am due in 6 days and still have moments of nervousness
thank you for the kind words. just going to relax and let whatever happend happen. there is nothing i can do if i'm going to mc. but i really hope this little one sticks around.
Great approach Wrangalove...acceptance that so much is out of our control is sometimes the most powerful coping mechanism!
Hi everyone! I'm doing well, ms hasn't hit yet but the tiredness is creeping in. Part of me wants to be as sick as a dog, just so my pregnancy feels different from my first daughter which was a dream! But I know I'll regret saying that :)
I'm almost 7 weeks and completely paranoid something is wrong, but as I mentioned above, I've accepted that this is going to be a huge part of the journey for the next little while. I suspect it will get worse if I make it past 20 or so weeks too, when I'm more invested. But generally feeling ok, and keeping my anxiety locked in a little box in my head, aware that it's there but quite happy for it to be out of sight, out of mind at the moment! I'm excited about being pregnant and am relieved we are on the path to becoming parents again, that part definitely feels right.
How is everyone else going? Xxx
announcing the arrival of baby William George Gray born at 4 : 32 am on the 27th.
Congratulations kbudgie (I've been stalking you in the December thread)! I hope you're recovering well & enjoying all those yummy baby cuddles with your little boy :) xxx
Congrats kbudgie xxx
Congratulations kbudgie :) xxx
Congrats kbudgie!!! Enjoy that lovely newborn smell :) and the awesome cuddles
Congrats Kbudgie!!!!!!! and love his name, very nice!!!
and just joining the thread myself.
I am 8w, and after my last m/c was told by FS that I had a 50% chance of m/c. I was on clomid to help TTC, and at my first scan found out I was pg with twins! I had another scan on Fri, and HB were 163 and 161 and measuring to date, so hopefully odds are moving in my favour now. I guess I will find it doubly hard to relax in this pg. We already have 2 beautiful girls, so I know I am blessed, but I do have more love left for another - or two!
Oh wow Milly5! What wonderful news. Here's best wishes for a safe & long pregnancy 😊
Congratulations kbudgie! And wow TickToc, not long to go now :-)
Sticky dust to all :-)
Yep, on the countdown :) Did/does anyone else get towards the end & then have another wave of fear & anxiety? I've gone from "cannot wait to meet this beautiful baby" to having this fear that something will go wrong at the end & I still will be left with no baby. It's a horrible feeling, I feel like I've developed a false sense of security & I'll be left all organised with no baby. I spoke to the midwife today about it but just wondering if anyone else has experienced this?
yes ticktoc I have a fear friend who lost a baby at 3 days old so I have been worried the last few months. She was born and immediately they knew she had issues. I always thought something can go wrong at any time but also I can't control it now I am at the stage of checking if he is Ok etc all the time *hugs * you have to believe all will be ok though
milly congratulations on twins that is awesome. Lots of sticky vibes to you xx
milly: congratulations. how exciting!!
ticktoc: i would imagine anyone that has mc'd at any point in their pg will have some level of fear. i'm fearful every day. i'll be 7wks tomorrow and have a doctors appointment on wednesday morning. will be begging for an early scan as you will remember i never saw a hb last time. i am terrified it will happen again.
*sneaking in*
Massive congrats kbudgie! So exciting! Little boys are so much fun! Enjoy this special time and the awesome cuddles :D
Ticktoc, I was worried as well, till the last moment. But the chance for positive endings at this stage are much higher than something going wrong. Not long now! Enjoy these weeks before the big event, make sure you get lots of you time, soon it will all be about your little one! It's so worth it though!
*sneaking out*
ok ladies! i'm not one for prays, but i have my first U/S today at 11:30am darwin time to see how far along i really am. i am terrified i'm not going to see anything again. wish me luck. will post up results.
Good luck Wrangalove!!! I'll crossing everything for you xox
Sending you positive sticky vibes wrangalove xx
Hoping all the best for you wrangalove xxx
woohoo!! we have a heartbeat!! must have just started beating. about 95bpm. i calculated that i'm 7w3d bubs measured around 6w0d. but my bladder was so full it was squishing my little bean!!! feeling much better about it all so far. thank you all for the well wishes. means a lot to me.
Very glad to hear! :)
Grow little bean grow! All the best wrangalove xxx