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Boy oh boy where do I start here.
I can't believe how fast this thread is moving and I just have no energy at all to even try and keep up so please nobody take it personally, I am just feeling so exhausted. Sorry this is gunna be an all about me post ladies, but belly rubs to you all and heaps of cyber hugs for your understanding.
My DFs grandmother passed away last week end and we are heading off to Grafton tomoro for her funeral, DD is going to stay with her father for the week end as I really don't like the thought of taking my 5y.o to a funeral at all, I don't really want to go as they have HUGE family dramas down there already with family members trying to get what they can from the estate, and it just makes me sick to even think about them acting like vultures.
I had another OBs appointment on Monday and it all went really well, DF and DD came with me to hold my hand, DF got a little choked up when he got to hear bubs HB which was so sweet to see. DD asked my OB if mummy was having a little girl as she wants a sister, lol. Was such a lovely appointment, we did an Vaginal Ultra Sound and got to see bub moving and wriggling around and was even waving to us, how cool. I am due on the 22nd of September so I am 9 weeks tomoro. I still have bouts of nausea but only when I start getting hungry now, so I am really happy that has settled down for me.
I will do my best to try and keep up with everyone in here, sorry for no personals I feel really slack for not doing any, but my brain aint working at the moment due to being totally exhausted. Just had to share some of my news with you all.
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Damprye - My Dr said the baby still has plenty of time to turn, but I think it's worth looking into some techniques JIC. Yay for getting to 12 weeks!
Alish - Yes it will probably mean back labour (which I hear is horrible) if he/she doesn't turn. Still lots of time left though so I'm not worried yet.
Mildez - My thoughts exactly. I'm not hitting any panic buttons yet lol :) Awesome news about your placenta, yay for that!
Ferrals - I heard that sort of cream shouldn't be used on ummmm 'sensitive areas'. I've always been to scared to. How exciting that you might get another natural birth afterall! Although now I'm panicky because that means I'm definitely next if that's the case, lol. I liked having you as my 'race to the delivery room/operating theatre' buddy. LOL.
Melster - Gosh you're having a rough time lately, sorry to hear about your mum and dad's medical issues. Just remember to take baby steps. Deal with things one day at a time, one hour at a time if you have to. It's so hard not to feel out of control when everything seems to be crumbling around you. All I can say is hang in there, and try to deal with things in smaller more manageable chunks. :hug:
India's mum - Tell me about it! I had to skip my afternoon nap today for fear I'd get left behind if I didn't log in, LOL. I'm keeping all my fingers and toes crossed that you get to see a beautiful heartbeat at 8 weeks. :hug:
T-Hopes - LOL, I love that we can all discuss our downstairs hairstyles in here so un-selfconsciously! So you're a 'landing strip' kinda gal, eh? *chuckle* How did you get past the initial awkwardness of baring all for someone to wax you?? That's the part that bothers me!
Clairesmummy - Sorry to hear about DF's grandma's passing. Very sad. It really is a personal choice whether or not to take children to funerals. Perhaps with all the drama going on it's best she isn't there, not because the occasion involves death, but because of the behaviour of the family. Great scan results, hooray for that, and how cute of your DD to ask if she's getting a little sister. :) Good luck with your road-trip and I hope all the family drama doesn't affect you too much.
AFM - Had a really nice little 'teaparty' with some friends today. (The only two who seem to care about anything other than themselves, hence the ones I am keeping!) They both came over bearing gifts, which was very sweet and totally unexpected, as I just slapped together some homemade cookies and invited them over for a bit of company. So I guess I had a mini baby shower of sorts hehe. We talked babies and ooh-ed and aah-ed and did all that kind of girlie stuff.
The drama still continues though with the cancellation of the REAL baby shower. Since DP still works at the same place as these women, I hear all the feedback. After sending the email to cancel, I got a couple of quick responses. One lady saying she had a party to go to the night before my baby shower, and that it would continue on till the next day. (translation: I would rather get drunk and try to sleep with anything that moves than come to your baby shower). Another said she was coming, but hadn't gotten around to replying yet. WELL, people.. that's why there's an RSVP date on these things. This particular lady I would have called my bestie, so I was really ropeable with her laziness. I ended up confronting her about her slack behaviour (very politely and professionally, as I used to work at this place so wanted to keep my reputation intact, clearly..) and told her she not only didn't bother to respond to the invite, but didn't bother to call me for the lunchdate she promised me 6 weeks earlier, AND forgot my birthday. Her response was 'Oh I'm no good with birthdays. Want to go out to lunch this Saturday?' I was insulted she didn't even apologize!!!!! She just threw me a pity invitation (which she probably would have flaked out on too anyway!) I simply emailed her back and said 'no. I realise now how low on the priority list I am, I don't have anything else to say really and I think I'd just like to move on'.
Now this lady who was my 'bestie' was quite chummy with my DP also. He's bumped into her a few times in the last couple of days and she's actually been RUDE to him! What has it got to do with him?! I'm blown away by the childish behaviour of a woman who's freakin' 40 years old! I get she might feel a bit....... upset after our confrontation, but really all I did was give her a few home truths. She's the one who behaved in such an un-friendly manner, she's the one who's let me down time and time again, and taken advantage of my good nature. Now as soon as I point that out politely, and express my disappointment she gets all sulky and gives us both the silent treatment. Just goes to show how good this friend was if she'd turn on me so fast for doing what a friend should: BEING HONEST, and not putting up with bad behaviour just because we're friends. I would expect no less from her if I was letting HER down.
OK, I've rambled again, but that was all really bothering me. It feels good to get that off my chest. So to summarize, age means nothing, I'm 15 years younger than this woman and obviously have more tact, grace, and manners than she'll ever have. I should have known that after babysitting her ROTTEN kids.
If you got through all that, good for you, lol. I'm going to climb back under my rock now and continue to feel polite indignation at the ridiculousness of the whole situation.
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Just quickly from me -
Melster - Oh sweetie - I am so sorry .. HUGS.... you are stronger than you know and one day unexpectedly you'll realise you're smiling.
Clairesmummy - safe driving and be strong in all that emotional storm and tempest going on down there.... it's never easy to deal with and oh so undignified.
India's mum - keep strong - you are doing everyting right and doing your absolute best for bubs - hugs.... one day you'll be able to beleive, but until then I will believe for you.
TegamM - tuesdays are generally good....
Congrats to those who got RAK'ed - you deserved it Mildez...and wow for that placenta getting jiggy with it and relocating.
Ferrals - love the pic of Ella - good news to about your placenta.
Alish - thankyou so much... no planning about time frames here... best laid plans and all that... with my history I might end up lucky first time or might end up having to try a while before Hannah gets an earthside sibling.. seems fertility hasn't been an issue in the past, but no guarantees about the future, and keeping bubs sticky doesn't seem to be my strong suit.... so no planning here...oh .... except the race to 40.
Forshelby - I agree! Ridiculous. Be the bigger person and rise above it. Glad there are some keepers though.
Kell - little mischief maker indeed - glad he was moving again and your appointment went well.
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wow ladies you talk too much!
Ferrals: sorry i must have missed your earlier post, glad i read the last one properly! WOOOOOOOHOOOOO :leap: :dance: On the placenta moving! Come on just a few more cms..... it would be so nice for your DH and you to get to experience a natural birth and quick recovery! love the photo/ticker!
Forshelby: 36weeks OMGoodness thats wonderful! Your DH will soon know why you didnt want the white undies!
Mel: Bugger, life sounds pretty $hit for you at the moment! Wish there was something we could do!
Alish: yay on RAK, i was last year, it made my day, amazing how good it feels to do it for someone else too. Its a pity there arent more chances in life to do something so simple and make someone happy!
Ok i should do more personals but DH has just taken DS to get the 2 girls from school so i am jumping in the shower to wash my hair and shave my legs while Molly sleeps! Ahhh the simple pleasures of self grooming with no one 'help' in the shower :rofl:
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Oh and alish, no it wasnt me who RAKed you, i just re read my post!
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Tegam- Oh the joys of showering alone. I try to but every time I even go into the bathroom, DS comes bolting in. If I lock the door or say no, he stands there screaming and I still don't call that alone *sigh*
Dory- Where has your sig disappeared to lol?
Forshelby- I don't think actual age means anything in comparison to maturity. I know children that act more mature than a lot of adults. Glad you still have a couple of friends. That's all I have as well. Most of my other "friends" are more of just aquaintances. When I need help or hold a party, it is extramely doubtful that they will be there unlike my real friends. I felt like crod after helping one friend out so much, lending money that years later is still not repayed, driving her everywhere etc and then my car broke down. No car= no driving her around, repairs= no money for me to lend her, -car F -money= -friend as she no longer had a use for me. Sadly I lost a lot of friends during that time as they actually had to make an effort to meet up with me and I couldn't drive them around. After a while, you really do not miss them and realise that you just do not care.
Clairesmummy- I have not long gotten my enery back to be properly active on BB again. For a few weeks there I just couldn't even think of what to write to others so mainly just updated on what was happening with me and my bub. It happens so don't feel bad about it. I hope that there arn't to many dramas on the days surrounding the funeral. Vultures sicken me as well but unfortunately there are many of them out there.
AFM- I think I am on the come down from all the excitement of seeing bub. The heat is also so not helping my mood. Everything I have been "I'll deal with it later" has hit with a vengance. I rang my bank and was put through to a specialised person as I was going off my nut lol. It did help me feel a lil better. I am just so sick of having to deal with money issues. I am so worried about what I am going to do when I have to start paying rent again. It was ok when I had my job. Working covered both the cost of rent and food, this FN I had $15 to do food shopping with. I can't go back to work there as I would have to stand fcor a min of 2hrs and be all busy the whole time and right now I can barely stand to be on my feet long enough to go shopping. I do need a job though. Just somethijng that will give me $300 extra a FN and that doesn't involve standing for so long. Makes me worry again about how I am going to manage moneywise with another child. Hopefully XDP will have started paying cs for DS by then and XDP2 will be forced into paying up as well. #2 should be easier though as he pays up for his other two children whereas #1 is working and not declaring or paying me a cent for his Son. Oh I wish that things were not so difficult. I thought that at least this time I would have a partner to share the journey with and then he turns out to be yet another tosser. If I never lost my first angel or turned XDP away when he begged me back, I would not be having all these issues now.... I really do miss him.
Time to just push it all back to the back of my head and get through today and every otherday with my usual fake happy go lucky grin on my face, it isn't often that people realise all the pain behind it so I know as always, people will accept my "happiness" no questions asked.
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Dory - Your message to India's mum is EXACTLY what we all said to you while you were pg with Hannah. :) I'm sure you realise this, but it's just so cute to see you saying it to others now. Out of about 20 'friends' I've kept 2. Quality over quantity. The rest can get stuffed if they're going to be sponges who take and take and are never there for ME.
Tegam - LOL, I tried to explain it to him gracefully and discretely...... but we were in public. He said 'Oh you can throw them away' and I said 'No way, I'm not throwing away new undies!' I of course got the rolled eyes response. You're right though. Afterwards he will understand, and praise my choice of black, dark purple and burgundy knickers. :) And thanks for the good laugh.... it really is the simple things that bring pleasure. Enjoy your solo shower, and shave your legs extra good in my honour. I just can't reach anymore..... haha.
Damprye - Oh yeah I know the type. DP's family are actually like this..... my SIL has never even set foot in our house, and my BIL has been here a total of 3 times, 2 of which to drop off his daughter for me to babysit so he could have a 'kid free night'. PFFFFTTTTTT, bugger them all. We're definitely not going to be driving all over the place running after people who can't even make an effort to come to see us once in a while. I guess you're right though, it is for the best when you realise people are only in it for what they can get out of you. About your work issue, is it possible for you to land a job where you can sit to work? Just something simple like receptionist, there are so many places that need someone to answer the phone... from real estate agencies to hotels to well, you get my drift. Or there's always Aldi supermarkets, their cashiers get to sit :) Or you could be a bank teller! Or (you might not like this one) a telemarketer. You can sit in air conditioned comfort and all you have to do is try to sell something. I used to do this for the red cross, collecting money for charity. It actually wasn't too bad, just fairly boring. Anyway I hope all my random ideas helped! Oh and with the telemarketing thing, you usually get to choose your hours and it's mostly part-time. :)
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Forshelby-don't drop your bundle just yet LOL so to speak but i went 3 weeks early with my last son and the placenta hasnt moved far enough away from the cervix just yet it is only 5mm away it needs to be a fair bit more than that to be safe will we know for sure in 2 weeks with my next u/s so anything is possible i might even have Ella on her sisters birthday the 20th of march wouldnt that be a freaky twist of fate.
He he he i loved your rant on your suposed bestie.
Clairsmummy-sorry about your DF grandmother and great to hear all is well with bub how cute your DD asking for a little sister.
India'smum-fingers crossed for you.
Tegam-i have to share my shower time with my 2 cats they love to watch and when i get out they play in the water.
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Forshelby- That is the type of work I want and wouldn't the first time I have gone after a telemarketing job lol.
Ferrals- Bring on the next scan :D
AFM- Great news. I should be able to move me and bub into a unit in less than two weeks :D
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Hi everyone,
I'm ok. So sorry not to post last night. I was so stressed leading up to the scan yesterday arvo that i tired myself out and, last night after talking to two friends, fell asleep :redface:
So i had my 12 wk scan. All looks good. Baby was wriggling away- the u/s dr said "Can you talk to your child please and ask it to keep still!' (He was being jokey and kind). My Down's risk was really low so i don't need to worry about amnio or cvs (thank goodness). So, basically, as good a result as i could have hoped for.
So DH and i told our parents last night and are slowly telling friends. Although it would be nice to keep it secret a bit longer i already have a little bump and i prefer not to have to worry about hiding it any more. Now i can stop sucking in my tummy and struggling to find flowy tops to hide it!
No persies tonight. I worked today and i'm still feeling pretty tired. (I had a brief nap already with my head on the dining room table; unintentional, i'm so tired I fell asleep reading this thread. Not lack of interest just the hormones!)
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Time for a new thread ladies :)
