Pregnancy after Miscarriage or Loss ~ January 2011 #2

Sunshine - thinking of you..... sending you lots of love.

Alish - I know what you mean - I had a friend say to me... "we didn't tell anyone about the pregnancy until it was safe".... for me, there is no such thing as safe, until they in your arms healthy and wailing lustily, and even then a whole new set of worries start, but they are the worry that you get with having a bubs to take home. I guess really until you've experienced both the absolute heartache of loss and the anxiety of pregnancy after loss, you don't really understand. Maybe that's a good thing.

Hey Freya - good to see you here! Congratulations on that BFP... guess what? you're pregnant... Yay......

Welcome Cheshire - congrats on that BFP and I am so sad that a m/c brings you here. It's ok to be nervous, actually I reckon it's pretty unusual if you weren't nervous.

Forshelby- still at the top of the list!

Ferrals - hugs

Mildez - extra cuddles

Can't stay got to run - seems one sleep cycle is it for Hannah this morning.... wish it was longer..

New people.. Yay!! Sorry that ur in this thread in the first place but at the same time its great that u have joined us, IYKWIM

Welcome Freya- I hope the next 3 weeks goes quickly for u. Have u got some good symptoms happening? (i never got ANY tho so that means nothing!) Wishing u the best of luck x

Hi and welcome Cheshire- Sorry to hear about ur m/c in Nov. Dont worry about the hpts, a positive is a positive! I was freaking out about the exact same thing and so many ppl told me to ignore the tests, if there is a line theres a line which makes u pregnant! :) Did u get 2 lots of blood tests a couple days apart to see if levels are going up or just the one to see where ur levels are at at this stage? Good luck x

H is here with me now and quiet.....well not crying and sends a big hello...

Reet - oh sweetie - It' so good to hear you happy and positive and enjoying this incredible journey ( I had a lot of discomforts and still loved it, when I wasn't scared witless). And little YoGI -how cute is that? It's ok to still cry for Nala - that's just how grief works - totally unpredictable! Give you little puppy some pats for me.

Possum Magic- the MRI -it's this arvo! Thanks for remembering and asking. Will let you know how I go, but no results for at least a couple of weeks after today. I do know how you feel about being scared your pregnancy and bub will be taken away from you... it's such a hard feeling to overcome. I hope you do and can start to at least enjoy some of the journey ahead....hope the next couple of weeks are manageable.

KMM - 23 weeks is pretty special... congrats.

Ferrals - it is such a relief huh? To know that you've reached a stage that if bubs comes early, that bubs has a pretty good chance.

Clairesmummy - thinking of you today.

hey freya & cheshire! all the best for a happy & healthy pregnancy, dont stress :)

dory - yep i agree ! im finding it so hard not to tell anyone im pregnant though, im sooooo happy :D
after my ectopic (and when i was jus preg with next angel baby) i had a friend say to me "oh i wish i had trouble conceiving, i just have to look at him and im pregnant" and i just looked at her and said youre a f**king d**khead, as if youd ever wish that!! some people have no idea!

reet - oh so hanging for the 11th! hurrrrry up!!!!!

hope everyone is having a great day!
its stinkin hot here, i want to finish work already lol

Thanks for the welcome Ladies :)

Reet just the one lot for now & i see him Weds morning so he might give me another slip for more then.

Alish - OMG - that is such a ridiculous thing to say..... glad you put her straight. Congratulations on making 8 weeks and 2 days - it's so exciting!

I was talking to my friend last week, she has been TTC for 5 years has had 2 m/c ( 8 wks and 14 wks) has had a few ivf cycles... and I am not sure if I said the right thing.. I said something like, "before what happened to me happened , I would have never been able to imagine that what is happening to you is happening, it's just so hard and to have more than one m/c and then to have trouble conceiving.... it's just so devastating, and you would have been the only person I am really close to, who's had this happen". ( although I do some other women, just not very close with them). I just hope I didn't upset her... I was trying to say that what she's going through is really tough, and I would never have imagined it could happen once let alone more than once. Think I might check in with her about it.


Do you mind if I ask you about your ectopic pregnancy? What were your symptoms?

Chershire - GL with those bloods on Wednesday - only 2 days! Much easier to be in the TWW huh?

Freya - welcome, hun. Here's hoping for a sticky one!

Chesire - Welcome! As a wise woman once said to me, a line is a line. It doesn't matter how dark etc, as long as its there. :hug:

Everyone else - hi!! And yes woohoo for being the pregnantest :)

AFM - Just got back from the hospital. My GP was concerned about bubby as the HR was decelerating at my checkup this morning. He said not to worry but to go straight to the hospital for a CTG. I called my DP to let him know what was happening and totally freaked him out with my hysterical crying :( I was ok till I heard the worry in his voice when I said the word monitoring and hospital. Anyway, results were just fine and the nurse couldn't give me a reason for the earlier decels. I feel relieved to a certain extent, but also a bit edgy. Time for a nap, I'm exhausted from worrying. Sorry for the me-ness.

Sunshine - Thinking of you hun, I hope all is ok.

Dory - I think your comment to your friend was absolutely fine. Your words always come out so elegantly, and I bet she feels much the same, happy to have someone close to her who REALLY understands.

None of my friends have had trouble with their pregnancies, I've had 3 m/c now & 2 of those were before we conceived dd2 & i spent the whole pregnancy thinking something would go wrong. My friends never understood it & sometimes were insensitive about it.
Dory i think your friend is lucky to have you & i hope she understood you were trying to comfort her :)

Alish someone people really need to think before they open their mouth.

2 days is a lot better, I keep telling myself my levels wont be high as i'm just over 4wks but i'm still kinda dreading it.

Thanks Forshelby, that is exactly what the Dr told me & he pointed they had got darker since last week. I not going to test anymore i'm doing my head with the hpts.
So glad everything is ok with you Bub :)

Forshelby - glad the CTG was ok but sorry you had such a worry! Almost 34 weeks girl... you must be the size of uhmm well a very pregnant mumma, carrying a very sweet and precious little honeydew. Woot Woot. Enjoy your rest. Seems I am addicted to BB today.... for the first time ever I had little H on my lap whilst I typed earlier. Very slack on my part.... oh and thanks for the compli - you have a pretty good way with words too.

I fight the urge daily to run out and buy every hpt I can find to pee on it and examine the line's. FWIW Chesire, the darkness or lightness of the line colour has no bearing on a successful pregnancy or not; some hpt's just dont have as much dye in them as others. Doesnt stop us from going crazy though ;)
Ive opted not to get bhcg's done this time round but now Im starting to panic about NOT doing it lol Obviously AF is late and Ive had four + hpt's so its favourable that I am actually pregnant but something about those numbers means a little bit of security. But last miscarriage I had, my numbers were perfect up until the end, after weeks of ultrasounds that never showed progress past 6wks but I got to 10wks from LMP before my #'s finally reflected that. Its was pure torture and false hope. I figure if its happening its happening, the ultrasound outcome in 3 weeks time will be what it will be regardless of #'s. I still feel anxious though.

Freya thank-you & no it doesn't. i've spent way too much on hpts this last week & honestly it hasn't stopped me being anxious at all.
will you be 10wks or 7wks when you have your first scan? Either way i hope you get to see a nice strong heartbeat :)

I think we may have been in the same belly/babies buddies thread in 08/09?

I'll be in my 8th week (so 7wks gestation). Id like to wait til the 12wk scan but I think that would nearly kill me with worry. Im about 4w-something now.

I think we may have been! Ds3 was born on March 31st. Can you believe its nearly their 2nd birthdays already??

Dory - Oh yes, I am definitely looking robust these days lol. The nurse at the hospital laughed when she had trouble pulling my shirt up over my belly becaause it was stretched so tight. :) I hope Hannah Bear enjoyed her first computer co-piloting session, what better site to be on than BB?!

Please be safe everyone in QLD. There is a cat4 cyclone headed your way :(

I think someone has a big grudge against qld at the moment. Thinking of everyone in north qld its looks very scary for later in the week :-(

dory - it started off with spotting and bloating (extreme bloating) and really bad pains, like finding it hard to sit up etc. then it was this wave of pain stabbing in my right side to the point where id nearly pass out - that would go on for about an hour or so.. then it started getting to the point where it was more often and i couldnt walk. and referred pain to my chest so i couldnt breathe in either, which was sh*t cuz all i did was cry which made the pain even worse!
i was pretty lucky cuz i was 8 weeks and i didnt lose my tube! but after they removed the pregnancy i kept bleeding and the pains came back, turns out the placenta kept growing so i had to have the methtoxtrate (cant spell it) injection to kill it.
ive seriously never been in pain like that ever.

whats going on in qld? i dont watch the news, hope they r ok though!!

Big cyclone named yasi sitting of the coast around townsville will cross the coast a cat 4 very scary. Will prob be the same or worse than cyclone larry which did all that damage a year or two ago. Anyone in here from north qld?

Yes i am! Am starting to absolutely freak! I normally find cyclones exciting but this one is just way too big. Apparently the biggest one in history that QLD has ever been threatened by. Very very scary. The eye is meant to go thru townsville which is just south of cairns (where i live) early thurs morning, if it does hit townsville we will definitely feel it pretty bad up here. I live in an old timber home too so im a bit worried about it. I might be getting the hell outta here come wednesday! Hopefully dh can come home from where hes away working, he better be able too!