Pregnancy after Miscarriage or Loss ~ September - October 2011

phebee - oral surgeon was a complete waste of time :( They flat out refused to operate while I'm pregnant "In case something happens" until August next year, after the baby is born. I'm so upset, I keep thinking about how all this codeine I'm taking is going to affect the baby - if it's liver doesn't receive some kind of damage from it then this baby will be born addicted to codeine, I don't know what to do anymore, I'd go private but we can't afford it and we can't borrow the money of anyone to go private either, we had to borrow money off my mum to put a deposit on a new car as our old one was torched by hooligans a month ago, we finally picked up our new car today but we now have nothing left from he insurance after paying back my mum what we borrowed.
I'm so drained, physically and mentally, I'm even considering just sucking it up and going through the agony of getting them pulled out in the chair instead of under GA (local anaesthetic when used in my jaw doesn't work very well with me, it numbs the surface but the areas where it's really needed still retain feeling).
I'll be back tomorrow night after my scan for more persies, I need to go and have another cry right now :(

Hi Everyone...

Dory - Congrats on your Winter bundle (I cant remember if I said it or not hehe) Im SO happy for you that you are here love xx

MelM and Milly5 - Welcome :) and congrats on your bubbas...

Dantri - He??? Is your bubba a confirmed 'he', or you just not wanting to call bubba by "ït"... And yeah, anxiousness still hanging around here but starting to enjoy pregnancy more the further I get. Hope your anxiousness dissipates soon...

HPL - Im so very sorry xxx go gently babe xx hugs here if you want to talk.

JennaJayen - Not good about your wisdom teeth playing up. Mine has cut through (it WAS impacted but has moved to the right position and dropped down, its supposed to come out, im not doing it during pg. I refuse.) Try an amber teething bracelet or necklace. They work WONDERS. Drug free alternative. Wont get rid of all the pain but pretty much dull it down a bit so you only have to take panadol at the maximum.

Angel - I hope your BSL's have sorted themselves out and hope bubba is still happily cooking away nice and safe in there...

WBM- you are sooooo close to your due date!!! C'mon bubba :) Mummy and Daddy want to meet you xxx Looking forward to seeing your BA soon :)

BecnXavi - Hope your resting up and hope bubs HR has stabilised...

AFM- 27w1d today. Feeling quite tired still. Looking at my 3D scan pics. I want to go for another one soon but I have to wait This last couple of days has been pretty stressful for me actually and I was finding it really hard to handle even the smallest thing.

Monday, I went to the OB's and seen my lady OB, who explains everything to me and generally reassures me with everything. BUT when I went in on Monday, she told me my BP was slowly rising and she wanted to keep an eye on it. She also wants to change the AD's I WAS (not taking anymore due to side effects) on... She is giving me till my next appt to decide what I'd like to do. Ultimately they will lower my BP, caused by excessive stress and worry and help make me sane too. So Im thinking about it. But I really didnt want to take anything unless I HAD to... anyway, Monday night I swelled like a massive balloon again. BP was still sitting at around 128/88... not low... not high for me either. No protein in my wee... (PHEW!) But felt really BLERGH. So I went to my Mum and Dads to stay the night, as I was also having probs breathing and stuff from panic attacks and hayfever. So Mum gave me a nice foot massage to try and reduce the swelling and relax me. It worked. I slept that night.

Tuesday morning... WELL, what a morning... The day before was also my Nans 7th year anniversary of her death. So, we decided to head up to the cemetery (and while we were there my grandad recently passed away in August, so we planned his plaque to hold his ashes.) Anyway, whilst on the way to the cemetery I log in to FB and a good friend posts, "Today is the day we say goodbye to Mearsy"... Mearsy being a good friend I grew up with in primary school and high school... HE DIED??? WTF??? So, freaking out I checked the cemetery board when we got there, and sure enough, Mearsy's funeral at 10AM. - Apparently he was the rider of the motorcycle which hit a car that was pulled over for a booze bus Died on impact. I felt sick (and still do) to my stomach... bubs went insanely quiet. I couldnt for the life of me go in to say my goodbyes....'Felt like the worst 'friend' ever.

And then today - Wednesday... Dads in hospital. He has a very bad abscess... Hes not alowed to eat until tomorrow and hes being pumped full of IV antibiotics and fluids. Ive never seen him in this much pain. He may have to have an op. Im so worried.

Anyways enough gas-bagging from me. Basically feeling pretty rundown and in need of sleep. So off to bed I go.

Night everyone xxx

I am so slack at the moment - I read all the lovely posts, but don't have time to do them justice!!

JJ - I'm thinking of you, that's horrible! My SIL had to have root canal surgery when she was about 8 weeks pregnant. She just did it anaesthetic free so that the pain would go away and she would be done with it. It was horrible pain for a day, but then it was over. It's worth thinking about - perhaps they could give you some nitrous? Hell, if they give it in labour and insist it doesn't cross the placenta, surely they can give it to you in the dentist! Better than lots of codiene! Good luck - try a second opinion.

blondtress - congrats on 12 weeks! Very exciting :) Have you done the big announcement now?

phee - so glad things are going well for you :) I'm glad your dietician is back, it's nice to have someone you really get along well with to work along side.

LnD - sounds like there is a lot going on for you at the moment. What horrible news about your friend! I hope there are no more surprises for you in the next few months and life becomes insanely boring. Keeping your stress levels down is really important chicky, take care of yourself as much as you can.

BecnXavi - I hope your little bundle is doing well and the heart block is under control - what is the next step?

AFM, nothing to report :) Wish my feet would fit in my shoes, wish my rings would fit on my fingers, but otherwise boring. Just waiting.

Lysndan: Sounds like you've had a rough week! I hope your dad is ok and you BP stays where it is. thinking of you

WBM: ah, the waiting game! Can't wait to hear!

Jenna: Sorry the can't fix your tooth. I can sympathise with the pain, I had a similar thing with DS and had to wait untill after he was born. The good news is his liver is fine, he suffered no ill effects. Hang in there :)

Phebee: I can totally imagine the giraffe thing becasue it's exactly how I look! A friend recommended getting a long set of tongs to pick things up off the floor...I might have to do that! Yay for your dietician being back. It makes such a big difference having people who know you around at this time.

Blondtress: Congrats on 12 weeks! Enjoy your NT scan!

Milly: You poor thing, vomiting all the time. They say it's a good thing though right?! Hang in there.

Angelfish: I can't imagine how tired you must be with such a little one at home. My DS just turned 5 and I get a break when he is at Kinder, but I'm still exhausted. Hoping your bubs can stay nice and warm in your belly for a bit longer.

Dory: So glad to see you here! We found out what we were having for planning purposes becasue I'm a control freak! We were fully expecting another boy, but DS wanted a sister, so it was exciting it was a girl! It's all about a healthy baby though, which we all know too well. Hope things continue to go swimmingly for you!

Hi to anyone I've missed!

AFM: We saw the paediatric cardiatric specialist and he seems optomistic that bubs is doing well. He said she has a 70% chance of needing a pace maker in the first year of her life, maybe at birth depending on how well she does when she is born. So we are booked in for CS at 37 weeks, because she simply wouldn't survive the stress of natural labour anyway. It's all a bit scary really, but our baby girl has proven to be a fighter right from the start! We go in for u/s twice a week to make sure she doesn't get any worse or they have to deliver early. They want to get her to at least 34-35 weeks so her lungs are mature enough (I've had steroids anyway, just in case) and she's a bit bigger in case they need to operate straight away.

The perinatal maternal medicine staff at Mercy are brilliant, given I wasn't even going there to deliver! My OB has been reassuring and supportive as much as he can, given he has never handled a fetal heart block pregnancy before! Yet another rare condition for me! 1 in 20,000...

But so far so good. 6 weeks till cs, hopefully!

Stay well everyone,
Bec

Ha ha no def not confirmed he or she yet but I can't stop calling it he and have a really strong feeling it's a boy. Probably will be proved wrong but I got sick of correcting myself when I called it a he so I'm just going with it now.

Lysndan- hope you're week starts to get better soon. Can't believe you'll be mummies in a few months. So exciting!



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Well we had a bit of scare today, woke up with a small bit of bleeding but was lucky to be able to get into doctor and specialist today, HCG sitting at 9000 as of Monday and little bean is measuring to size with a little heart flutter but too light to be able to hear it. Gyno has now put me on low dose asprin and have another scan in a weeks time :crossfingers::crossfingers::crossfingers:

HI everyone

Dantri - i keep saying 'he' as well. I think I do it because it is just easier. DP keeps saying 'My Son' ! ha ha. he doesnt care what we get though so I dont know why we both keep referring to it as a boy. Maybe its like boats are always referred to as females ????? ha ha ha:D

Lysn - what a horrible week!! sounds just hideous. I hope everyone is ok and you are trying to take care of yourself. No one would be upset if you removed yourself whenever you needed to de-stress for the babies sake. Hav eyou got some soothing musicv you can play in the car or at home to help ?? anything is worth a try.

Bec - my fingers are crossed for you and a safe delivery of your little one. She will be with you soon and that will make everything feel better!

Jenna - tooth pain is the WORST. Someo body told me once its worse than labour pains and you are suffering constantly with it !! so horrible. I had 4 wisdom teeth out at the same time years ago and they were all impacted. The 2 years leading up to having them removed was the worst time ever. I cant imagine the pain you are feeling. I have no suggestions for you I'm afraid just my sympathy.

Phebee - i dont really do anything here !! ha ha ha! I dont have a work visa so its not a good idea to risk being deported just to earn a few Lira. My partner is Turkish and thats why I am here. He works on boats and most of the summer I help out with that. No pay of course but at least we are together. If I dont go out with him, I would never see him all through the summer. Anyway, season is finished now so we are just chilling at home alot together. It was really hard when i the miscarried as he was out on the water at that time and I had to go through it all by myself. (lucky I had BB). It was really sad and scary but we got though it.

AFM - big sore breasts and thats about it. Not sleeping much as when i wake up to pee I find it really hard to get back to sleep. too many days starting at 3 or 4am for me for my liking !!
I have soooo much to sort out before we leave in 4 weeks!! Made an appointment for another scan/check up the day before we leave (fingers crossed its all ok) and then we head to DP's home town for a couple of days to say goodbye to family and friends (Iam not looking forward to the tears!!) then onto Cappadaoccia and Istanbul!! yay.

Just quickly from me

Bec - that is good news..... so glad your little girl is doing so well considering her heart..... did you react to the steroids? Glad you're happy with your care.

LynsDan - hugs sweetie, what a hard few days you've had. big squishy hugs.

CT - enjoy your travels! Sounds very exotic.

Dantri - congrats!

Oh well off to try and sleep.

LysnDan - thanks hun xxx I do wear a teething necklace and bracelet (they are childrens ones joined together lol as DD won't wear the necklace and she likes to eat bracelets and this one is too big for her, she's inherited my dainty wrists and ankles it seems lol), have been for 4 months now, if I don't wear it the pain is even worse. The phrmacist has given me panadeine extra to take instead of the mersyndol as I'm out of panadeine as well, I've only had to take 4 and 4 paracetamol today so looks like I'll have a "good" week pain-wise.

becnxavi - thank you for sharing hun, it's good to know that things can be ok even with all of this.

Hi everyone else, and thank you to those who were thinking of me - really means a lot xxx

afm - had my ultrasound today, I didn't get to see the screen but DH did, one sac and there was a heartbeat! Butterfly Baby is measuring 3 days behind at 6wks 2d, but I have a feeling that the sonographer may have measured from a slightly wrong angle (bad I know but I've been comparing the pic with the ultrasounds from DS and DD and the spots she measured from don't look right when compared to the spots on the other scans). I'm probably just getting worried over nothing but I'm going to ask my GP for another U/S referral when I see him tomorrow as I won't be seeing my OB for another 8 weeks (14wks is the first appointment down here since I have to go through shared care with the public system) so I can get another scan next week to make sure things are still progressing right.

Anyway, I'm off for the night xxx thinking of you all!

Hi Ladies,

Phebee - I am seeing a Dietician on Monday, I am worried about getting GD, my GP and Obs have both said it is almost a full blown conclusion as I have PCOS and insulin resistance anyway but I hate the thought of injecting myself so I am looking to get some helpful insight into food choices.

JennaJayen - I hope your tooth is a little better, must be miserable, poor thing! Also re u/s, I have had 4 already and I am only 12.5 weeks! I say it is better to have one than worry about it too much and stress yourself out, a quick check to make sure the heartbeat is still going is such a good feeling.

LysnDan - Sounds like you are having a rough trot, you are not an awful friend, you have a lot going on for yourself so don't be so hard on yourself, I hope your Dad is better, try to keep your chin up and not worry too much, as that is never good for you or the baby. xxoo

WannaBeMum - I got to make the big announcement yesterday - everyone knows now, even facebook!! It was such a great feeling and we got so many congratulations and so much great feedback and support. I announced it this way - My hubby is going to be a Daddy!...and I think it's mine! haha got so many laughs. Not long for you now, hope all is well :)

becnxavi - I hope all is still going well with you. Good louck with everything especially the pacemaker op, always horrible see such little ones having to go through that. xxoo

dantri - I keep feeling like mine is a boy too! Only time will tell.

CT - Good luck overseas!

AFM - I had my NT scan yesterday. Great results Downs only 1:8666 chance so back to around the lowest you can get and even lower odds for other chromosonal problems. My husband wussed out on coming in for the scan - he was so nervous after losing the last one, poor thing and now he is kicking himself that he missed out - I think he will be itching to go to the next morphology scan in about 6 to 8 weeks especially as the sonographer did a quick 4D shot, It was so awesome, bub would not stop kicking and punching around, so weird that I could see it but can't feel it yet! We got to tell evceryone that didn't already know yesterday - I loved all their comments and if you didn't read abovce I found such a funny way to tell everyone on facebook - My hubby is going to be a Daddy!...and I think it's mine. Everyone had a good laugh. I haven't been able to find the heart beat on my home doppler yet but it could be because I am overweight - harder to get thru the fat! lol I am now sooo excited, can't believe in about 6 months our world is going to change so much! Also, TMI but don't cook mince while eating a carrot while pregnant!! I had my first ever preggers vomit last Sunday, I'm blaming the heat as well, I don't know how I am going to cope this summer!! We will have a high electricity bill I can foresee! I hope everyone else is progressing nicely!

Just a quickie (for something different, sorry I'm so boring!).

blondtress, I have PCOS with insulin resistance and haven't had GD with either pregnancy - so keep your fingers crossed! Although nothing wrong with talking to a dietician, keeping weight gain down is a good thing too :) It's a pity your DH didn't come in with you, although he'll love the 20 week scan! Oh, I love your announcement! Very cute.

Nothing happening here yet :) I'll let you know when bubs is born, hopefully this week!

Well that is a bit of relief WBM re the GD, fingers are definitely crossed, I haven't put any weight on yet, have actually lost a kilo so hopefully I can keep some control over it :)

wannabeamum~ i cant believe how far along you are the time seems like it has flown by

Blondetress~ i had a hard time finding the hb on the home doppler. I have been lagging on keeping up on everyone so please forgive me but you have to go really low when you try to find the hb i hope that helps and try to have a full bladder

AFM i was in the hosptial friday night becouse of cramping i got told that i am doing to much and i need to realax and and drink more i told them its kinda of hard to do when you have no help and i have a super active 9 month old.

Well I'm feeling a little on tenterhooks at the moment I have had a little bit of bleeding since Thursday. Went to gyno on Thursday bub is measuring on target and there was a little heartbeat(too faint to hear yet) and my hcg was at an acceptable level. But still not feeling excited, have had another blood test yesterday so should be getting the results tomorrow afternoon. I have relatives telling me not to worry and to stop comparing to the past but it's a little hard not to, DH is doing his best but I think he feels a little helpless about it all so he did what he does best cooks;). Please stay sticky little one :crossfingers::crossfingers:

Hi
I had a complete m/c after a threatened m/c in July. I'm now 5w1d :-) (my third pregnancy - dd is 20mo)
I thought I was out for the month as I had an early "period" which obviously wasn't and some early spotting.
Have my first OB appt tomorrow.


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Hi Rach83 sending lots of sticky vibes your way :goodluck::goodluck:

Sending lots of sticky vibes to you Mel and Rach - may your stays here be long and boring! Best sort of pregnancy really, long and boring. In fact, you can have my sticky vibes now, I don't need them any more - get out baby!

Thinking of you all, it's so lovely that so many of you in here are in early pregnancy with such good signs. The group of girls that have been here (and moved on for many of them) through my pregnancy have been a wealth of support. It is so nice to know you're not the only one paranoid about every single number, movement, spot, scan, day, week, month... Love to all of you!

angel - my Ob told me I'd be better with foot swelling/back pain etc if I could have a holiday from my toddler - or stop lifting him - then he laughed. Lol. It was much more good natured than it sounds! He was understanding the plight of the second time Mum - he has 5 kids! It's hard to take it easy, but try to relax as much as possible when she's asleep!

Happy EDD WannaB :D

Thanks Cheshire! Hope it wont be long now :)

Good luck WBM !!! so excited for you :p

Rach and Mel - fingers crossed for you gals. I dont understand why people tell you not to worry. Yes, we should try and be calm and be positive but it would be impossible not to worry after just having gone through the trauma of a m/c.

Blondtress - love the announcement !! too funny. Congrats on the low odds for Downs.

Angel - i know you have heard it a htousand times but try and put your feet up a bit. or just stand still if you dont have time to make to the couch. ha ha. Hopefully things will calm down a little for you and you arent so fatigued so you can travel the rest of the pregnancy pain free.

AFM - starting freaking out that something has gone wrong, again. I seem to have lost some weight or changed shape or somehting and the breasts aren't so sore anymore (a big 2 weeks of breast tenderness) and they are only sore at night when I go to bed. Every day I am checking to see if they have started getting smaller (am driving DP crazy!). Yesterday, I even forgot I was pregnant !! completely forgot. That made me freak out more and took it as a sign. God help retrieve my sanity.

Went to see my OB and he warned me that being so early it will prob not show on the u/s - and it didnt. So I had another blood test to see what my hcg is doing. God I hope it's rising. I don't want to deal with My second loss in 4 months. He said if its not rising I'll need a curette. Just have to wait - friggin hate waiting!!!


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Went to see my OB and he warned me that being so early it will prob not show on the u/s - and it didnt. So I had another blood test to see what my hcg is doing. God I hope it's rising. I don't want to deal with My second loss in 4 months. He said if its not rising I'll need a curette. Just have to wait - friggin hate waiting!!!


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Rach83 - when did you do your blood test ?? Apologies if you have given this info previously in the thread, I get so overwhelmed by all the posts.....

When do you find out the results?

Thinking of you :crossfingers:

CT

Original bloods taken on 15th then had bloods taken today. They said if I don't hear anything within 4 days to call.


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