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Jessica - I really feel for you, I think you need to talk to him a bit more about this and make sure he really understands how this is making you feel. My DH was a bit scared about hurting Peanut and didn't want to do anything for quiet awhile, now he can't keep his hands off me and thinks I am the sexiest i have ever been, pitty I am totaly not interested :doh: Maybe he is just worried about doing somthing to hurt you or the baby, I hope you can have a good chat so you don't feel down about it :comfort:
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Hey Jess,
I am so sorry that your feeling like that hun, and having such a hard time with it.. I am not in any way condoning what your DP is doing - but maybe look at it from another angle. Is it possible that his lack of interest in sex ha nothing to with you at all. Maybe he is funny about DTD because of bubs?? I know that more than once my DP has commented that he feels wrong doing it because of the baby - scared he is going to poke it type thing (total irrational - i dont think there is a penis out there big enough to actually do that! :) ) Kind of like that part from Knocked up where he freaks out when they are having sex because the baby moves. Just another angle to look at it from - if thats what it is you should be able to talk him through it and get things on track.. Have you spoken about your lack of sex openly with him and told him what your feeling?? Good luck hun - let us know how you go xxxx
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See thats just it. If he honestly told me that the reason he doesn't want to have sex is because he doesn't want to hurt the baby I would be so much more understanding. It just hurts though because part of me thinks it is my body not baby. I think my pregnant body grosses him out... a lot. I am a very little person with a small frame and so my belly is very noticeable. I think what is also harder is the fact that my fiance and I didn't know each other very long before we got pregnant. So i think we didn't get to achieve that level of comfort some couples have with each other when they have been together for 2 plus years. I just get so depressed over this. We both planned this pregnancy but ever since it all we do is fight. I know some people say just wait until the baby is born, guys mature faster once they are officially daddies. Yet, I am a realist and I know you cant change people, so how can a baby change this. I just miss feeling sexy to him.....
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I have totally gone off sex.
Mine started when we started TTC - I think the pressure to concieve just took the enjoyment out of it..
Then I got pregnant, lost the baby at 9 weeks and had to have a D&C - Not the most romantic thing to go through!
6 weeks later I found out I was pregnant again... Can we say emotional rollarcoaster???
Since then I have suffered sever morning sickness, extreme tiredness, several instances of spotting and cramping where it was a concern we were losing another baby.
Regardless to say, sex has been the last thing on my mind!!!
However, DP finds all the changes to my body very sexy and his sex drive has gone up...
This is all rather depressing for me considering prior to TTC, my sex drive rivaled that of a 18yr old boy!!! :rolleyes:
