Maybe you can make a deal, that you both leave the situation when its getting to yelling point and return to a normal conversation in an hour or so. That way you can both clear your heads, and still get it sorted.
xoxoxo
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Maybe you can make a deal, that you both leave the situation when its getting to yelling point and return to a normal conversation in an hour or so. That way you can both clear your heads, and still get it sorted.
xoxoxo
i dont quite understand in one post it sounded like you were upset and thats why you drank and then in another you mention the drinking again to punish him (not the bubs) in a way. What you both had forgotten was that there's a lil precious person dependant on you both in the middle of this.(it wouldn't hurt to read some sort of relationship book or have a go and make up some rules for arguments for now to practice for when the bub is born) You both didnt choose the right actions, its done and its time to think of a way to handle it better next time. Figure what went wrong and work on how to not repeat it again.
I completely understand that its hard to focus when you are so highly pg emotional. My DH is the same in that if i walk away, he takes it badly (doesn't raise voice or get aggressive) but he takes it as if im running away from him and the problem (which of course, i am!! I hate being confronted! I'd rather be in another room with time to run it all thru my head, before i respond) i'm unable to think clearly when im busy being all upset. Its something im working on, cutting the emotional crap and thinking, responding and working on a solution.
DH also appreciates it when im pg that i remind him often of what mood i am in. lol.. that way DH knows why i go off the deep end at him for asking me whats for dinner.. or why i cry if he says something the girls have done.. i am a emotional basketcase when im pregnant!! :D it just gives him peace of mind that i'm not mad/upset at him for some other reason.
Sounds like your guy is into communication, which is awesome. You just need to find a way not to come across like you aren't attacking him and vice versa i think. Plus he needs to understand that breaking things is not a means to getting a point of view across, venting or otherwise. If he does get hot headed the best thing is to tell him that your willing to talk it out if he calms down and if he can't, that you guys have a time out and put the oven timer on for 10mins. When it goes off, meet up and see if you can talk it thru a bit better. hugs!!!!
No matter what you do during pregnancy you always wonder 'what if', it's not the most ideal things for the bub 2 be but a once of thing shouldn't be an issue but def see your GP if you think something is wrong.
I didn't even know i was pregnant with Ava until after a MASSIVE Australia Day weekend, i had definately wiped myself out that weekend and upon finding out about Ava i was so stressed i had done her some harm but she is here and she is perfect (in my opinion :p).
Try not to stress yourself out, take care of yourself and make sure no more binges, maybe a chat with DP about stress levels etc may be in order aswell.
GL with it all