I've been up and down- some months I would rather have worn steel wool undies than dtd, while others I was jumping DH as soon as he walked in the door. ;)
Now that I'm on the home stretch, I quite like the idea- it's just I have to time it so I'm not exhausted, he's not exhausted, he's not running 15km the next day (groan!) nobody's staying over... that said, we've managed it quite a few times. ;)
If only it weren't akin to a geometry exercise...
Sounds like he wants a reason or excuse for sex with you : ) Everyone is different, just because you're not PUKING anymore from the first trimester doesn't mean you're going to WANT sex in the second trimester! You're perfectly normal, I just hope he isn't putting undue stress or pressure on you!
I just read some of the replies to this thread and I have to say some of them sound concerning. Just because some of us are married or have partners, it doesn't mean we're obiliged or required to have sex with them.
Women don't HAVE to have sex if they don't want to. Sex is about two people, not about being a ... *ahem* let me find another word... lol.. cushion for the other partner to go at when they feel the urge. Every single one of you in here SHOULD NEVER FEEL GUILTY FOR NOT WANTING SEX, OR FEEL REQUIRED TO DO SO!
Why the hell would you want to lay there and have your partner go at it? What's in it for you? He shuts up and stops whining and yapping at your knees begging for it? Ah yes I can see the benefit in that, but at what cost to yourself? Won't that only put you off wanting sex even more?
You have the right to get angry. If it was someone else that you were dating that was putting you under this pressure, you'd dump them or scream at them wouldn't you? If it was unwanted attention from another man, it would be sex harassment and you'd most likely lodge a complaint. Just because the ring's on the finger doesn't give him any special priviledges. Perphas those men should be sat down and given a good talking to about how if they respected and loved you they wouldn't be harrassing you as such. They DO have two perfectly good hands and I'm sure they're capable of buying some KY if they need lube.
Hehe I also read and had other friends ask me if I was really horny during my 3rd trimester. I definately wasnt - I just couldnt be bothered for sex and didnt really feel interested in it anyway. I think the whole time I was pregnant, we only had sex like 3 times because I just wasnt intesreted at all. I could tell that my hubby was a bit frustrated, but he never pushed it or pestered me for sex.
Hahaha....have to agree with morgaine! that said....it's been like a yo-yo for me too. but we seem to have the same kind of sex drive so it's not really a concern for me. other times, it's either he's too tired from work or me just not up to it. either way - i'm happy with how things are at the mo. ;)
Third baby third trimester, DH was overseas and boy was I cranky. Oh well. At least I knew my hormones were working ....
Hi Jodie,
For me, first trimester i didn't want to be touched!! Mainly because i felt like spewing most of the time and my boobs felt like they were going to explode and i had to sleep in a sports bra. Now i'm in my 2nd trimester and feeling pretty good, sexier because of my bump, and DP and I are DTD everyday :rolleyes:
So i think we are doing it way more than when i wasn't pg!! We'll see how it goes in the 3rd trimester!
Hope that helps! :D
woohoo!! you go kiera!!! :P
Haha, thanks Mistyeiz!! :D