I want to get married NOW

I need your thoughts ladies - is it the PG hormones - or is this not such a crazy idea?? You be the judge...

DF and I are expecting bub number 2 - at the end of July (ish)...and were planning on getting married elopement style in Pt Douglas late next year / early the following year.

Lately I've been thinking, and last night I asked DF how he felt about getting married just in a very intimate ceremony - just us, our daughter, a celebrant and two witnesses - and then getting our vows renewed in QLD...doing the whole big white dress thing, limo, pictures etc thing.

DF was cool with the idea (as it'd be his second marriage) but he never previously mentioned it as he thought I wanted / deserved something a bit 'bigger' when we went to get married (which isn't the case mainly because there are 'issues' with his family - his parents are divorced and would kill each other if in the same space - not to mention their new partners- and it'd just be easier for us to go away and elope).

His only concern is that we should wait until after the bubba is born (in case he ends up coming early lol)....I was hoping to get married before bubba is born - but this way we can say both of our kids were at the wedding...

Am I / we crazy? Is this something we may regret in the future? If I'm not so crazy - when do you think - before /after bubba is born???

xxx

If it were me I would want to do it asap, but Im a do-it-now sort of person :lol:
youre not crazy!!

No you're not crazy. Dh and I were due to get married 9th January 2010 but after I got pregnant I wanted to get married asap. We got married the 2nd May 09 on the beach, I was 22 weeks pregnant, we only had family there, about 40 people, ds was pageboy and sooo cute. I don't regret it and I know I won't regret it in the future. It was prefect in a weird way, yes I was 20 minutes late for my own wedding, ds screamed all the way through the ceremony, ds got sick so we had to go home from our honeymoon 4 days early but I wouldn't have changed anything about it. Maybe it was the pregnancy hormones why I wanted to do it asap :think: but I am happy I did. Good luck deciding what to do.

If you want to get married now and your DF is also keen - go for it! There is no reason for you to wait if you are both ready. I don't think you are crazy.

If you get married before the baby is born, you also get to have your married name on the birth certificate (if you are changing your name). Added bonus I reckon ;)

I never thought of that....the married name on the birth certificate....

What would happen if we got married - and I re-ordered DD birth certificate - what name would appear on it then? My maiden name or married surname???

Is that what they talk about when they say legitimising children a couple had prior to their marriage??? (am i hijacking my own thread now lol!)

I think it stays the same as your name at the time of the birth. I am not entirely sure but as birth certificates are somewhat of a historical document, I don't think they change them even if circumstances change.

I only put that comment in my post as an icing on the cake, if you wanted to get married anyway. I hope you didn't find it offensive.

:dunno: Leesa I have been wondering the same thing. I hope they change it to married surname so its the same name on both kids certificates.

No - most definately no offence taken Townsvillegirl...I'm glad you bought the point up....I never thought of that!

I think we'll wait until after bub's is born - to keep it all the same for both kids....

And my deceased grandmothers birthday is on the 22 of Sept - so I'm thinking that date is special....

Thanks heaps girls (for not thinking i'm crazy!) :D

Good luck with your wedding plans. The 22nd of September is a very pretty sounding date (I think some dates some prettier than others . . . now who is the crazy one ;)). Sounds like you have a big few months a head of you.

Leesa - you can change DD's surname via Deed Poll (I think it is about $200) if that is your choice. Whatever surname you registered her with when she was born is what is currently on her birth certificate, not necessarily what your name was at the time if you had DF's name listed as her name. Contact the BD&M in your state of have a look on their website to find out what happens if you change your surname to the same as DF's if DD is DF's child.