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Hi there,
Was just wondering if anyone had any tips or ideas on how to stop my 19 month old daughter from hitting me?? She is driving me nuts!! Sometimes it hurts so much she makes me cry.. :( I've even gotten to the point where I don't want to leave the house at all as I know she will just carry on and end up belting me..
Anyways hopefully someone will be able to help me.. Thank you!!
I don't have any children but i remember when my brother was growing up he went through a stage of belting my mum, she would smack him back the same way he hit her.
They don't understand what theyre doing is hurting you so if you do it back they feel that it actually does hurt, so when she cries you can tell her that it does hurt when she acts out like that.
As much as hitting your child may upset you but she has to know that behaving like that is not on.
My nephew is going through that phase and my sister in law does nothing about it, i actually took him and my niece out for the day with my partner and we took them to a playground and my nephew attacked another kid made the little boy bleed and when we took him home and told my sister in law all she said was "good on ya you won your first fight" and gave him a lollypop! i was absolutely disgusted that she rewarded his bad behaviour.
I havent talked to her since that day.
My DS2 (20 months old) likes to whack me too atm. I hold his hand away from me, say a firm "No!" and if he does it again he sits in time-out for 1 minute. I then make him say sorry, we have a cuddle and by then he has forgotten all about it.
I think it must be a stage they go through at this age to gain attention. It will pass, just be consistent no matter what you choose to do about it.
Why does she hit you? Is it when you say no?
Personally I would just get up and leave. Tell her that you'll talk to her again when she has calmed down and walk away, or put her in the corner and walk away. Just check that there is nothing that she can hurt her with. When she has calmed down, go to her (or if she comes to you) ask her if she feels better, then give her loads of hugs and kisses and tell her that when she hits you it hurts and that if she is going to hit you, she is going to have to sit in the corner. Let her say sorry mommy, and drop the subject and do something fun with her.
I'm no expert, but sitting in the corner helps dd with her little episodes.
Goodluck
I think Nadine and Trish have given you some great advice.
Personally I wouldn't hit your DD back, in my opinion two wrongs don't make a right and you don't want her to think it's ok to hit if you hit her back.