Kinda Anxious

Now that my doctor has said I'm perfectly healthy, and my DF and I have decided we'll start TTC after our wedding in Feb, I'm starting to become really anxious about it.... I mean, I have Generalized Anxiety Disorder, so I'm anxious all the time, but this is much worse...

There just seems to be way too much to think about... the eating healthy, the vitamins.... To be honest I'm starting to get a little scared of the idea. Don't get me wrong, I'm looking forward to being a mum, and doing all this research early is probably a good thing (less likely to suffer anxiety attacks if I know what's going on), but having said that, I also have Social Phobia, so I don't have any friends (aside from my DF's friends, which happen to include 2 of my ex's), I don't get on AT ALL with my parents (haven't spoken to them since mother's day), I don't see many of my relatives, and although I love my DF's family to bits, they all live at least 6 hours away.

I don't have much of a support system and because I'm terrified of people, I have no idea where I can go for more information ABOUT the whole preg thing... my doctor is slightly useless lol.

Anyway, sorry for ranting, just needed to get it all off my chest... helps to relieve some of the anxiety :D.

--Jader

Hi Jader and welcome to BB!

the decision to have a baby is a really big one, so please dont feel silly for freaking out!

support is an important aspect of pregnancy and babyhood. so it is great that you have already identified that (i was in total denial that i needed to have support networks around...). although you may not have as many ppl in your life for support as you would feel ideal, it will still be doable. For example, with your DF maybe go through what you would like in terms of pregnancy care and support (and what he would like!). and try in a way to 'map out' these ideas: taking into consideration things that could possibly change/impede these ideas (ie moving house, changing jobs etc).

i too have an anxiety disorder and have found the support here on BB to be absolutely amazing. there is always someone online at the same time (even in the middle of the night!!) to offer advice/support and most importantly solidarity in the business of making and raising babies.

as far as eating and vitamins for TTC, as long as there are no known serious medical conditions you pretty much carry on as normal. start taking some folate supplements (these can be the basic folate only variety...like $3 a pack, or can be the more exxy variety of pregnancy supplements like elevit etc- which you would normally switch to when you find out you are pg). i mean, you could go the whole hog and already cut out all the yummy foods like sushi, soft cheeses etc, but in all honesty, until you get the BFP (positive test back) it is really not necessary. as an example, due to crazy cycles and the like i didnt find out i was pg until i was 6 weeks along...and it was over christmas/new years...so you can imagine LOL! and DD is (mummy bias warning!) just perfect and gorgeous!

i wish you all the best and just wanted to assure you that at the very least, you'll have great support on here, and no doubt from your DF...

you can do it babe!