DD started Kinder today ... Why do i feel a tad sad ??

:hello: Hello all,

Well, my DD started 3 year old Kinder today & as much as i felt so very excited for her as she loves to be around people of all ages and she is a chatty & active child, also she especially loves art & crafts & just simply learning i knew it would be something so brilliant for her. Even though she goes to playgroup and a music & dance class with those i am present but obviously with Kinder i am not. So it's the first of many times to come of DD not always being with me, IYKWIM !!

Whilst she was at Kinder & i at home i couldn't believe how deadly silent the house was & how much i missed her ... but in a good way knowing she would be more then likely having a fabulous time :D

I'm guessing i felt a tad sad as she is my one & only child and i know from here on she will learn more about being on her own (such as at Kinder) & i guess i like most Mother's love that nurturing feeling of their child ' needing ' them.

The baby years were a flash & the toddlers years i thought would never end, ended up going far too quickly for me. Now she is a little girl, but not just a little girl but one that can be ' OK ' without her Mummy. Oh, i so tread 4 year old Kinder being 3 days a week, and as far as primary school i think i will be a sobbing mess.

The first thing my DD said to me when i picked her up from Kinder today was " Mummy, did you miss me " with a big grin & kiss she gave me and i responded with " Yes, Mummy missed you BUT i knew you would be having a WONDERFUL time here today " :D

She had a MAGICAL DAY :confetti: ... and that makes up for any kind of sad feelings i may have within me !!

Why do i feel a tad sad do you all think ??

Do you think IT IS cause i feel she won't need me as much any more ... or is cause she is my one & only child i'm missing those baby & toddlers years cause i won't be able to experience it again. Maybe a mix of both. I think the reason i don't seem to be able to answer the question myself as these are feelings i have never felt before & does somewhat feel confusing :rolleyes:

Hoping some of you might be able to shed some light ;)

TIA for any kind replies :D

Ok, so after I've had a little cry becasue that was so beautiful.... Bless your gorgeous princess.
But there are other ways to look at it.

I think you've answered the way we all feel.

She 'needs' you as much as ever to show her that her exploring the world is great. She might be able to do stuff herself, but as she learns about emotions and experiences more, she relies on you for support for those discoveries.

Yep I know what you mean about those years being over before you blink, but there is so much excitement and wonder in the years to come, I can't wait for those too. And every new thing they learn and take on board is one more new thing to be proud of and get excited over.

That's just my probably naive take on it.
:hug: Mummy it was a big day for you too huh?

Kim ... you have made the end of a very special day feel that much more lovelier ... thank you so very much for such thoughtful & warm kind words :heartbeat:

you're very welcome babe.

Awww, I can tell you love your DD very much :D

It is very normal to feel a little sad though, I felt the same way when DS1 started 3 year old kinder. And then the first day I took him to 4 year old kinder this year I nearly teared up as I drove away! He was so happy to go and it made me feel a bit sad that he doesn't depend on me as much these days. But by the second day I was actually really happy and so proud of him.

You are obviously doing a fantastic job with your DD if she went off for her first day so happily and had a great time. You are teaching her to trust others and become independent, what a great gift :)

Soon you will start to relax and enjoy your little bit of time to yourself. Make sure you do something really relaxing ;)

Sending kids out into the world of Knder and school is so hard. I struggled with it too. :hug:

Oh L I'm so sorry I didn't see this thread yesterday when you were feeling sad :hug:.

C is your precious baby - just trust as she grows and blossoms into the big person she is going to be, that you will always hold a very special place for her - no matter how old she is or what she is doing.

My big baby girl (now 11 yo) got her ears pierced yesterday and I had a stab of exactly the same feeling you're talking about...she was so brave and I caught a glimpse of the self-assured young lady that she is developing into. It only seems a moment ago that she was going for her first day at Kindy too! :hug:

:hug: Lorelle, it's always bittersweet when your baby achieves milestones as they slowly become that little bit more independant and it feels like they maybe don't need you as much. However, they need you in different ways. I think it's harder for us than them to go through these stages - remember she will always be your little girl and she will always need her mummy no matter how big and independant she gets.

Thank you ALL from the bottom of my heart as i couldn't think of a nicer group of ladies to tell me so :heartbeat: ... I'm starting to feel better, i just think ' some ' of my emotions are the onset of my going through a heartbreaking transition at present in coming to terms of no more bubba's for us ... It weighs on my heart extremely heavy every hour of the day & in that happening i'm desperately hanging onto any ounce of the baby left if any in my little girl. I couldn't imagine it ' not ' being a natural reaction of a woman in my position. But i'm getting through it day by day & hope that my DD will one day when older understand i did MY best in TRYING to give her the gift of a sibling ... Not bad considering TODAY i turned exactly 43 & a half !!

Thank you again everyone ... and YES you all are right that i have to learn to look forward to the growing moments in my precious DD & learn to actually enjoy it & NOT dwell on what i will miss ;)

Hugs to you all xox

Lorelle
i totally understand DS will be starting friday week.. and im so excited but also very terrified for him even though he is easy going and very social... i just fear that they wont be enough to make some friends(these are my own issues not his)

lorelle, you've got me in tears!
i already feel like my 4 month old ds2 is growing up too quick as he's my last baby. i cry everytime i pack away a 000 blue wondersuit as i know i'll never be using them again.

your dd is very lucky to have such a lovely mum

Doudou (Ellisa) i will be thinking of you lots next Fri, i'm here if you need to chat ;)

Rainforest yes how hard is the 'packing' those 000's away ... 1st time i did i just broke down & cried ... and each size up feels 'almost' as hard, hoping it gets better with having to do as time goes by (for you too ;))

Oh, I know how you feel. The thought of DD going to kinder fills me with dread. I'm sure I will relish being able to get stuff done but the thought of one of her beautiful smiles going unreturned gets me every time.

I so get that Fiona, unreturned smile as it makes us wonder how it feels for them ... but Fiona you wait until you see the smile she will give you when you pick her up from Kinder ... My DD's smile was one of the biggest i have ever seen & IF there was an unreturned smile during her day at Kinder i sure reckon it made up for it when she saw me picking her up at the end of a brilliant day for her at Kinder ;) ... Just remember YOUR smile is more important to your DD then anyone at Kinder !!!

Sooo true - that makes me feel so much better, thank you!

(Your so welcome lovely lady ;) ... xox)