I'm sure this tpoic has been covered a million times before, but I couldn't figure out where to start looking...
Basically, I'm 30 weeks pregnant, and after seperating from the baby's father, we sold our house and I moved in with my parents. I thought this was going to be the best option for me and the baby, but I was very mistaken! My parents have gone a little crazy and controlling and now it feels like I'm carrying their child. Yesterday my Dad got annoyed when he found out that I will be taking the baby to his father's place so he can spend time with his father and grandparents (we have seperated, but things are quite good between us, and we are able to spend time together like this). Dad said something along the lines of 'I won't be taking him out every night'. Last I checked, the baby is mine and my XP's, we make the decisions, not them.
Anyway, I am starting to realise that my life living with my parents is going to spent asking for permission to do things with my own child, and that is quite simply not going to work, so I want to get my own place before the baby's born. Financially, I know what support I'm entitlement to, and that's not a problem, but I know when I tell my parents that I'm looking for my own place that I'll be told how hard parenting is and how I won't be able to cope on my own, etc, etc etc... (I'm constantly being made to feel like that I can't do this on my own and I need my mum to do it for me).
Basically, I want to know support I can access if things go wrong, so to speak.
I can't rely on my mum for breastfeeding support, anyway, because she's never done it (and basically always tells me that it's hard and I probably won't be able to do it, and always makes me feel like I've only decided the breastfeed because the baby's father prefers it, which isn't the case - I prefer it, too), but I know there's support through the hospital and the breastfeeding association to help with breastfeeding (but anything I may have missed would be greatly appreciated...)
Things I'm worried about is if I can't get the baby to settle, and things like that, is there a support group or something that I can contact? If I am 'armed' with this type of information, my parents will at elast see that I'm prepared and will give me a little less crap.
I know it's going to be hard, I'm not expecting it to be easy, but my parents (my mum especially) are trying to make me believe that I am completely incapable of doing this on my own, which I think is because they would prefer me to stay with them so they can have the baby whenever they want.
Another thing that really bothers me is that I want to do things my way, but 9 times out of 10 when I say something to my mum, it's rubbish (example: I said only want fitted sheets in the baby's bassinet because loose sheets can increase the risk of SIDS - I know they have to be really loose and stuff, but it still something that I don't want to have to worry about - Mum said 'Rubbish, we'll just use normal sheet's', but I have to do whatever she wants her way.
Anyway, that's my vent / plea for help! Any assistant would be very much appreciated!! Thanks!

