I want to get married again!
And I know I'm going to need a LOT of help convincing DH to go along with my nutty idea!!
Some background for you: DH and I had only been together for a month when DD1 was conceived. She was planned (we had been friends for a long time and knew we were right for each other but I was seeing someone, when I decided to bite the bullet and go with my heart we just jumped in head-first lol), and my relatively traditional upbringing (Catholic mother banging on about DTD before marriage and babies must be baptised in case they die of SIDS etc) bubbled up, so DH and I decided to get married while I was pregnant. We had been planning on getting married after DD1 arrived, but I started panicking about *needing* to be legally wed before she was born, so we decided to 'do the legal bit' then, and 'do the party bit' when I'd got my body back.
So, we tied the knot in a courthouse ceremony (DH was brought up with zero religion, and completely shut me down about getting married in the church I've had picked out since I was 14 lol), with just out parents and siblings attending.
It was a beautiful day, I had a blast and was stoked to be married to the man I love and father of my babies, but now I'm definitely feeling the urge to 'do the party bit' as we'd previously discussed.
The problem is, DH figures we're married now, why bother renewing our vows in a ceremony with friends and extended family present? It's just a big fat waste of money that we don't have, which is fair enough, but I *really* want to have a big day for all our friends to share in, where we can write our own vows (we didn't even really say any on our wedding day, just, 'I declare I'm not a bigamist and I'm entering into a legal contract with this ring right here' kind of stuff), I can have the big p.oofy dress and have an actual reception, kwim??
Granted, we will probably have to wait at least another 2 years because DH's credit rating doesn't clear until then (he got into some debt before we were together and he's paid all that off now but the black mark is still there for another couple of years), we will definitely need to get a loan to put on a wedding (just a small one though, maybe $10k), but I figure I should start nagging him now so that by the time we can get finance, I'll have worn him down hehehe. But a couple of years' time would suit me fine, that way the girls will be old enough to know what's going on and maybe even behave themselves rather than running amok or throwing tanties hehe :) I always thought having your kids as your flowergirls/pageboys was a bit tacky but now I love the idea and want my girls to see mummy and daddy reaffirm their commitment to each other and their love for one another, especially after all the hairy stuff we've been through over the past 3 years.
I'm thinking sunset ceremony, not a church as DH won't hear of it (he still hasn't let me get the kids baptised :(), pretty small number of guests, maybe a surprise gig where we send out invites to, say, an anniversary party (eg our 5th wedding anniversary) and then when they all get there, it's like 'HEEEEYYYY!! WE'RE GETTING MARRIED AND YOU'RE ALL HERE FOR IT!!' kind of thing?
Any suggestions as to how I can con DH into renewing our vows and 'dong it right' this time around? Help with budget-friendly ideas are of course much welcome, DH thinks in dollar signs so I think that might help him come around :)
