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OK so as per this thread
I have some more questions.
Yes it about Bridal Showers/Kitchen teas please explain :redface:
ok so I knew about hens night and I have that coming together but then I have been reading about Kitchen Teas and Bridal Showers HELP????!!!! Are they in addition to the hens party, are they necessary, are they the same thing? what is suppose to happen at them? who should go etc.......
Hope you get the drift.
Thanks in advance
I just had a hens night!!
My understanding of kitchen teas are that they are for people to see older relatives and family friends or for people who do not want a big druken fun hens night!!
I know someone who had a Tupperware kitchen tea so people ordered things for her or bought things for themselves and at the end the bride gets host benefits.
They can also have some games like wedding dress made of toilet paper etc.
I dislike bridal showers - you're already getting a wedding gift, now you want a bride one too? I don't like the whole concept. I know a friend who had one and I didn't attend. It's supposed to be old kitchen stuff given to the bride so she starts with a fully stocked kitchen.
My kitchen stuff is STILL my mum's old stuff that I went to Uni with! Well, aside from the NEW kitchen stuff I had on my wedding list. I am NOT giving away my only potato masher so someone else can have something I've used since a tot and love.
A tea party is a nice idea - I didn't have a "go out and get drunk" night but a nice meal out two weeks before the wedding. That was lovely. And no sleepover prior either. I wouldn't have liked that: I wanted an early day, knowing I was going to be "on" all the next day and I'd need to be rested.
I would have loved (and told Sis and Mum, who both pooh-poohed this) a day/weekend at a spa with facials and mud baths etc. Not very "hen party" by today's standards but I'd have loved it! DH did have the sleepover, but only cos it was a drunken night (I made sure the lads had water and toast when they got in and heard all about it) then paintballing the next day.
Maybe ask your sister what SHE wants to do and organise that?
hi again! i love giving wedding advice :)
well.. I didn't want a drunken hens party, so i asked my bridesmaids to plan something a little more low key. we had an afternoon 'high tea' for which both of them cooked for hours and hours before hand and there were all sorts of yummies, and then they organised a mobile day spa to come to our place and do everyone at the high tea's hands and feet... was lovely! i made the girls PROMIS not to bring any penis shaped objects :lol: they kept their promise thank goodness as my great grandmother in law ended up coming. she LOVED getting her naile done. 95 years old and had never had a mani!!
i think bridal showers are very very american. when i was planning my wedding, i'd go to these sites where girls were talking about the 12 wedding showers they had thrown for them... ie.. family threw one, then work mates, then parent's friends, then uni friends, then high school friends... sheesh! they get SSOOOOOO many presents it's not funny. i think in Australia we're a little more low key.
ask the bride what she wants. if she wants the drunken party, just do that, if she wants something more low key and classy, then just do that.
I think I need to stay off the american websites ;)
My sister is happy for me to plan it and she is definitely keen for a drunken night but as I was going to invite the grooms family I was thinking of having like a high tea in the afternoon followed by tea and ****tails and then out :lol: so a bit of a combined kitchen tea hens night
Then I was talking to her and she was vaguely talking about having seperate events. Might have to have another chat with her.
Thanks again and keep any suggestions coming
I had a hen party and a kitchen tea. the hen party was more for my young friends and the kitchen tea was for my nana etc!
The kitchen tea was no gifts but a donation to the breast cancer research and we all wore pink!
Its totally up to you, we had two cause some people would have been offened maybe by the hen party and wanted all my family to be apart of my celebration iykwim.
Good luck its so fun planning :) xx
I know what you mean boomba, we are planning a bender with a few norti things thrown in. I like the idea of having a kitchen tea with a donation to a cause and I love the idea of mani and or pedi, will have to have a chat with my sister I think.
i think if it were me id combine them... id have like a hens afternoonn tea lol