Having trouble balancing....

:redface:I know this is probably really silly but it's been bothering me....

I don't get a lot of adult contact ...in fact I can go an entire week without seeing any other adult other than DH...

This is partly because some of the ppl in my inner circle are just caving my head in and because we are sooooo short on cash at the moment I try and avoid driving if possible.

So I am using BB for a little adult "conversation" so to speak. The problem is I am on it ALL THE TIME... I can't regulate myself.

I feel like such a bad mother because if DS is happy I will let him play in his exersaucer in front of Nick Jnr until he cracks it ....:redface:

Don't get me wrong I do play with him and spend a lot of time having cuddles etc but I could be doing more.... and don't even get me started on the housework. :rolleyes:

How do you balance spending time here in BB with life.....I have tried banning myself until DH gets home but I just can't do it....

LOL I just did a week long ban (official BAN hehe), to be honest I'm embarrassed at how clean my house is now and how much I actually got done.

I am like you though this is pretty much my adult contact as I don't drive or get out much.

Maybe try a three day ban? I've found I log off more since the ban (well not today or yesterday because I have a cold and feel like crap and all i want to do is sit here lol [excuses excuses]), do other things, take Jazz outside, bake, clean (sometimes...)... I don't press "New Posts" as often as I did.

BTW, you're not a bad mum :hug: Honestly, there are days when I'm just that exhausted all i can do is sit here, or sit on the floor as Jazz climbs over me. I feel like a terrible mum, but when you put it into perspective, we don't exactly give ourselves breaks or time outs, we're on call 24/7... there are bound to be days (weeks LOL) where we are just really unproductive as we are just EXHAUSTED.

Anyway, thats my excuse(s) and I'm sticking to it!

dee- have you joined a mothers group or something so you can have more adult contact?

i can't talk cos i'm on here too much too....but i try to restrict it to when the boys are asleep or i'm breastfeeding ds2 and dh is with ds1.
i think if your ds is happy, there's no harm in it. i think i would go crazy being a sahm and not having bb as my outlet.

Thanks Lesaha :)

Rainy - I did join one but it was soooooo snipy and biatchy that I packed it in ...LOL
I have heaps of phone conversations but my closest friends live in Bendigo so it's hard to see them these days :(

Leasha- I didnt ban myself but a month or so ago my computer packed it in and it was about a month untill we had saved the money needed to get the new one and MY GOSH the amount of stuff I got done around the house without BB and FB! I now only pop on once the girls are in bed and only for a few minutes!

LaDeeDa - where do you live?? maybe there are some girls on here that are near you??

i think you might find things get a bit more interesting as ds gets a bit older and you can start doing more activities with him...i find things like play group and swimming etc. are good socially for you as well as bubs. when they're walking and only having one day sleep you tend to get out of the house a bit more and do more with them.

hi leedeeda - don't be embarrased nor feel like a bad mother! i doubt you are sitting on the puter while DS is screaming hungry in a dirty nappy - so i don't think you have to worry too much.

However, why not look at some time management techniques. I'm sure there's heaps of tips if you google. ie you can go online but only at certain times. Or only if you have done certain jobs/tasks first. Or if you can't do that, get dh to take the keyboard/laptop with him for work :) lol

What about structuring your day bit ie wake up, feed bub/change etc, breakkie, then go for a walk, home for bub sleep/play, lunch with puter, then bub will be up again and go from there. you might find that easier if you set yourself certain tasks/things to do each day and then your reward is a bit of BB/FB time.

not sure if any of that helps but good luck love.
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