Negative Comments - Venting
Friends of ours had a baby girl on Sunday, and after I congratulated the Dad we got to chatting about my bump and impending birth.
First question.."who's your obstetrician?"
my answer...(a little taken aback - who asks that?) "I don't have one" (Actually, for various reasons I have chosen to have a natural, midwife-led birth thankyou...:rolleyes:).
Next question.. "where are you having it?"
my answer..."The Family Birth Centre"
his response - "Ahhh, and then when the cord gets wrapped around its neck or its lungs aren't developed properly....what are you going to do then?"
my response (completely gob smacked :o) "uh, then I'll be taken next door" (the main part of the hospital is about 50 metres away - not to mention the fact that the midwives in the birth centre would cotton on if something wasn't right just as quickly as the midwives in the main part of the hospital - and it takes 20 mins to prep a theatre for c/section anyway).
Then he proceeds to jokingly waffle on, saying something like, "oh yeah - just go out in the backyard - she'll be right..."
WTF???!!!! Who said anything about a backyard!!! Does he even know what a birth centre is???? Does he even know what a midwife is????? That they are the people who specialise in normal birth and Obs specialise in complicated deliveries (ie c/sections)? And that all midwives (including homebirthing ones) are fully equipped with equipment to monitor the heartrate, and oxygen should the mother or baby need it??? Not to mention a trillion other things they do - like all the after-birth care of mother and baby, and breast-feeding support when the Ob is off playing golf???
And get this... his Ob didn't even rock up to their birth - they were told at 7 months that he was going to be away on holiday (playing golf presumably...:lol:). So they effectively paid this goof a few grand to not be there at her birth, where she gave birth naturally without an Ob, without drugs, or any intervention from the midwives of any kind?
How can he be so small-minded - especially after such an empowering birth..???
I stayed up all night thinking about things I'd wished I said, before I aknowledged that he had actually deeply offended and insulted me. As if I would willingly put my baby at risk? I'm trying to let it go, coz I know this anger is not healthy for me or baby, but I am just so shocked by it all. Surely it is common sense that the last thing you should be saying to a pregnant woman is negative, judgemental things? Luckily for him his wife wasn't standing with him - because no doubt she would have given him a serve.....
Ahh - I feel a bit better now.
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