Needing some opinions and advice!

I've read through quite a few threads here trying to get some answers for what has been happening to me, and there has been so much helpful stuff! Especially the 'bleeding in pregnancy' thread, that's very helpful. Though I thought it best to make a new thread, because I don't think my experience quite fits in there.

I'm feeling a bit alone right now, as I'm currently living alone in a new state (my partner is posted in a different state) and whilst I have really amazing friends, I'm really scared and kinda hoping someone here might be able to shed some light on my situation!

I think I'm pregnant, but all the tests have come back negative, and I have been a bit scared to do another one. But I've had lots of pregnancy symptoms, and I think that the tests may have all been done too early to show up. So here's what's been happening:

I was due for my last period on the 19th July (Sunday), and that morning I woke up with really bad nausea. I have a very strong stomach, so this was very unusual for me. I suspected even then! The nausea continued and on the Wed I saw a bit of blood on the tp, but it was pink. Saw a little more that night and thought that for sure AF was coming the following day. When I woke up, I panicked as there was nothing. Usually if I see blood the night before, when I wake up I'm really super heavy for the first 2 days. I did have bad cramps though. The flow was really really light (like a 4th day for me) and was completely finished by the Fri morn. That's when I did the first HPT which came back neg. Did another one the next morn, also neg. Later that day there was more spotting, and it was a little heavier that night (though still like a 4th day) but completely gone the next morn. I did another HPT on Mon, also neg. Saw a doc and he took blood, also neg.

Now at this stage, I probably should have just believed all the tests, but I did more reading and I'm fairly sure that the bleeding was implantation bleeding so it would have been too early for the tests to come back with anything. Whilst it's normal for me to be a couple days late, once I actually start, I'm always heavy for the first 2 days (with really bad cramps and nausea) and then light for 3. So I knew this wasn't right. Plus I had other symptoms like nausea, really really tired and my breasts, whilst not sore, are definitely noticeably bigger. I've also noticed that my abdomen is bigger, and that's a place I usually don't put on weight. I did another HPT that next fri (so a week after the bleeding) and it was neg too.

So I decided to wait and see what my next period did, and if it was normal and whatnot. Well I was due this coming Thurs (20th Aug), and last night when I went to the loo there was pink/light red mucousy blood on the tp. I kinda freaked since that would make me 5 days early! I had a bit of uncomfortable dull pain, but nothing like the horrible cramps I usually get. There was a little bit of blood last night but only spotting on the pad. But this morning when I went to the loo, blood started pouring out. It wasn't what I would call a huge amount, but it was a constant light stream for about a minute. And I've not really had much pain at all, just an occasional dull ache, but nothing like the super cramps I usually get. So far today I've been to the loo about 4 times, and each time there's a stream of really dark red blood. Though there's only spots on my pad, so it's only when I go to the bathroom. The last time I went I noticed there were a couple of really small clots (not even half a fingernail sized) and a small something that looked like tissue (again, very small).

I'm really starting to freak out that I might be M/C. Though there hasn't been a huge amount of blood (it doesn't even seem like as much as I would have on my really heavy first day, though it's all been going into the loo and not on my pad, so I could be wrong) and I'm not in pain, so I'm hoping that's a good sign! I guess the hardest part is that I don't even have any positive tests to say that I am preggers (I would say I'm about 3 or 4 weeks if that first bleeding last month was implantation), but all I know is that I've now had two bouts of bleeding that are NOT my usual AF!

I have a Dr appointment on Wed with a new doc recommended by my friend as that other doc treated me like I was some hypochondriac and told me that everything was normal and that I should be happy it was neg since it wasn't planned. But I'm really scared about what is happening! My friend told me to let her know if the bleeding gets worse (or there's more clots) and she'll take me to the hospital. But so far it's not any worse than this morning.

Sorry for my really long post, but this is the first time anything like this has ever happened (after 10 years of very regular periods) and I'm really quite terrified!

Hi,
I just wanted to give you a big :grouphug:
I'm not a dr and far from an expert but I always thaught that u can get a reliable result from a pregnancy test from the day your period was due. From what I make out you tested on the day you were due then 5 days later. If you were pregnant you should have had a positive the fist time but then to test 5 days later and it still be negative.... I'd think that you probbably wern't pregnant. Are you on a different contraceptive or maybe have stopped taking one recently? Have you lost weight or gained some? Maybe you have been under alot of stress? All of those things could cause you to skip a period. or you could have an infection in the uterus??? There are lots of possibilities! I'd reccomend that u see your Dr. If the bleeding gets really heavy go to a 24hr dr or emergency at your local hospital. Anyway BIG HUGS and I hope u feel better soon!
Jules

hi big :grouphug:

i know what it feels like to have your body behaving in a very strange way.
going back to the doc is a very good idea,unusual bleeding needs to be evaluated. ask for some blood tests ie quantitative BHCG and a hormone profile.
quant BHCG(this is important not just a BHCG) will give you a number (not a pos or neg). if the answer is anything but 0 than you are / were pregnant.
so for example if the number is say 25, if another quant BHCG is done 2 days later and the number increases (hopefully doubles) things are looking good for a pregnancy. if the number decreases than it means you are having a miscarriage sorry :(

The hormone profile will give you answers as to just where you are in your cycle(on that day). ie pre/post ovulation so you can work out just when your next AF is due. once you get these results (tell the gp you want a copy) if you want help interpritating them just post again and me or one of the other lovelys on BB will help i'm sure :D

what you are going through is very similar to what i went through at the beginning of the year.
my AF was due on the 11 jan ( i had been tracking my ovulation trying for #3 for 18 months, i always ovulated on the 11/12 day of my cycle ) i had decided not to track over xmas and just assumed i ovulated on the 27 dec (wrong).
no AF on the 11 jan(very excited did test next day BFN:()
bleeding on 13 jan (normal day 1 for me, quite heavy :cry:
bleeding slows than stops on the 14th jan :confused:
17 jan come out of bedroom busting out of a sundress DH says " are you pregers your boobs are huge !!" i say i can't be i had my AF 4 days ago"
25 jan i have vague symptoms (other than the big boobs, but nothing major), do another test ( middle of the day, not first wee of the day) BFN
3 Feb after dropping DS at first day of school i decided that either i am totally psycho or am pregnant BFP :hooray:.
i had a dating scan at 12 weeks from my LMP but was only 9 weeks + 5 days. so they think my bleed was at ovulation, i think otherwise i think it was implantation. my EDD is the 10 oct (i think 3 oct).
so yes our bodies do some strange things, we don't always ovulate on a schedule.
goodluck finding some answers :pray: it's what you want.

Jules I thought the same thing, until I did some reading. I've read stories of people who take up to 4 weeks for it to show on a HPT. It took 5 months for the Doc's to agree that my friend was pregnant; after multiple BFN from both HPT and BT she demanded an US and they discovered she was 5 months along.

I've not been on the pill for... 2 years now I think. It really messed around with my moods so I stopped taking it. And I was only on it for about 6 months. I had the usual stresses (tafe work and missing my partner horribly), and I haven't really changed my eating either. I haven't had any huge fluctuations in weight either.

I would have quite happily accepted I wasn't, except that the Doc never gave me any other reason for my really strange bleeding, except to say that in his opinion there was no such thing as a regular period and it's quite normal to skip a period here and there. Considering that for the last 10 years I've had a very regular period (it's normal for me to be up to 5 days late, or rarely I'm early, but once AF starts, it's always the same: Bad cramps and nausea for the first day, really heavy flow for the first 2 and then tapering off for the next 3 days) and that's through the stresses of high school exams, depression, eating issues, stresses of uni, lots and lots of sickness and moving two states in two years.... This is something I've never experienced, which is why I am so worried about it. The Doc that I saw made me feel like I was stupid for questioning his assessment of my health and just really made me feel like I was wasting his time. He didn't ask about any other symptoms I had (which I have experienced) and he seemed embarrassed when I tried to explain the details of my funky bleeding. Not a very good doc!

But thank you, I've been monitoring the bleeding all day, and I don't think it's gotten worse. But it's still really disconcerting to have blood flowing out everytime I go to the loo (there's only slight spots on my pad). There's been a few more clots, but still nothing bigger than a grain of rice. But even so, I ended up changing to appointment with the Doc to tomorrow because I really need to know what's going on!

Thank you Teddy! It really is a scary thing to have your body do something weird! I've had to deal with a lot of different medical issues through my life, but this is definitely the scariest! It's kinda frustrating to have my friends telling me that I should just believe the tests and that it's just some freaky period, when I know that something isn't right. I was trying to explain to my partner how terrifying today's bleeding has been, because even though I have bled every month for the last 10 years, this is completely different!

Seriously, you have no idea how good it is to hear someone else's story! I've been too scared to do any more HPT because I just have this feeling I'm pregnant, and I was scared about getting back more BFN! And even if I turn out to not have been Pregnant in the first place, I do know that something is wrong.

Though I did go back and track my AF for this year and discovered something strange. Until the AF before my funky bleeding, I was pretty much bang on 27-28 days. Then the one before my funky bleeding (so the AF in June) was 32 days. I thought that was weird (it was also inconvienient since the lateness meant that it started the day before my partner arrived for a 10 days visit.... typical! I also go AF THE DAY of his March Out parade, which was the first day I'd seen him in 3 months! AF seriously bad timing!) but I don't know if it has any significance.

But thank you both for your responses! I am feeling a little calmer now than I was earlier (I had a really good cry!) and I know that what is meant to be will be. I'm really trying not to panic, as I am hopeful it may just be breakthrough bleeding, and not a m/c. I'm terrified of doctors, but I know it's the lesser of two evils right now! I'll let you all know how tomorrow goes!