Is it just me or do you get suspicious too??

I've had 3 phone calls in the last few days from people wanting to speak with DH regarding "a private business matter". I know these type of phone calls and they are usally from someone who you owe money too. It makes me suspicious of what he owes and to who...especially when i've had that many phone calls.
I asked him what it could be regarding and his reponse is just...ah probably someone abotu a bill i haven't paid. Well why haven't you paid it????? Just forgot is always the reason i get.

why do things have to be so hard?

I get more peeved when they ring for DH in work hours just to see if he wants a cc or credit with some firm...or to do stupid questionaires.....
I ask them what its in relation to and if I can help.....maybe you need to be straight with them and ask if he owes them money and what company they are ringing on the behalf for. Tell them you cant help them if you dont know.
HOw dame frustrating

Sorry to say this, but I wouldn't tolerate my DH withholding this sort of information. Giving a vague answer (repeatedly) is like a red flag for me that something is amiss.

I would be insisting on seeing a) the offending bills/evidence of debt and b) evidence of what he is doing to pay them and WHEN.

It's less about the bills and more about the honesty between two people who hopefully want a long and lasting relationship with each other. If he's in financial trouble, then it's something you can possibly help, by sitting down and making a plan/budget to fix it.

I have to say I'm with Marydean on this one. Yes, I would be very suspicious. But I wouldn't tolerate that sort of vagueness about anything in a relationship anyway.

If it is about owing money or paying bills, then get all the details out in the open and work out a plan to pay things before it gets out of control.

Good luck.

I'd give your DH the benefit of the doubt - every time we've had these stupid vague 'personal business matter' phone calls it's been some annoying telemarketer type firm that wants to try to talk us into share-trading or futures-trading or something like that - people are usually more upfront if they're after you for unpaid bills, IME anyway.

So, these phone calls were from the dr surgery regarding OUR daughters vaccinations. One of the ones she had was a bad batch and they were ringing to say she has to have it again. She wouldn't tell me because I wasn't the one who took her for that particular vaccination.
WHY could she not tell me this??? Ummmm hello I AM her mother afterall!!

At least it didn't turn out to be your first (and worst?) case scenario! And yeah, surely they could have checked your birthdate or something aginst the info listed in your daughter's file? A bit odd.