Why? Just venting!

Hi all!

So why does everyone think that the day you pass your due date, is the first day of being uncomfortable?
And why do people think you want the bub out more after your due date too?
And why do people think that if you do not check in with them each day after your due date, then that must mean that you've had your bub and have been rude enough not to tell them?
And why do people find the need to tell you all the old wives tales after your due date, thinking that that will help only once you have passed your due date?
And why do people think that just because you are past your due date, DTD must be the last thing on your mind at the moment, or the last last thing you feel like doing?
Ohh and my favourite; why do people who havent had kids yet feel the need to give you advice on how to hurry things up?

Sorry but being amost 41 weeks, I am over other people more than I am over this pregnancy, and yet no one seems to understand this!!

Justine

I'm with you on all of it!!!! I've got some people ringing up to 3 times a day to see if the twinges have gotten any worse. Thinking about just taking the phone of the hook!!!! I'm feeling so anti social. Don't want to talk about how I'm over my due date at all!

We're nearly there though, can't be long to go and then they won't be able to bug you constantly about when the baby's coming (only about when they can come see it - oh the joys!!)

Oh we cope a lot of stupidity from ppl while we are preg dont we??
i am only just over the rudeness of ppl asking "was it planned" wtf yes but if it wasn't thnaks for bring this to everyones attention.
PPL are just always experts and always need to say their piece.. i have replies to these things that make the other person feel awkward and im not even there yet!!! oh i love the "oh you so big now how much longer can u keep working"

Yes, yes, yes ! I had my DD at 41 weeks and I swear if I got one more txt msg or phone call I would have thrown my phone out the window !!!

My advice would be...... just joking !

:lol:

I can totally sympathise ..... :hug:

I had someone on facebook that I knew through another online forum - She wasn't even overdue when people started on her about whether she'd had the baby! She'd go offline for an hour or two, and pretty much every second forum post on the forum was "Has [name] had [baby's nickname] yet?" Almost all her facebook statuses were "I was just in the shower/gone for a walk/sleeping, baby's not here yet!"

Wow, I really can't wait for that to happen to me [/sarcasm]

you poor thing hun, i still have 8 weeks to go and i am already getting oh wow your so big, you must be so uncomfortable, are you sick of being pregnant yet, you will def come early................. Oh my god get over it. I am loving being pregnant and bubs will come when he is ready. I say take the phone off the hook mate. Take care xx

Hehe

What are you going to do with your life after school?
Have you got a boyfriend yet and if not why?
If you have then when are you getting engaged?
Now youre engaged, when's the wedding?
When are you going to get pregnant?
Arent you pregnant yet?
Why didnt you inform me immediately once pregnant?
Now your'e pregnant are you planning to have the next one so they can be close together? (wtf?)
Do you know/ Are you happy with the sex of the baby?Whats its name going to be?
Have you had the baby yet?
Why havent you had the baby?????

Blah blah :rolleyes: I have so many ppl who dont even stay in contact with me absolutely demand they be on "the list"..As if I even want them coming over to gawk at my kid and pretend to sympathise (unless they bring cake and make me a coffee lol)

It would be so nice for someone to ask what they could do to help rather than feel they need to question and comment on our lives all the time but I suppose thats how they show they care...Hang in there, maybe play some tricks on people, call them all excited and tell them theres nothing going on but you just thought you should let them know lol...

Take care ;)

I had this with DD, drove me crazy too. next time im going to tell people a false due date so they dont start asking 2 weeks early! lol hugs

Haha oh, I feel for you hun. I went 7 days over with #2 and if I toddled off to the shops for half an hour or (gasp) did some housework instead of sitting on Facebook, my profile went off its head with everybody speculating over whether my absence was due to me squeezing a baby out... now I know why nobody except my parents and DH have my mobile phone number! (for some reason my friends seem scared of calling landlines hahaha, nobody ever rings me.)

LOL @ nattyfred, that bit about people you barely know/keep in touch with demanding to be on 'the list' is SO true... when I was pg with #1, DH's friend's missus was insisting that she would be in the labour ward with me, watching me give birth - because 'I've done it but I didn't see it, I want to see what it all looks like from that end'. I'd only met her two or three times and sure as heck wouldn't call her a bosom buddy or anything :/ I reminded her that she has the internet and can easily watch birth vids on YouTube...
And everyone got mad at me when I had #2 and announced it on Facebook myself - 'What, you're home from hospital and you didn't tell me you had the baby, I wanted to come visit you' blah blah blah. Bear in mind I'd had the baby at 7:30 that morning and bailed out of hospital because I can't stand them... I wasn't going to stay there for 3 days just to prove to the midwives how many visitors I could rack up in the hours post-birth!

All so true!!! Dh's best man at our wedding and his partner have bothered to see us about 4 times through the whole pregnancy (not for lack of me trying I might add - even offered to cook tea on Friday night at 39 wks +6 for them and his partners new BFF and husband but they had a better offer) and they're demanding to know next in line to our parents........ hmmmmmmm!!!

I'm thinking I might just turn into a hermit in hospital and make them all wait, but I know I'll be too excited to make my thoughts of revenge actually happen!

I hear you.

I've spent the entire pregnancy with people asking "Where's the father? Who's the father? What does your ex think? Your family? blah blah" - basically asking everything except for the most obvious "How are YOU, and is there anything I can do to help".

Not to mention the tonnes of people who said they would "be there for me" and "catch up" and then disappeared during the tough back issues I've had during pregnancy, only now to be waiting and waiting to meet the baby. Again..what about "How are YOU".

I've swapped mobiles so I have an unfamiliar number ready to take to hospital - only two or three people have the number and have been told they can visit without asking. Each of those people has been put in charge of a group of mutual friends who they are going to pass the birth announcement onto along with instruction that they must ring before visiting. So I guess I've kinda put bodyguards in the way.

Another thing to do is a message on your voicemail saying when you are ready for visitors, or before bub is due leaving a daily status update for everyone and then just not answering calls!

I will just lose the plot to think that I've got this far along, so much alone, only to have everyone turning up at the hospital wanting a look at the kid and ignoring me.

Vent over ;-)

Sounds like everyone's in the same boat. I had my husbands grandparents just drop in today. Too bad if I was in labour....... What do i do then!! Lucky it was only twinges I could smile through. And Mum's ringing me with suggestions to get the baby moving..... And I have to admit she just copped it when she rang to see if I'd heard of rasberry leaf extract (no just been pregnant for 40 weeks and never heard of it). Yesterday's suggestion was to go to bed and get 'cosy' with my husband. Really not the sort of suggestion you want from your mother!!!!

We have been a bit sneaky and deliberately told people the wrong due date... For the exact reason of this post!

Thank you all so much for your posts!
It makes me feel a little more normal and well less alone!
With DD we were vague with our dates and she ended up coming early, with this one though we were still a little vague but with october now being over, everyone knows that Im overdue!
Oh well!

I wish I'd told a couple of people a later due date - I'm really sick of being told by MIL to ring as soon as I go into labour. Why? She won't be allowed in until after the birth and when I'm well and truly ready to have visitors!!

OOOOhhhh I have to say i have been guilty.... and i have been on the recieving end :doh: The first preganancy was worst for me, but after that I have taken it in my stride. Think of it like this??? most people are well meaning and excited (there will always be the sticky nose who you have'nt seen for ages and someone who just wants a LOOK!!!).. its always easier to be more excited about someone elses birth than your own :lol:you don't have the aches and pains, HB, MS, millions of toilet stops and sleepless nights to contend with, a baby brings out the good and bad in most people.
My advice make sure you put them to work for you!!!!