DD won't listen.

My 14month old daughter is driving me crazy :wall: she is getting into everything!!!!
today its the cabnet under the fish tank...she opens it gets the fish food out and runs, i take the food off her tell her no and then put it back, she goes back so i tell her no and move her away.she waits till im doing something goes back and get the food out :wall:
OH and the rubbish bin is another favorite. she knows she is doing something wrong because she takes things she knows she shouldnt have and runs under my ds bed...its a cabin bed and she knows i cant reach her under it.

I know no child is the same but omg she is so different to ds he just used to sit and play for hours...not Lucy she is not intrested in toys. I know i could get cupboard locks and draw locks but i just feel she should learn what she can and cant play with. There is nothing she can get into that could hurt her ive put all them things out of reach.
she walks around saying no no no because some days thats all it feels like i say to her :shakehead:
the thing that worries me the most is if i dont get this sorted now whats it going to be like once bub comes??

i know exactly how u feel. DD plays with her toys.. mayb for 10 mins every day? the rest of the day she is running around like shes on speed, opening everything she can find and pulling everything out of the draws. If shes not doing that, shes running around turning everything off at the power points. She has a facination with the fish food too.. i just let her play with it now as it keeps her quiet for a little bit and its doing her no harm. Its tiring and u get sooo sick of saying no, dont and stop (which DD also tells me all day lol) as im typing shes walking around going "dont, dont, dont" lol.

so.. its either a girl thing, or just the age...

Oh I could have written your post word for word!! My little man was never into anything, but little miss my goodness, she is a terror. For peace of mind at 14 months she was the same at 14 months & now at almost 18 months she is finally starting to settle down a bit & listen better.

:hug:

Well I think Emily is getting worse with age LOL. Right now, she's taking everything out of the pantry. If I stop her, then she'll just find another cupboard or something to pull apart :shakehead: She's like a hurricane. She walks through a room and just destroys it in matter of minutes!

It's okay, there is light at the end of the tunnel. They do settle down. My DD was like that too. All the teatowels used to come out and all the pots, pans, plastic bowls etc.. Now she is just over 2yo and she doesn't do it as often.

We had many of the same issues that started at about the same age. I basically removed everything that I knew I didn't want DS getting into, locked a couple of cupboards, put the rubbish bin in the laundry sink, then decided to let him explore as he needed to. I found that mostly he got bored with things after a few weeks, and then it wasn't such a problem. I still said "no" to things, but by removing what was important/dangerous, it just meant that I wasn't saying "no" for the entire day.

I think it's not so much that they don't listen, it's just that as toddlers, they don't have impulse control like adults do, it takes around 3 years and loads of parental patience & consistency for this to develop (according to Pinky if I remember correctly).

I am convinced it's a second child thing. My first DS would happily sit for hours with books, cars or blocks - but DS2 has always been into everything - cupboards, drawers, doors.... And at 3, he is still the same - now it's the computers, phones etc and still doors LOL! And where DS1 is very good at knowing and following rules, DS2 only seems to want to break rules :rolleyes:

I wish I could offer you some advice, but I think sometimes it comes down to personality and there's not a lot you can do about it!

lol sounds like my dd
she will unpack her draws, re make or trash her bed, pull the pantry apart, fget the plastic plate sout sit in the kitchen and have atea party with herself,
she prefers to explore and play than explore her toy box lol

we just moved valuble stuff where she cant reach it lol

i dont mind with pots and pans its exploring and finding her surroundings lol
worst one is the pantry she opens it and eat5s lol she will be really quiet next thing i know she has eaten a cheese and biccies, a packet of chips and now onto a fruit cup lol i dont know how she opens it i struggle lol

Awwww thanks ladies as always it just nice to hear im not alone and that it will get better with time :hug:

Yep, DD was exactly the same. I used to feel very down when a mum at Mothers Group said that she'd only had to tell her daughter "no, don't touch the DVD player" once or twice and she never did it again. I could (and some days did) tell DD the same thing all day and it didn't make the slightest bit of difference. The only thing it did was send me bonkers. Ditto with everything else in the house.

But she IS much better now. I think DD just needs an explanation that she understands. Now I can tell her, "you can have this if you give me back my mobile phone :p" and she does it without a fuss or "yes DD, we can watch Winnie Pooh once you've finished your food."

They do get better, trust me. In the meantime, you just really have to choose your battles. It's hard not to feel like a bad parent or that they're a bad kid when you're in the thick of it but really, they're still only little, there's plenty of time for learning this stuff. Also, as you know all kids are different - some are naturally quite obedient I think and others are very spirited and their curiosity often gets the better of them.

DD1 has her moments like this, I was forver saying no and getting frustrated and so was she. The best thing we did was put locks on everything and put things up. It allowed us to focus on other things, she never used to like her toys but now she loves her toys and only opens things up if she is really bored. I had to stop doing housework and spend time with her, when she got bored we found something else to do.