What attributes about yourself do you need to work on?

So like the title suggests

What attributes about yourself do you need/want to work on .. to improve your emotional wellbeing and to grow as a person.
Also what what are you going to do to improve these qualities within yourself?

Here are a few of mine:

- I want/need to learn forgiveness, i just believe its the key to alot of unhappiness within myself at the moment. ( ive been trying for awhile but im finding it a hard thing to budge)

- I want to be more confident in myself and within my body. (so acceptance)

Ill add a few more later. Please feel free to share yours. ;)

Need to become more assertive to help me at work.

i really need to stop the whinging. it's become a really bad habit of mine, i whinge way too much and i don't believe it actually gets you anywhere.

I want gratitude, patience and empathy to be feelings that come naturally to me. At the moment I have to stop and think and then tell myself to feel that way because I really, honestly want to. But I can't wait till I can feel that way towards someone straight away. I'm not sure if it will ever happen but I hope so.

More i'm sure but i'll add later :)

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I want to be more confident in myself and within my body. (so acceptance)

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:yeahthat: Not only body confidence, but the confidence that I wont always fail.. I take rejection very hard and have quite low self esteem.. When I was younger I never used to try my best because at least if I failed I could just shrug it off with "Oh well I didn't try anyway" Where as trying and failing REALLY knocks me around.. I am very proud that I have completed my 1st ever qualification even if it was just a cert 3 at TAFE..

blessedatlast - I just read a quote -

"I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that don't work."

Which to me means that failing is not always a bad thing, it's not the opposit of succeeding, it's the journey towards success :)

I need to learn how to stop being grumpy. Usually happens when I'm tired and one or two things haven't gone my way (hmm, sounds like a certain 2 yo I know lol), but it's contaigeous - I start huffing & puffing & soon everyone is in a foul mood. I need to learn how to snap out of it. Been trying, with some success, but still got lots to figure out.

I have really been making an effort to stop cutting people off during converstations. I am very opinionated and perhaps it's a result of my profession (works wonders at work) but in my family/friend relationships it isn't cool.

It is a difficult habit to break but I'm aware of it and working on it.

Spring xx

Apathy, laziness, procastination :shakehead: And addictive tendencies that fuel my procrastination further (ciggerette, anyone? :redface:)

CQueen, I meant to post this in your Gratitude rock thread and didn't get around to it (that damn procrastination!). A few years ago, i was suffering from a really bad spate of depression- the worst i've ever had, apart from the PND. I made myself a promise to think every night of three things, little or big, that I was grateful for. It became such a powerful tool for me, and made me much happier with myself and my situation. It's become a part of me now, after doing it for so long- gratitude is an emotion I feel every day, for a lot of things, and it's enriched my life, and bought out other agreeable personality traits as well, like empathy and patience. It can be done. I think, from your posts lately, you're on a very spiritual path of learning and 'mind stretching', so to speak. Run with it :D

My temper. It has been worse than ever this year - I seem to have a lot of anger at the universe inside me, and it doesn't take much to let it out. Complete strangers cop it, often. I have shoved someone, I have hit a car with an object (just for not stopping at a ped crossing) I have kicked cars while out on my bike, I swear frequently. All to people I've never met.

I also hold grudges. A friend once made a comment about the aforementioned behaviours, and I am fighting constantly not to say something nasty back, but I know that eventually I will. I have this intense need to "get back at" people if something happens that hurts me. Doesn't even have to be their fault.

Sigh.

to stop stressing over everything

and to learn to say no, I try and please people all the time and sometimes I do this at my own expense.

* I need to be more accepting of myself and who I am.

* I need to worry less about what other ppl think about how i raise DD, i KNOW i do a wonderful job and thats all that matters.

* I need to be less grumpy towards DD and DP or atleast be grumpy but not just SNAP at random things.

Avasmum- im the same "I need to worry less about what other ppl think about how i raise DD, i KNOW i do a wonderful job and thats all that matters" in general i need to stop worrying !!! lol

LoriRae- thanks beautiful means alot your comment :) !
im with you on the procrastination...l