OMG..really was not expecting this!

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December 4th, 2009, 01:56 PM
mambo

OMG..really was not expecting this!

Hi all....

Im feelin quite shell shocked at the moment after discovering we are expecting bubbi #2!! Have to turn to someone as i know its very early days yet (doc has estimated im only 4.5 weeks) and i know you girls r so supportive. DS will be just shy of his 2nd birthday when #2 is born so im really feeling qite scared at having 2 under 2!! Can anyone let me know of their experiences with such a small age gap? DH is super excited...im the one that does not feel ready or prepared...i feel i should be happy b/c it took us a long time to concieve DS but im feeling very apprehensive atm....no im freaking out tbh!!

any thoughts would be greatly appreciated...
December 4th, 2009, 02:05 PM
minimatron

Hi Jax and welcome to BB. Congratulations on your pregnancy. I have a 19 month age gap between dd1 and dd2. To be honest, it was hard going at the start, however it did get easier and here we are a year on and its great. Yes they fight a bit, but they also love each other to bits and play pretty nicely most of the time.
So are you due in August? Come and join the belly buddies group:P)
December 4th, 2009, 02:17 PM
mambo

Hi Mimatron,

Thanks for yr reply ...helps to know that it does have some positives even though im still freaking out!! The doc i saw today told me she has a 19month gap between her 2 also and she said although it was hard work at the start they are now reaping the benefits as they are very close. Im just worried about how i will cope with a newborn and a toddler!! We werent planning on trying till middleof next year..was hoping for more like a 3 year age gap rather than 2 year!! Am i being a nut? would it be any easier having a 3 year old and a newborn?
December 4th, 2009, 02:19 PM
mambo

Sorry Minimatron...even got yr name wrong!! th pregie brain has started early!
PS: Yes im due August 9th
December 4th, 2009, 02:24 PM
Junglemum

All gaps have their advantages and disadvantages. My 2 are 17 months apart and we're just getting on top of life now (8 months on). My cousin has a 3 year age gap with her 2 littlies and it still struggling.
I don't think there is a magic number, i just think you manage with whatever you get! ;)
December 4th, 2009, 03:00 PM
Miss H

2 yr 7 mnth age gap here and it certainly is not easy for the first year. They are into very different things and a 3 year old needs alot of entertaining - well my one does at least.
December 4th, 2009, 07:17 PM
mambo

Thanks ladies for all yr responses...im starting to feel excited now that the shock is slowly fading...i guess i just planned to be more prepared but i guess you cant plan everything!!
December 4th, 2009, 11:47 PM
Footsteps

congrats on your pregnancy!!! my sister had 10 months between my nephew and niece and she said its great because they are really close. it did take alot for her to get settled but she did brilliantly. if you want any questions answered il ask her to pop in. take care rach xxxxx
December 4th, 2009, 11:57 PM
Traveller

Congratulations on your pregnancy! I have 15 months between my elder two, then a gap of 2.5 years, then two more (47 minutes apart :D). To be honest it is hard work at times but mainly it is brilliant. The kids are good friends with each other, can share toys, enjoy similar outings, etc. You will be fine and your older child will love being an older sibling.

Oh I am a wee bit envious that you are at the beginning of such an exciting journey. Enjoy every minute

T
xx
December 6th, 2009, 07:10 AM
MrsBump

Hi Mambo,
i am in your bb group, and i had the same thoughts when i found out i was preg with DS3.
I have a 2y 4m gap between DS1 & DS2. I thought it was ok.
Then i fell pg with DS3, only 8 months after DS2 was born and i was FREAKING! I thought along the same lines as you, BUT they are getting along alot better than the eldest 2 and they are into the same type of thing, etc. Adjusting with a new child is always hard, no matter how much of a age gap, but you soon get organised and into a routine. I think it took me a few months to get into a routine. But when you have done it its great!!

Enjoy your pregnancy and i am glad i will be sharing the journey with you!
December 6th, 2009, 02:59 PM
mambo

See i just knew you ladies would help me feel better! :D I guess I just felt so much more prepared for my pregnancy with DS b/c we were actlvely trying...then again when you are actively trying it puts more pressure on you..this way it was totally unexpected..this bubba is my lil surprise ;) Thanks again for alyour support...i know DS will love being a big brother!!

PS: Congratulations Scorpiomum on your pregnancy!!
January 13th, 2010, 09:33 PM
kel mum 4

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Hi Jax and welcome to BB. Congratulations on your pregnancy. I have a 19 month age gap between dd1 and dd2. To be honest, it was hard going at the start, however it did get easier and here we are a year on and its great. Yes they fight a bit, but they also love each other to bits and play pretty nicely most of the time.
So are you due in August? Come and join the belly buddies group:P)
January 13th, 2010, 09:36 PM
kel mum 4

new member due for twins 4/8/10

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Hi Jax and welcome to BB. Congratulations on your pregnancy. I have a 19 month age gap between dd1 and dd2. To be honest, it was hard going at the start, however it did get easier and here we are a year on and its great. Yes they fight a bit, but they also love each other to bits and play pretty nicely most of the time.
So are you due in August? Come and join the belly buddies group:P)