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it seriously HURTS!!
**TMI WARNING** but when we're doing the dirty it feels like i am WAY to small or he is WAY too big (LOL) is this normal? i thought u could have sex 6 weeks after?
we actually had to stop coz it was so paibful, luckily DH is very understanding, even though its been months and months..
what do i do? should i go to the drs?
it hurt me for about 12 weeks after so i dont know did u have any stiches?
OUCH! im no expert but that doesnt sound normal. I had a little discomfort but nothing like your discribing i would just get checked to be sure.
yeah, i had a couple of stitches, i even got DH to check that they werent still there (even tho i knew i couldnt feel them) just to be sure thats not what was causing the pain.
i had the same sort of pain when DH leaned on my scar tissue so yeah i'd give it a while before u get too worried
Do you think maybe you were nervous??
Sounds like my first time ><;;
teagz, thats whay DH said, so we tried a little "self stimulation" LOL but that didnt help, i felt so bad :( i might give it a little more time, dd has a drs app next week so i might just ask when im there.
Aw, don't feel bad, your little body has just had a baby and I'm sure your DH understands!:
Although, I know how frsutrating it can be especially when it's been yonks.
For me it wasn't until 5 1/2 months after DD's birth that one side of my hoo haa suddenly improved, a week later the other and dtd stopped feeling like razor blades of agony. I was as shocked as you, expected it to be fine after the 6 weeks. My Dr said it can take some women up to a year, it depends how you heal and your scarring. 7 weeks is early days. Just take it slow, try it once a week until you're comfortable, use lots of lube, be on top so you can control penetration and rest assured it WILL get better!! You can go get checked out for your scar tissue just in case that's an issue or there's an infection if you're worried or it hurts at times other than dtd.
It still feels like razor blades for me :( If you are breastfeeding the hormones can make DTD uncomfortable so tht could also be an issue.
I found it very painful as well, not sure how many stitches I had but I have two tears and an episotomy OUCHIES! Not sure if that compares to you or not.
But all I can recommend is very good silky LUBE LUBE LUBE, and stretch/massage it gently and slowly, take your time, get as relaxed as you can.
You may find that it takes a while before you can "take it all in", but give it some time and it will get better.
My OB also gave me a prescriptions for Oveston (sp), a cream you rub in that area and that made a HUGE difference, maybe speak with your care provider. Your body may also just take a bit longer to heal.
For me a few problems were found at my follow up appointment with my OB, One stitch hadn't dissolved and the skin had grown over it, and that was like razor blades :o, the rest was just the healing taking a bit longer. She had to cut to take out the old stich and unfortuantely I still had low platelets and wouldn't stop bleeding, 15 min later was still running freely so she had to restitch :o
My recovery took a long time, but we have gotten there.
Take care xxoo
You could be tense and have unknowingly tightened up. He might have hit your scar. I found since having DD that there are some positions that we just can't do anymore because it is uncomfortable and a little painful for me...even 21 months later.
Still, I envy anyone who can even attempt to DTD after 6-8 weeks. We couldn't until about 12-14 weeks after I had DD.
It can take a while for DTD to be comfortable again for a few reasons. The most common issue is being very dry, especially if bfing. Lubricant can help with this, but there is also oestrogen treatment which helps a lot, and is a more long term solution. Your GP or ob should be able to prescribe this for you.
As the others have said, this is very, very normal, so don't feel like there is anything wrong with you. It's really one of those things that should be explained to couples by their Health Professional so that they know what to expect.