Father confusion

Please no negative comments, I'm well aware of the situation I'm in. Due to a recent seperation I was seeing someone very briefly before patching up with my long time partner. However, I had intercourse with both men in a very close time frame and am now pregnant.

I slept with the previous partner two days after the end of my period and with my current one the first day of my ovulation. It would make me either 6 weeks or 4 weeks pregnant. My past three pregnancies I've always started feeling sick around the 6 week mark but as such have not had any sickness yet. I'm just curious as to what every one thinks. I honestly believe that my current partner is the father but what are the chances that he's not?

How long are your cycles? When do you ovulate during them? If this was based on my cycle, I would have DTD on day 9 and day 14 (two days after AF finished, and on O day) and thats what I did to fall pregnant with both my last pregnancies, not sure which day made them though!!! So - its definitely possible if you have cycles like mine.

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Hmmm...not sure hun. A difficult situation for you to be in. I think you need to be honest with each of them though and let them also know the situation.
I hope it all works out for you. :hug: x

My advice is to get yourself to the dr, explain your circumstances and ask for a quantitative blood test. At this early stage, they may be able to get a clearer idea of timing based on the level of HcG in your blood. Some early ultrasounds may help as well. But you need to do this as soon as possible because the levels go up so steeply that they stop being informative after a certain point. You may or may not get a clearer idea after this but IMO it's worth a try. This info might put you in a better position to discuss this with either man if you then decide it's what you want to do.

Big hug - there must be a lot of uncertainty and worry for you right now. Try to be gentle with yourself :hug:.

It's not very likely you would be pregnant at the time you were two days from your period. Stranger things have happened but it's very unlikely. Good luck, I hope it all works out for you.

Thankyou for all the quick replies. To answer, my cycle has been 36 days for the last couple of years, pretty much to the day. I guess I will just have to wait and see :) and probably due a paternity test. Thankyou guys.

:hug: what a crappy and stressful situation. I would think conception would most likely have occured at O rather than just after af.

I don't think you are obliged to tell anyone anything! (sorry sunny) Certainly not at this early stage anyway.
I also vote you fell at O time - which would be great ;) - GL with everything xoxo

Knowing how long your cycles are 35 days long and that they've been pretty constant at the for quite some period. That would mean if you had a luteal phase of 14 days (ave) you O'd on day 21. Therefore, I'd have to say that it highly unlikely that you'd have gotten pregnant with DTD just after AF finished, which would have probably been around day 5-9ish. The other spermies would have well and truly died by the time you O'd.

:hugs: I hope it all works out for you.

Anythings possible - but the most likely scenario is that you conceived at ovulation time.
I think Marydeans advice is great - get a quantatative level done & this will tell you an approx length of gestation.

I also think this is your decision to make & who you tell is your decision also.

I wish you all the best my love - you must be feeling up in the air. Big cuddles :hug:

I agree that it's much more likely your current partner's. Advice to get your HCG tested is good & I think an early dating scan will also help. I'd do both of those before thinking about telling anyone anything. You'll have a fairly certain idea who is the father after you've done them, and if those tests confirm that it is your current partner's, then there might not be any need to tell anyone anything. Goodluck & congrats on your pregnancy!

Thank you everyone. I'm amazed at the amount of support here, I was expecting a lot of negativity and instead you've all been terrific. I'll be going back to the doctors this week and asking for the bloods to be done. I have had a gut feeling from the word go that it is my current partners and hopefully it will span out that way. Either way, myself and my daughter are both thrilled at the eventual addition to our family. Thanks again :-)

No advice, just a hug. Don't stress! Even if your babies have different fathers, they have the same mumma! :)

fourthontheway, that's exactly how I've chosen to look at it :) Current partner has been doing his own maths and has realised it may not be his. There was a hint at an abortion and starting over for sure....but after what I went through with a misscarriage last year I could never do that. Just a personal thing. I definitely stoked about being a mum again! :)

No advice from me....
Just wanted to say congratuations and good luck with everything :)

This is a tough situation to be in - you poor thing. I'd be inclined to agree that you're more likely to be pg from your partner, but the test sounds like a good idea. Good luck with your pregnancy :dance: