My sister has moved back home after almost a year now..

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December 10th, 2009, 09:06 AM
Butterfly Child

My sister has moved back home after almost a year now..

It was out of the blue yesterday she rang my dad and asked him to pick her up from school..she hasnt been livving here for almost a year now..
i dont know if im happy shes home or not.. its almost like were like her last resort
she moved out b4 dd was born and moved in with her bf, then a few months later moved in with her friend at school as im guessing her relationship with her bf was on the rocks.. now apparently she's fighting with her friend so thats why sheis moving back home shes still getting all this money from centrelink (living away from home allowance ) when all along shes had a home to come to..everyone seems happy shes home exept me... i asked her about what happened with her bf (shehasnt really told anyone what as happened or why shes moved home, and she just said i dont no and she just burst into tears..i felt terrible but she wont comunicate with any of us we use to be best friends and i miss that so i was just trying u know..:(

Anyhow i dont really know how long she'll be here for.. she moved back for 2 days last time a few months ago, everyone got there hopes up and let her have everything she wanted so she would stay my liitlle 8 yr old sister gave up her bed n room had it all changed around only for her not to stay... im apparently sopose to clear out the spare room today or tomorow with all graces xmas presents and everything(we have all used it as a store room) and clean it all out for her and i really just cant be bothered :shakehead: who knows how long she'll even be staying.

sorry about my rant god dont you just love young teenagers :rolleyes: lol
December 10th, 2009, 09:16 AM
sas85

:hug: My oldest brother took off in the middle of the night when he was 17 leaving a heartbreaking note for my parents to live a life of worrying habits obviously my parents wouldn't tolerate (smoking, drugs etc) 6 months later he showed up at our doorstep - he said he'd never been happy and wanted to come back. We were all happy - my parents bought a caravan for him only to have him take off again without the decency of a conversation. Unfortunately he never came back and whilst his habits have improved somewhat (this is ten years + on after all)- we all still think about the potential for good if he'd come back again and stuck it out.

I guess what I'm saying, is that, it's understandable to be mistrusting or even a bit bitter when someone who has done damage to your family comes back and is seemingly welcomed as if nothing happened - but if your sister stays this time around, (for whatever reason she left - sometimes people need to hit rock bottom before they 'wake up' and realize family is important) well, she will be back in the environment she really needs to be in and really that could only be better for all of you. If she does leave, it's going to hurt your parents as much regardless of whether they're super cautious in case she does leave, or happy and act as if she won't kwim.

Sounds like you and her used to have a close bond and she may open up to you later which may help get that back again. I hope it all works out for you and your family.
December 10th, 2009, 09:19 AM
Miss H

Oh I really hope she decides to open up to you now. It can be so difficult being a teenager and she obviously has alot of issues she needs to resolve. The best people to help her with that is her family. I hope she realises it soon. I must be really difficult for you, I hope things work out.
December 10th, 2009, 07:34 PM
Butterfly Child

Thanks Sas85 and Miss H

Sas85- Thanks so much for your advise hun, Glad to hear things with your brother have settled down and he is in in a better place now , i know how tough it is to see / watch someone you love do something and not being able to stop them :hug:
Things seem alot nicer at home with her i guess its only been two fays but she seems alot happier and herself again, its nice to have her back, but we do need to work on the friendship we had .. i really miss her
December 10th, 2009, 07:42 PM
ladybird11

I think you're just trying to protect your family there hun ;). Your sister has caused your family some grief since moving out hasn't she? And now she's back - for how long I wonder?

Hopefully as time goes on she'll open up to you and you may be able to find out whats been going on with her - and who knows - get her on the straight and narrow path!

Hugs hun!
December 11th, 2009, 07:27 AM
Lulu

She can bloody well clean out that room herself!

GL xoxoxo
December 11th, 2009, 12:56 PM
Rivlas

Sure, welcome her back but don't treat her any differently to others in the family. She is back so she must fit in with the routine and that includes dishes, washing. cleaning etc.
I just hope she realises how good home is and settles down.
All the best. :)
December 11th, 2009, 01:15 PM
Visitor7

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Sure, welcome her back but don't treat her any differently to others in the family. She is back so she must fit in with the routine and that includes dishes, washing. cleaning etc.
I just hope she realises how good home is and settles down.
All the best. :)

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She can bloody well clean out that room herself!

and that too!!

It's great that she's back, but don't treat her like a Queen. If she wants to come back, then she'll have to help out around the house. That includes organising somewhere for her to sleep.

Good luck.