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THE CASE OF MOLLY AND JAY
MOM
DAD
MOLLY AGE 4 1/2
JAY AGE 3 1/2
This session was transcribed word-for-word from a recording of the conversation. Both parents were new to Method III.
The Problem:
Jay wakes up very early in the morning, any time from 5:30 a.m. on. Lately, he has been waking his older sister so that she will play with him until Mother and Dad get up (6:30 a.m.) to make breakfast. Molly gets up to go to the bathroom when Jay gets up, but then she likes to go back to bed and catch some more sleep.
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Dad: Molly, you have a problem. Would you like to tell us what your problem is?
Molly: Do you know why? I don't want Jay to wake me up. Every time I get up in the morning to go potty, Jay says, "Do you want to play in the kitchen with me?" and I say, "No", and he says that again and comes into my room and then he wakes me up and tells me to get up again and then I get up and then I go back to bed.
Dad: You don't want Jay to wake you up early in the morning. You like to stay in bed.
Molly: Yes.
Mom: And, Jay, you like to have somebody to play with. Is that right?
Jay: (Shakes his head in agreement.)
Dad: Well, Jay, how do you think we can solve this problem?
Jay: I don't know.
Molly: I know how. Well, in-the morning, Jay could play in the kitchen by himself and get out a whole bunch of toys, and when you get up, he could pick the toys up.
Mom: You think Jay could play in the kitchen and get out all the toys he wants, but he'd have to put them away.
Molly: Yes.
Mom: How do you feel about that, Jay? And then you could go back to your room and play by yourself until Molly wakes up?
Jay: Okay, okay.
Jay: No, I don't care for that.
Mom: You don't care for that.
Jay: No.
Molly: Well, he could take two toys out, and then when he's through with them he could put them back, or Jay could put one back and I could put the other one back.
Mom: I see. Well, Jay, how about when you get up, you could come into Mommy and Daddy's room and one of us could get you your cereal.
Jay: Okay.
Mom: Do you think you'd really like that? But, then, you couldn't wake up Molly.
Jay: Uh-huh, I won't do that.
Dad: How does this sound to you, Molly?
Molly: Oh, well, that's a good reason, because if he goes back to his room after he eats his cereal, maybe that will work out fine.
Dad: Jay, you think if you get your cereal in the morning, you can play by yourself?
Mom: Is that right, Jay?
Jay: Yeah.
Mom: And if this doesn't work out, we'll just have to talk about it some more, if it doesn't work out, we'll just have to talk about it some more, if it doesn't work out the way we've decided...*
*Excerpt from Dr. Thomas Gordon's P.E.T. Participant Workbook
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