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For the last week or so DD has been talking about death a lot. But she's been saying it in the most morbid way. For instance, when she gets in trouble or doesn't get her own way she says things like 'fine, i will run away and killing everyone' or 'i will walk on the train track and kill myself'. I am completely horrified and upset by it. No one wants to hear that coming out of their child's mouth. Please someone tell me this is just a normal phase they go through and not something more?? :pray:
DD neally 5 has been mentioning dying of late aswell:shakehead:, but more on the lines of her laying down saying she is dead. We havent had any close relatives pass away so not sure where it is coming from maybe daycare. I often just say that I would miss her terribly if she was dead and would be sad for a long long time. She then just tells me that she is just pretending and she gives me a hug:wall:. I would be alittle more worried if E knew the process of how to die at 5 and threatened it to me.
Good Luck hopefully it is a phase
Bec
Antheia, to me it sounds like an attention grabbing thing..... is she bored? stimulated enough during the day? I know it would be hard with the 2 boys there as you have your hands full.... maybe she's saying all these strange things to get your attention? Has she been watching any TV that you aren't aware of? Sorry just trying to help!
Hopefully if it's just a 'phase' it passes.... you are concerned though and if I was you, I would probably talk to a health nurse about it and see what they think.... it would be upsetting hearing your DD say that :hug:
i am yet to have a child of my own of that age but around 4/5 my little brother evrytime something didn't go right or he got in trouble he'd tell mum "Everyone hates me i'll just kill myself" and even "then i'll kill you" so maybe it is a phase??
My little sister used to say it too at age 6 but i think she did that cos a close family friend ended his life so she had heard of it but didn't really understand what it meant...
:comfort: hope it is just a phase and she stops soon it must be horrible hearing those things coming out of your own child's mouth
I had this trouble mid year with W :( . I turned the tables and asked if he knew what it ment to kill himself...he said yes, he'll get a knife and stable his tummy until he cant feel anything anymore :cry: I felt like shiat to say the least.
As upset as I was I explained that I would be very upset and so would his friends if he wasnt here anymore because thats what happen's when you die....you dont see those you love anymore. I also told him that it would hurt and we dont have to talk about killing because it really isnt a very nice thing, its a sad thing. He cried a bit and felt very sad but hasnt mentioned it again since.
:hug: chicky....be brave
Honestly i am surprised at 5 years old she knows what death means. The only person close to us who has died was my mum but Lily was only 18 months old and she doesn't remember her. But she is mature for her age and understands a whole lot that she shouldn't.
She hasn't been watching anything on tv in regards to death etc. So i dunno where she's got it from. But she hasn't mentioned it in the last day or 2 so hopefully she is over it. Fingers crossed!
I haven't experienced this with my LO yet.. he is only 19 months but being a teacher I know alot of stuff that happens in school/class goes home with the kids..
I had the mother of a prep student (so 5 years old) come to me wondering why her son was constantly talking about killing is grandfather. So happens that it was around Easter time and being in a Catholic school, the crucifixition of Jesus was being talked about. He assumed because Jesus was killed and than rose again so would his Grandfather.. was an agonising week spent trying to figure this out and than a whole lot of explaining.. Confusing and confronting stuff for such little ones but what can you do when it's part of the curriculum.. sorry abit of tangent but what I am trying to reiterate is the outside factors that influence what kids say/do.. *crosses fingers too*