Feeling just plain lost - D&C first thing in morning

Complete shock when we lost our little one 4 days ago. No signs or symptoms really, felt really tired & stressed so took day off from work. And here we are......

Now 4 days later after 2 scans & an examination I have been booked in for D&C first thing in the morning. My bleeding stopped completely overnight, but scan this morning revealed that there is still more to be passed so when dr gave me my options I opted for D&C. (read everyone's posts on here on the matter & decided it was best for me.)

I'm totally solid in my decision for D&C, as Ive had bad cramps all day & feel hugely bloated(cant lie on my back without pain), but Ive never even been admitted to hospital before! Let alone had procedure under general anaethestic, so am feeling more & more freaked out by the whole idea.

I'm so sorry lissy. :hug: There are a few posts around on what to expect with a d&c. xo

I am sorry you are going through this - I had a D&C just under a month ago at 12 weeks-ish and the m/c was completely unexpected also.
Personally I found the procedure to be painless and recovered quite quickly as I do not seem to be affected by general anaesthetics much. The biggest shock for me was the depression afterwards - I quickly came to terms with the loss of the baby (in my case it was a blighted ovum) and was actually relatively cheerful the day before but still found myself terribly depressed in the days that followed. I guess it was the hormones playing havoc. This lasted for about a week, off and on. Try to surround yourself with as much support as you can (from partner, girlfriends. etc) as you may feel very fragile afterwards. HTH :hug:

PS: It is a bit TMI I know but be prepared to remove your underwear and any pad you might be wearing just before you go into theatre.

I'm sorry to hear of your loss :hug:

So very sorry for your loss hun. Will be thinking of you.

Regards,
Dianne

Sorry for you loss. :hug:

The main things I remember about my d&c is signing the medical admission and consent form and the question - do you think you may be pregnant. That just devestated me as I was still in a semi-denial state and shocked. I was just going through the motions. I'm not sure if you've already done that yet?

As RoryRory said, the procedure is fairly painless, although if you haven't been in hospital before you may find it all a little daunting - I know I did. They'll first go through your paperwork, check your BP etc and confirm you know what you are there for. I then got a quick chat to the anethetist who checks if you are on any medication, have allergies etc. You may then have to wait until it's your turn. For me, I waited a little while in a waiting room, then went to a pre-admission room where I was given a bed and a nice warm blanket.

As for the pants/pad, I wasn't bleeding but I was provided a pant that was paper like that tied up on the side, so that may be an option. They obviously remove it once you are under.

I do recall feeling really lonely and sad when I was in recovery, until DH came and got me and took me home. In recovery, in my experiences, they will offer food and drink to see that you can handle it as part of the recovery process.

I hope this information helps you to understand the process as it's new to you. Good luck. Take care afterwards with your emotions. Again as RoryRory said, it can hit hard afterwards as your hormones re-balance.

I am really sorry to hear of you loss lissy :hug:. I would agree the procedure itself was not too bad - I felt the same way as you - I knew it was what I wanted etc. I wish you comfort in your recovery and time to grieve the loss of your little one. :comfort:
Rach xx

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss :comfort:

I'm so sorry, I had a d&c 3 weeks ago. They'll let you go home from hosital when you can go to the bathroom and eat something after the procedure. It's the days after that it hits you, remember to be kind to yourself then.

Lissy I am so so very sorry that you are going through this it is just the most heartbreaking thing I can think of. I just had my D&C today after finding out on Thursday that our bubby had no heartbeat. I was also terrified, but completely confident in my decision that I wanted the D&C instead of waiting. I hadn't had a surgery under general before either.

I won't lie to you it is very scary, but the actual procedure isn't too bad. I am 6 hours post op now & I have no pain at all. The worst part for me was that they ask you over & over what procedure you're having & getting all of the details. It was hard for me to have to keep saying the same things over & over. Also when I woke up I was a bit confused, due to the anesthetic I think, but otherwise came out the other end sad but physically ok.

I wish you all the best tomorrow :hug:

I have no advice, but sending many :hug: your way.

Sending your my thoughts and prayers..

Great big hugs to you at this time....youre in my thoughts

Thinking of you :hug:

Lissy, I'm waiting to have a D&C too - I am also feeling at a loss but I have had so many procedures in hospital that I just wanted to reassure you that it will be OK. It can be really scary the first time but I have found most of the staff to be very caring and gentle and I was well looked after. The warm blanket they give you is really comforting. Try not to be worried - I know it is hard but everything will be OK. Let us know how you go.

Alice x

Hi guys

Just a quick post to let you know I made it through ok. Back home by 3pm same day, which is great considering I had the poor luck of getting stuck with a nurse that did nothing but complain! i.e. 'we'll just get the num to do that so that if anything is wrong I can says that it wasnt me that did it' WHAT THE!!!!! where do they get these people??? Having said that everyone else was lovely, Dr Igor (yes that is his name, don't even try to say his last name) was the dr that saw me throughout the miscarriage & also performed D&C, was a lovely. Visited us just before we left to let us know that everything went perfectly & that we can TTC as soon as AF returns if we want to. A little bit of good news finally :crossfingers:

Feeling quite alot better physically, but sad all the same.
DF is trying to help but doesn't understand that putting all the decision making on me ATM isn't helping one bit, just makes me want to shut down & do nothing at all.

:hug: lissy, It will eventually get easier, slowly, slowly. Just take one day at a time. Get plenty of rest and do whatever makes you feel good.
Rach xx